*sigh* Hey guys. How are things?

Going pretty good here -just working on homework. How're you feeling?

I have a tutoring session next Tuesday, so I just have to figure my way through next week's translation/glossing assignment on my own.

Ugh. I'm feeling better physically. We're going to the doctor in a bit. But I'm sinking into a pretty deep depression. I think the only way to get out of it is to break it off with this boy, but I've been avoiding it. He's so dang fragile.

At least you're doing better physically. Awww, sounds like that's going to be hard. :(

It sucks. But the more I try to convince myself that I don't have to break up with him, the worse I'm getting. I'm hiding from him on facebook. Every time he contacts me, I get angry and anxious and temperamental. I'm not wanting to get out of bed and face it. It's not good. But it's going to be very hard to break up with him. It's going to hurt him a lot and I hate doing that.

But yes, yay for physically better!

Glad to hear you've got a tutoring session set up. And hey, you should show significant improvement from your first gloss to your second. :)

Oh, dear! :( Yeah, but is it worth it, hurting yourself to stay with him? How long have you two been together?

Yeah, that's a plus at least! :D

Haha, true! Very good point!! :)

We've been together for three years. He's ready to propose, I'm ready to run free. I just have to work out timing. I really wanted to not ruin a holiday for him, but I just can't make it past Valentine's Day. I'm DREADING V-Day. And half of his apartment is furnished with my things, so I'm hoping he doesn't react rashly. He owes me several thousand dollars, but I'm just going to write that off. But my things, I would like back at some point.

Oh, that sounds like it will be hard to break things off with him. Yeah, I can understand wanting your things. I do wish you luck and hope that it goes ok, all things considering.

i would start asking for my things back.
several thousand dollars is a lot to write off
i hope things go well and nothing bad happens

Yeah, he is not going to take it well at all.
Thanks hon. I really appreciate the support. I am so stressed out about this, but I need to just bite the bullet and get it done.

So how are you doing this afternoon?

Originally Posted by nemo.love_22

Going pretty good here -just working on homework. How're you feeling?

I have a tutoring session next Tuesday, so I just have to figure my way through next week's translation/glossing assignment on my own.

i was wondering if you could ask your tutor to give you an brief email tutor on glossing
i meant to say something the other night and then i fell asleep and forgot about it until now

Originally Posted by hummy

i would start asking for my things back.
several thousand dollars is a lot to write off
i hope things go well and nothing bad happens

It is, but he will never be able to pay me back. He doesn't even work full time. He barely affords his own bills. There is just no way it's coming back to me. But yeah, I will be asking for my things back. But I can't really do that without telling him I'm breaking up with him, so I'm probably just going to have to risk it.

Eatin' koala cookies~ ~(•ε • ~)

Sometimes just putting it off, just makes it worse, for you and all that.
Could you start taking your things back, pieces at a time? Or is that too hard?
Just sounds like an awkward and hard situation over all. :(

I'm doing pretty good, just trying to get an assignment done, but my roommate is back and playing with her dog... yay... distractions. :/ LOL. I don't mind it normally but when I'm trying to focus on homework, it's distracting. I may need to find somewhere else to be while I get this done -maybe back out on the patio.

Originally Posted by steelmagghia

It is, but he will never be able to pay me back. He doesn't even work full time. He barely affords his own bills. There is just no way it's coming back to me. But yeah, I will be asking for my things back. But I can't really do that without telling him I'm breaking up with him, so I'm probably just going to have to risk it.

if you have something you really love
i would say 'hey i was wondering if i could get my 'this' back'
it might make the actual break-ukp not so painful if he is knowing it's coming
i do wish you luck and kudos for knowing you have to do this and having the courage to do it

Originally Posted by hummy

i was wondering if you could ask your tutor to give you an brief email tutor on glossing
i meant to say something the other night and then i fell asleep and forgot about it until now

I might be able to - but reading things kind of confuses me, and maybe it's having it explained in person, that I need. I've tried reading documents on it from my teacher, and it just confused me. But that would be something I could try if I do get lost. :)

Originally Posted by Amane

Eatin' koala cookies~ ~(•ε • ~)

yay for cute snacks
~(•ε • ~

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Originally Posted by nemo.love_22

I might be able to - but reading things kind of confuses me, and maybe it's having it explained in person, that I need. I've tried reading documents on it from my teacher, and it just confused me. But that would be something I could try if I do get lost. :)

yeah, maybe your tutor could even call
any kind of help would, well help

A friend told me there are panda cookies of the same brand! *found these cookies randomly at Meijer*

Originally Posted by nemo.love_22

Sometimes just putting it off, just makes it worse, for you and all that.
Could you start taking your things back, pieces at a time? Or is that too hard?
Just sounds like an awkward and hard situation over all. :(

I'm doing pretty good, just trying to get an assignment done, but my roommate is back and playing with her dog... yay... distractions. :/ LOL. I don't mind it normally but when I'm trying to focus on homework, it's distracting. I may need to find somewhere else to be while I get this done -maybe back out on the patio.

Yeah, putting it off is going to give me an ulcer I swear.

