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12-03-2015, 02:12 AM
So dark out, I feel like going to bed. And its not even 7 p.m. lunch at hofbrau with Mr go very nice. It was warm and fragrant. Totally bedecked in Xmas lights and decorations. I had half pastrami and bean soup. Caved in and got Apple pie cause it looked good. Was too. Mr go regaled me with tales of life. He was telling me about elephant rides he took. One the elephant was swimming across lake. Their reward was digging for food in lake. I would not like to ride a 10 ton elephant in a lake. I can just see the beast slipping on something and rolling on top of me. I almost drowned in swimming pool at 8. I try to keep a wide berth from large bodies of water. So on another elephant ride the beast located some bamboo. Pulled it out in one motion and stuck in his mouth.
We were in a booth and I was against the wall. I hate scooting rump inch by rump inch out. So I turned sideways and stuck out my feet. Mr go grasped situation and pulled me out by my feet. ...what a rush!
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12-03-2015, 02:47 AM
Sounds like a pleasant dinner. U sound like your very happy these days. I'm glad.
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12-03-2015, 03:16 AM
Hi cap! Yes, I'm pretty content these days. My worst times were in high school. Everythings pink gravy compared to that!
Congrats Mr w on your style win:)
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12-03-2015, 06:45 AM
Thank you, Dazz. I won it for The Gipper.
Tonight I ate at the Black Bear Diner in Willows, California. I had the bear burger and chocolate ice cream for dessert. So I, too, am content.
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12-03-2015, 08:24 AM
Hey, Dazzy!
It starts getting dark, around my house, at 4:30pm, these days!
It has been frigid!....it finally made it to a high of 40 degrees!
I read that Cali is in for a chill, soon! ...you might invest in an electric blanket!
Our house is drafty....& with the BF working 6 days a week, its hard to get him to help me winterize the place....some caulking here, some insulation there....fix the gap at the bottom of the door....
Hope has a cold, so I have been making the furnace work overtime to keep the place warm....since I can't keep socks on the kid!
Hey, Mr. Wrong! ....Thanks, again, for the awesome gift!
Some day I could hope to be so kind to you!
And congratulations, AGAIN, on winning the Admin's Pick!
You seem to have the flair that fits the fancy of the Pic Choosers! Lol!
Capt, I am so happy that Sandy found a Forever Home!
I bet you are gonna miss her...can you visit her in her new home?
Sure is a nice looking dog!
Well...as I mentioned, Hope has a cold.
She has gotten past the bubbly-nose phase and seems to have moved on to the dry-cough phase.
Amidst the snot-wiping, we have been potty training....
She has only had accidents while she has been asleep!....for 3 days!
She will suddenly stop whatever she is doing and yell "I gotta run! I gotta pee!"...& off she goes, to the bathroom....pulls her pants down and pees in the potty!
For some reason, she doesn't want to poop in the potty...but I'm sure it will come, in time.
Hey....I heard about the mass shooting in San Bernardino...
That is a sad event!
It was just 5 days earlier that a guy shot up a Planned Parenthood in Colorado Springs, killing a cop and a few others....
That guy voluntarily surrendered....which is not how these events usually go!
I'm wondering what is making folks go ballistic like this!
Some folks are getting scared to go out to holiday-shop....seems that one is most vulnerable in a crowd!
Tis a sad state of affairs to be sure!
Well...I guess I should get some chores done before I go to bed...
I hope the downhill side of the week is good to everybody!   &  !
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12-04-2015, 06:01 PM
I followed the mass murders in San Bernardino closely the day it happened on the radio. With most of the story having unfolded and played out late that night, it was learned that Farook and his wife had an IED factory set up at their house. This tells me that these two were obviously planning one or more future attacks.
I also believe that what happened at the disability center was an impromptu attack based on Farook becoming angry from a dispute arising there. After the chase where Farook and his wife were killed, police found a toy remote car rigged with explosives. If this isn't a tool for assassination I don't know what is.
All of this indicates to me that Farook and company were planning multiple attacks over a period of time. The news media stated that Farook was not on any intelligence agency radar, but should have been since he was from Pakistan and had traveled to Saudi Arabia.
Another sad fact in all of this is that a neighbor noticed suspicious activity at the Farook home, but never made mention of this to authorities because she didn't want to risk being labeled a bigot since the people she thought were engaging in suspicious activity were of middle eastern descent.
Can you smell the hypocrisy of the left? The left claims to dislike and discourage people from being labeled this, that, and the other thing that someone has become fearful of being labeled a bigot and innocent lives were lost because of this fact. They will deny it all day long, but the evidence remains.
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12-05-2015, 06:16 PM
Hey, folks....do you know who Scott Weiland was? (I prolly spelled his name wrong!)
He was the singer for the band Stone Temple Pilots.
Well...he was found dead on the tour bus...
Died in his sleep...
That poor guy was in and out of rehab so many times!
I haven't heard if this was a drug overdose or not....but either way, he's dead.
His battle has ended.
RIP Scott!
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12-05-2015, 08:27 PM
@Everyone
Hey everybody how's it going ?
I'm farely new in this site and i started a few THREADS of my own (posted in my signature)
People so far are extremely friendly and participate a lot in hangouts threads, so i f anyone wants to chit chat, I'm online at the moment !
I have no problem to introduce myself if you have any questions you wanna know about me.
I'm very open,friendly and active on this site ! (: Don't worry about my username lol.
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12-06-2015, 02:25 AM
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Originally Posted by Inzanebraned
Hey, folks....do you know who Scott Weiland was? (I prolly spelled his name wrong!)
He was the singer for the band Stone Temple Pilots.
Well...he was found dead on the tour bus...
Died in his sleep...
That poor guy was in and out of rehab so many times!
I haven't heard if this was a drug overdose or not....but either way, he's dead.
His battle has ended.
RIP Scott!
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Never heard of him, but god have mercy on his soul.
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12-06-2015, 07:18 AM
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Originally Posted by Inzanebraned
Hey, folks....do you know who Scott Weiland was? (I prolly spelled his name wrong!)
He was the singer for the band Stone Temple Pilots.
Well...he was found dead on the tour bus...
Died in his sleep...
That poor guy was in and out of rehab so many times!
I haven't heard if this was a drug overdose or not....but either way, he's dead.
His battle has ended.
RIP Scott!
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That's too bad. I liked his song, Lady, your roof brings me down.
You did spell his name correctly, but you completely butchered 'probably'.
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12-06-2015, 10:25 PM
How's about the cow singing jingle bells on u tube? Mooooooooooo
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12-07-2015, 10:27 AM
Hey, folks...
I hope you all will forgive me, but I really need to vent!
Today, Sunday, was Hope's birthday...
She had gone with her parents, on Saturday, to spend the weekend...like usual...
They were planning a little party for her third birthday, so the BF, Sarah and I drove to their house for the festivities.
Things were going cattywhompis on me before we left...including Sarah pooping her pants AFTER we got her into the car....making us more than fashionably late.
When we got there, Hope's other grandma was getting ready to leave....she was sick...(a fine excuse to use to avoid spending more face time with me than necessary, I think).
Before she left, she chatted with me for a moment...
I mentioned how well potty training had been going...
She pipes up with "And I think it's great that she can stay here now! I'm so happy! Isn't it great?"
I was confused...for no one had mentioned these plans to me!
A while later, I asked Hope's mom if we would be taking Hope home...
Her response was "...Hope is gonna stay a while. Maybe here all week and maybe the weekends with you."
I was in shock!
I'm still in shock!
They made this decision without even WARNING me or giving me any time to adjust to the idea!!
I just dumbly stood there and said " Oh! ....okay..."
Folks came to disrupt this conversation and it never really got mentioned again....to me, anyway...
I talked to Hope to make sure she understood that she would not be returning to my house for a while...
I let her know that I will miss her (OH, how I miss her!)...and that I love her very much and that she can come to my house any time she wants to.
It was all good....me holding back tears on a few occasions...feeling slightly betrayed and my feeling bruised...but keeping the stiff upper lip for Hope's benefit...
Then came time for me to go home....
Hope kept telling me "You wanna stay a little bit! You wanna take a nap with me! You wanna stay here!"....and the flood of tears came from the birthday girl's eyes....and I nearly broke down and joined her!
Her daddy isn't the most sensitive guy and kinda acted like she should just say "Bye, Gramma...See ya whenever!"
I soothed her and calmed her and we compromised and I agreed to carry her to bed...