Originally Posted by hummy

if you have something you really love
i would say 'hey i was wondering if i could get my 'this' back'
it might make the actual break-ukp not so painful if he is knowing it's coming
i do wish you luck and kudos for knowing you have to do this and having the courage to do it

The problem is is that the reason he has my things is because I wasn't using them and he needed them. It's all stuff I had for my apartment in vet school. I live with my parents now, so they've all been in storage. So it'd be like "heeey, can I have my dishes back that you need and that I'm clearly not going to use?"
He has my silverware, pots and pans, dishes, tupperware, futon mattress, camera, tools, and a few of my costume items. The costume items and the camera are really the only non-suspicious things I could ask for back.

Originally Posted by hummy

yay for cute snacks
~(•ε • ~

---------- Post added 02-05-2014 at 09:37 PM ----------

yeah, maybe your tutor could even call
any kind of help would, well help

Oh, that is a possibility. If I need help I can email her and see if there is anything she can try to do to help before my session with her on Tuesday. I'm jut wondering if I have enough assignments to fill up an hour with her. We'll see how this goes. :)

---------- Post added 02-05-2014 at 01:43 PM ----------

Originally Posted by steelmagghia

Yeah, putting it off is going to give me an ulcer I swear.


The problem is is that the reason he has my things is because I wasn't using them and he needed them. It's all stuff I had for my apartment in vet school. I live with my parents now, so they've all been in storage. So it'd be like "heeey, can I have my dishes back that you need and that I'm clearly not going to use?"
He has my silverware, pots and pans, dishes, tupperware, futon mattress, camera, tools, and a few of my costume items. The costume items and the camera are really the only non-suspicious things I could ask for back.

Awww! :(

And oh, dear! That does seem like it would be hard to ask for your things back. Especially if he's using them.

Originally Posted by steelmagghia

Yeah, putting it off is going to give me an ulcer I swear.


The problem is is that the reason he has my things is because I wasn't using them and he needed them. It's all stuff I had for my apartment in vet school. I live with my parents now, so they've all been in storage. So it'd be like "heeey, can I have my dishes back that you need and that I'm clearly not going to use?"
He has my silverware, pots and pans, dishes, tupperware, futon mattress, camera, tools, and a few of my costume items. The costume items and the camera are really the only non-suspicious things I could ask for back.

i am attached to my tupperware
i really only lend it to people i know will return it
so i would be asking/taking that back
maybe visit with a big purse?

i'm trying to lighten up this situation
i know this is hard on you
and i think that is what i really like about you
even though you have depression,
you still think of others first
i kind of think starting to do this before vday is a good thing
i think breaking up i s preferable to saying 'NO' for his psychie

Awww, hummy. You are the sweetest, thank you. *hugs*
You and nemo really are making this better for me. It helps a lot to be able to talk about it. I've just been worrying myself silly over it. I mean, I wouldn't have dated him for three years if I didn't love him. I don't want to hurt him, I just know that I can't stay in the relationship any longer for my health. I think I'll need to make a list of things I absolutely want back, and ask for them right away. I can get new tupperware, but the pots and pans were my mom's first, so I want them. Silverware and dishes I can get more of, but my tools, camera, and costume stuff I want to keep. The futon mattress I'm fond of, but it's also probably got a lot of smells on it I don't like now. I think he has some of my cleaning items as well, and one of my books. I want the book back.
I wish I didn't work tomorrow. He has tomorrow off, so he could have a day to recover. And I should probably do it in person and not over the phone.

I'm glad that it's helping. I'm sure having a list of what you want back would help, and then just sit down and try to find the best way to bring it up. It'll be hard, but for your health, you need to do it. We don't need you hurting yourself because you're stressing yourself out.

I so over think things all the time. And that just makes things go in circles. And those circles just make thing worse, at least for me.

I'm going to head out for a bit, and go and get some food. I will be back later. My inbox is always open if you need someone to talk to.

Originally Posted by steelmagghia

Awww, hummy. You are the sweetest, thank you. *hugs*
You and nemo really are making this better for me. It helps a lot to be able to talk about it. I've just been worrying myself silly over it. I mean, I wouldn't have dated him for three years if I didn't love him. I don't want to hurt him, I just know that I can't stay in the relationship any longer for my health. I think I'll need to make a list of things I absolutely want back, and ask for them right away. I can get new tupperware, but the pots and pans were my mom's first, so I want them. Silverware and dishes I can get more of, but my tools, camera, and costume stuff I want to keep. The futon mattress I'm fond of, but it's also probably got a lot of smells on it I don't like now. I think he has some of my cleaning items as well, and one of my books. I want the book back.
I wish I didn't work tomorrow. He has tomorrow off, so he could have a day to recover. And I should probably do it in person and not over the phone.

yeah i think in person is the right way to go
unless you are afraid of harm
a list of things would be good because in the heat of the moment you might forget something important
i would want my mom's pots and pans back, too
i hope everything goes well for you and him
three years is a long time so i know you care

Haha, indeed. It's always much easier to break up with someone when they've actually done something wrong, you know? Much harder when the reason is basically "I don't want to be in this relationship anymore". Because I'm not mad at him, so I don't want to hurt him. But I can't just keep being miserable and hiding from him. It's affecting EVERYTHING.

Anyway, I think I'm bringing the whole thread down, heh. Let's talk about something happier.