It was a long process, but I finally convinced her to join her parents, on the couch, to watch her favorite animated series, Peppa Pig...
She wanted ME to warm her milk before I left...and she was resting comfortably and cozy...and calm...when I finally got out the door and into the car where the BF and Sarah had been patiently waiting.
Now I am home...and I am so torn by emotions!
The house is too quiet...and I wanna cry!
I feel that my daughter neglected to take either my or Hope's feelings into account by not giving us some time to talk about this transition and prepare for it!
My feelings are hurt because HIS mother knew ALL ABOUT THE PLAN, but I did NOT!
I'm offended and feel like they went behind my back and purposely kept me "out of the loop!"
I fear for Hope's emotional well being, as Facebook and other sites and games often take up her parents' attention, where she is accustomed to me paying mostly all my undivided free time watching her and interacting with her and....always being "available."
I fear that once she realizes when they aren't really noticing her....well, anything from doing things she isn't supposed to, to acting out in ways to get attention....and we all know that, to a child, even NEGATIVE attention is better than NO attention...
I fear they will ruin and take for granted this perfect little being that has developed so well under my constant doting care!
It is not that I think that she shouldn't be with her parents!
But they aren't actually even on their feet, yet!
They haven't even lived a month outside of my oldest daughter's house...they haven't had time to just learn to live alone, together...and Turtles was laid off from her job...and money is already tight...
The stress of all those things will have their effects on the adults, and Hope will sense it...
I don't see why they feel the need to rush into getting her moved in with them when they haven't even had to pay bills yet....when she has a secure and stable place with me.
I'm pretty sure that the paternal grandma has some influence on the matter.
"She should be with her parents!"
And I say they should wait till they can BE parents!!
.....But it is not my decision to make...
I have no right to keep their child from them....nor do I WANT to!
I just want what is truly going to be best for Hope...
And I think I have lived a little longer than her parents and other grandma to be able to "see" what is "best"....and suddenly removing the one person who has been there for 90% of her life....the one person she can ALWAYS trust to NOTICE her...in this sudden fashion is NOT the "best!"
So...my night will be fitful....
Every place my eyes fall there are Hope-toys....Toys that will no longer make constant noise throughout my days...
And I wanna cry!
....But I'm a big girl!...I can learn to callous-over the hurt feelings, I can learn to stay busy so I don't constantly miss her...but I suspect that I will probably just do a lot of sleeping...
I don't think while I'm sleeping....and I really just don't want to THINK for a while....
But, first...I must text my daughter during the day, Monday...and tell her how I feel...
I need them to know that they hurt my feelings by not discussing their decision with me prior to her BIRTHDAY!!....prior to me stocking up on items for Hope....prior to me assuming she was coming home with me!
I need them to know that I feel a bit like a doormat right now.
This sucks!
The one person, in the world, who could always make me smile when the world seemed bleak...is not here!
*heavy, sad sigh*
OH WELL! Life goes on, till ya die, right?
If life were always wine and roses, we would never learn to appreciate anything...
So....sorry to bend your eyes for such a long, pity post....
I just really needed to get some of that out of my system...off my chest...
I feel better not keeping it all bottled up and hidden from view...
But, anyway...Hope's birthday was good...her mom decorated her cake by hand-drawing Peppa Pig "jumping in muddy puddles" on it...and she did an amazing job!
Hope got a felt play board, a large stuffed Peppa Pig, a Peppa Pig blanket, a soft dolly, a magnetic maze and I got her a full princess pay outfit, complete with 2 tiaras and play shoes! ....and she got a doctor kit.
Now she can be a princess doctor, just like she pretends sometimes! Lol!
She also got a play doh princess dress maker....tons of fun!!! (She loves play doh!)
She was worn out from the busy day...making those tears even easier to fall...
I'm sure tomorrow will be all happiness and joy...after a good night's sleep...for her!
I certainly hope so!
I tell Hope often that I am happiest when she is happy.
I hope, with all my heart, that she is happy!
Thanks for reading this, guys!
Sorry I used up so much space in your hangout, Dazzy....but, somehow, I think you understand...
I'll talk to you all again, soon...Hope won't be here to hog the iPad! Lol!
I hope everybody had a nice weekend!  !
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12-08-2015, 01:15 AM
Hi ya'll! Its pitch black here. Bleh. Mr x put tree up. Now it's my chore to decorate it. December's always a busy month. Bro wanted to meet, but maybe next month. Crawled up in closet for gift bags. Have to give salon lady something. Preacher guy got fired today. He was trying to work 16 hrs and was constantly late. He called Mr x to commiserate. But not to worry. They already hired another guy. Lets call him pretty boy. Cause he's been a model. He also seems to come from wealthy rents, but wants to work. So be it.
Hi izzy! That was really thoughtless how they handled the situation. I would feel just like you do. I don't understand turtles personality change. Sounds like the bf, is he her hubby, had bad influence on her. And yet...it could be a Trojan horse. You've poured your heart and soul into her. You've set her on the right track. Maybe hope can bring some common sense to them. I'm sure she's going to miss you, too. Will you be able to call her? And izzy, love is forever. Its a gift. I still remember my grandma with much love.
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12-08-2015, 04:00 AM
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Originally Posted by Inzanebraned
Hey, folks...
I hope you all will forgive me, but I really need to vent!
Today, Sunday, was Hope's birthday...
She had gone with her parents, on Saturday, to spend the weekend...like usual...
They were planning a little party for her third birthday, so the BF, Sarah and I drove to their house for the festivities.
Things were going cattywhompis on me before we left...including Sarah pooping her pants AFTER we got her into the car....making us more than fashionably late.
When we got there, Hope's other grandma was getting ready to leave....she was sick...(a fine excuse to use to avoid spending more face time with me than necessary, I think).
Before she left, she chatted with me for a moment...
I mentioned how well potty training had been going...
She pipes up with "And I think it's great that she can stay here now! I'm so happy! Isn't it great?"
I was confused...for no one had mentioned these plans to me!
A while later, I asked Hope's mom if we would be taking Hope home...
Her response was "...Hope is gonna stay a while. Maybe here all week and maybe the weekends with you."
I was in shock!
I'm still in shock!
They made this decision without even WARNING me or giving me any time to adjust to the idea!!
I just dumbly stood there and said " Oh! ....okay..."
Folks came to disrupt this conversation and it never really got mentioned again....to me, anyway...
I talked to Hope to make sure she understood that she would not be returning to my house for a while...
I let her know that I will miss her (OH, how I miss her!)...and that I love her very much and that she can come to my house any time she wants to.
It was all good....me holding back tears on a few occasions...feeling slightly betrayed and my feeling bruised...but keeping the stiff upper lip for Hope's benefit...
Then came time for me to go home....
Hope kept telling me "You wanna stay a little bit! You wanna take a nap with me! You wanna stay here!"....and the flood of tears came from the birthday girl's eyes....and I nearly broke down and joined her!
Her daddy isn't the most sensitive guy and kinda acted like she should just say "Bye, Gramma...See ya whenever!"
I soothed her and calmed her and we compromised and I agreed to carry her to bed...
It was a long process, but I finally convinced her to join her parents, on the couch, to watch her favorite animated series, Peppa Pig...
She wanted ME to warm her milk before I left...and she was resting comfortably and cozy...and calm...when I finally got out the door and into the car where the BF and Sarah had been patiently waiting.
Now I am home...and I am so torn by emotions!
The house is too quiet...and I wanna cry!
I feel that my daughter neglected to take either my or Hope's feelings into account by not giving us some time to talk about this transition and prepare for it!
My feelings are hurt because HIS mother knew ALL ABOUT THE PLAN, but I did NOT!
I'm offended and feel like they went behind my back and purposely kept me "out of the loop!"
I fear for Hope's emotional well being, as Facebook and other sites and games often take up her parents' attention, where she is accustomed to me paying mostly all my undivided free time watching her and interacting with her and....always being "available."
I fear that once she realizes when they aren't really noticing her....well, anything from doing things she isn't supposed to, to acting out in ways to get attention....and we all know that, to a child, even NEGATIVE attention is better than NO attention...
I fear they will ruin and take for granted this perfect little being that has developed so well under my constant doting care!
It is not that I think that she shouldn't be with her parents!
But they aren't actually even on their feet, yet!
They haven't even lived a month outside of my oldest daughter's house...they haven't had time to just learn to live alone, together...and Turtles was laid off from her job...and money is already tight...
The stress of all those things will have their effects on the adults, and Hope will sense it...
I don't see why they feel the need to rush into getting her moved in with them when they haven't even had to pay bills yet....when she has a secure and stable place with me.
I'm pretty sure that the paternal grandma has some influence on the matter.
"She should be with her parents!"
And I say they should wait till they can BE parents!!
.....But it is not my decision to make...
I have no right to keep their child from them....nor do I WANT to!
I just want what is truly going to be best for Hope...
And I think I have lived a little longer than her parents and other grandma to be able to "see" what is "best"....and suddenly removing the one person who has been there for 90% of her life....the one person she can ALWAYS trust to NOTICE her...in this sudden fashion is NOT the "best!"
So...my night will be fitful....
Every place my eyes fall there are Hope-toys....Toys that will no longer make constant noise throughout my days...
And I wanna cry!
....But I'm a big girl!...I can learn to callous-over the hurt feelings, I can learn to stay busy so I don't constantly miss her...but I suspect that I will probably just do a lot of sleeping...
I don't think while I'm sleeping....and I really just don't want to THINK for a while....
But, first...I must text my daughter during the day, Monday...and tell her how I feel...
I need them to know that they hurt my feelings by not discussing their decision with me prior to her BIRTHDAY!!....prior to me stocking up on items for Hope....prior to me assuming she was coming home with me!
I need them to know that I feel a bit like a doormat right now.
This sucks!
The one person, in the world, who could always make me smile when the world seemed bleak...is not here!
*heavy, sad sigh*
OH WELL! Life goes on, till ya die, right?
If life were always wine and roses, we would never learn to appreciate anything...
So....sorry to bend your eyes for such a long, pity post....
I just really needed to get some of that out of my system...off my chest...
I feel better not keeping it all bottled up and hidden from view...
But, anyway...Hope's birthday was good...her mom decorated her cake by hand-drawing Peppa Pig "jumping in muddy puddles" on it...and she did an amazing job!
Hope got a felt play board, a large stuffed Peppa Pig, a Peppa Pig blanket, a soft dolly, a magnetic maze and I got her a full princess pay outfit, complete with 2 tiaras and play shoes! ....and she got a doctor kit.
Now she can be a princess doctor, just like she pretends sometimes! Lol!
She also got a play doh princess dress maker....tons of fun!!! (She loves play doh!)
She was worn out from the busy day...making those tears even easier to fall...
I'm sure tomorrow will be all happiness and joy...after a good night's sleep...for her!
I certainly hope so!
I tell Hope often that I am happiest when she is happy.
I hope, with all my heart, that she is happy!
Thanks for reading this, guys!
Sorry I used up so much space in your hangout, Dazzy....but, somehow, I think you understand...
I'll talk to you all again, soon...Hope won't be here to hog the iPad! Lol!
I hope everybody had a nice weekend!  !
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I'm so sorry Izzy. Really, really! Sorry.
It was a dirty trick.
I hope they do let u have her on weekends.
I have grand kids too. Them and their ma lived with me& boo a couple of times.
When they moved it was both a relief and a great ache.
God bless and keep u sweetie.
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12-08-2015, 09:42 AM
well, thanks for the support, Friends!
It means a lot to me!
So...I texted Turtles, to express my hurt feelings....
She was apologetic...saying that she was sorry that it had gone down the way it had.
She expressed that she really didn't know how many days Hope would stay with them, that it is obvious that Hope would rather be with me, and that they really just wanted to take advantage of her unemployed atatus to have Hope with them more....and that they hadn't meant to hurt any feelings.
I told her that I hadn't thought that they MEANT to hurt any feelings...but that they hadn't THOUGHT about anyone else's feelings, that I thought it is great for Hope to spend more time with them and that I wasn't upset about them keeping Hope, but that they hadn't informed me of their plan....and that I hoped that Hope was having tons of fun, cuz all I really care about is Hope's happiness.
Then I asked for the dimensions for Hope's bedroom windows at their house...cuz I have some neat, old material that might make cute curtains....to change the subject, mainly.
A couple hours later, I get a text from Turtles, asking if it would be okay if they brought Hope back tomorrow....
I didn't ask "why," but told her of COURSE it was okay!...but that I had heard that the weather was going to be warm in the city for the next few days and that it would be great if Hope got some outside time while she is with them, cuz she doesn't get much outside time when she is with me....it's just too cold for me to hang out outside...and we have no fenced yard to just send her out to play, like they do...
She said that she would try to take her to a park if it wasn't too muddy from the melting snow...and that she would let me know when to expect them...and whether or not Hope's dad would be coming or not.
Hmmmm....
I wonder what's the story!
I was suggesting that she might stay while the weather would be nice...
But, instead of her staying the whole workweek...5 days,...they are choosing to return her after only 1 day!
I can hardly think that it's because of my feelings being hurt!
I suspect that either Hope is acting out because she misses me....or that Turtles is being overwhelmed by full-time parenting while her man is at work....or, possibly, that Hope's daddy isn't getting enough sleep at night from Hope waking, crying, wanting someone to be in the bed with her....she sleeps alone in a double sized bed, in her own room, when she stays with them.
I'm not sure about their reason...
I just know that Hope is gonna get some extra hugs and kisses from this grandma when she gets here!
I had thought that the house was going to be quiet and empty for at least 5 days!
I guess I got all upset about nothing! ....kinda!
I mean...it still isn't right for them to make decisions about Hope without informing me...
Maybe they will be more sensitive about that after now...we will see.
I find that the paternal grandma has a lot of influence on their decisions....cuz she wants the family to look like a family should look like....mom and dad and kid all shoul be together....even if it isn't the healthiest situation for anybody involved! ...she just wants her son to be a dad to his daughter...even if he really isn't ready to be the BEST dad quite yet....
And he tries to please his mom...even if they DO have a love/hate relationship most of the time! ...and his self confidence is kinda low, so pleasing mom is a subliminal priority....when, in fact, all his priorities should be directly related to Hope's well being....no matter WHAT his mom thinks!
(She left him with his grandmother and left the state when he was 3 years old....so I hardly think she has much valuable advice to offer him about how he should be raising his kid!)
Hahaha....and I recently was informed that the family Christmas celebration will be held at paternal grandma's big, giant house, again, this year! (She lives all alone in a house that is so big that you could fit 4 of our houses in the same space....yet Hope and her parents only spent a few weekends at her house in the past 3 years!)
I am kinda hoping for a blizzard to arrive just in time to give me excuse to not attend! ....provided Hope isn't stuck on the mountain with me and missing out!
I will be keeping a close eye on the weather as the holiday approaches....to make sure that Hope spends Christmas Day with her mom and dad.
Now, I am up late...cleaning a house I thought I had 5 days to get clean...
I guess I better get back to it so I can still catch a few Z's before my Tuesday begins!
I hope everyone's week is going well!
...and Thanks, again, for being my friends!! <3!
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12-08-2015, 02:15 PM
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well, thanks for the support, Friends!
It means a lot to me!
So...I texted Turtles, to express my hurt feelings....
She was apologetic...saying that she was sorry that it had gone down the way it had.
She expressed that she really didn't know how many days Hope would stay with them, that it is obvious that Hope would rather be with me, and that they really just wanted to take advantage of her unemployed atatus to have Hope with them more....and that they hadn't meant to hurt any feelings.
I told her that I hadn't thought that they MEANT to hurt any feelings...but that they hadn't THOUGHT about anyone else's feelings, that I thought it is great for Hope to spend more time with them and that I wasn't upset about them keeping Hope, but that they hadn't informed me of their plan....and that I hoped that Hope was having tons of fun, cuz all I really care about is Hope's happiness.
Then I asked for the dimensions for Hope's bedroom windows at their house...cuz I have some neat, old material that might make cute curtains....to change the subject, mainly.
A couple hours later, I get a text from Turtles, asking if it would be okay if they brought Hope back tomorrow....
I didn't ask "why," but told her of COURSE it was okay!...but that I had heard that the weather was going to be warm in the city for the next few days and that it would be great if Hope got some outside time while she is with them, cuz she doesn't get much outside time when she is with me....it's just too cold for me to hang out outside...and we have no fenced yard to just send her out to play, like they do...
She said that she would try to take her to a park if it wasn't too muddy from the melting snow...and that she would let me know when to expect them...and whether or not Hope's dad would be coming or not.
Hmmmm....
I wonder what's the story!
I was suggesting that she might stay while the weather would be nice...
But, instead of her staying the whole workweek...5 days,...they are choosing to return her after only 1 day!
I can hardly think that it's because of my feelings being hurt!
I suspect that either Hope is acting out because she misses me....or that Turtles is being overwhelmed by full-time parenting while her man is at work....or, possibly, that Hope's daddy isn't getting enough sleep at night from Hope waking, crying, wanting someone to be in the bed with her....she sleeps alone in a double sized bed, in her own room, when she stays with them.
I'm not sure about their reason...
I just know that Hope is gonna get some extra hugs and kisses from this grandma when she gets here!
I had thought that the house was going to be quiet and empty for at least 5 days!
I guess I got all upset about nothing! ....kinda!
I mean...it still isn't right for them to make decisions about Hope without informing me...
Maybe they will be more sensitive about that after now...we will see.
I find that the paternal grandma has a lot of influence on their decisions....cuz she wants the family to look like a family should look like....mom and dad and kid all shoul be together....even if it isn't the healthiest situation for anybody involved! ...she just wants her son to be a dad to his daughter...even if he really isn't ready to be the BEST dad quite yet....
And he tries to please his mom...even if they DO have a love/hate relationship most of the time! ...and his self confidence is kinda low, so pleasing mom is a subliminal priority....when, in fact, all his priorities should be directly related to Hope's well being....no matter WHAT his mom thinks!
(She left him with his grandmother and left the state when he was 3 years old....so I hardly think she has much valuable advice to offer him about how he should be raising his kid!)
Hahaha....and I recently was informed that the family Christmas celebration will be held at paternal grandma's big, giant house, again, this year! (She lives all alone in a house that is so big that you could fit 4 of our houses in the same space....yet Hope and her parents only spent a few weekends at her house in the past 3 years!)
I am kinda hoping for a blizzard to arrive just in time to give me excuse to not attend! ....provided Hope isn't stuck on the mountain with me and missing out!
I will be keeping a close eye on the weather as the holiday approaches....to make sure that Hope spends Christmas Day with her mom and dad.
Now, I am up late...cleaning a house I thought I had 5 days to get clean...
I guess I better get back to it so I can still catch a few Z's before my Tuesday begins!
I hope everyone's week is going well!
...and Thanks, again, for being my friends!! <3!
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I'm sorry they're jerking u around.
So why don't they go live with his mother?
Oh well, I'm glad hope coming back.
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12-08-2015, 06:41 PM
It seems to me that granny warbucks (the one who lives in the large house) is trying to correct a perceived wrong by having Hope live with her parents. Naturally, to achieve this aim, considering how you would feel about this "correction" was set aside knowing that you would object.
Having read your previous posts here as well as on Mobion, it comes as no surprise to me that Hope's new living arrangement wasn't going to last long. I don't say this comfortably, but it seems clear that Hope's parents aren't ready to accept the challenges of being parents. And seeing how that Hope is now three years old and has barely lived with her parents that they will never be willing to accept these challenges.
It probably pains granny warbucks to see you, someone who she views as a less than capable parent, raise Hope as well as you have while her son falters. I surmise that she, herself, would like to step in and do more, but that forwhatever reason is unable or unwilling to do so. She probably also knows that the longer Hope stays with you the more difficult it will be to separate you from Hope. She knows also that this deadline is approaching and probably used Hope's third birthday as a last ditch effort to bring this separation about.
The fact that Turtles failed to mention these plans to you immediately after learning of them doesn't speak kindly about her state of mind. She knows that she should step up and be a mother, but isn't up to that challenge and may never be. I believe that Hope's third also birthday marks a cut off point where beyond this point it may as well not be feasible for Hope not to be living with you.
I doubt any more serious attempts will be made to separate you from Hope. You need to see this experience for what it is and be empowered by it. It is you who now has the power to step up and do what is best for Hope. The bond between you and Hope has proven itself strong and you should stand up for Hope as if she were your own daughter.
Hope is yours now.
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And I got some more stuff for you three.
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12-10-2015, 09:06 PM
Yes, Mr. Wrong, I, too, believe that paternal grandma is trying to "fix" her own mistakes, vicariously, by guiding her son down paths that she feels she should have chosen when she was a young, single parent.
Though she wouldn't be considered wealthy, the Warbux name fits her...as she flaunts the fact that she has a good income from a career that makes her fly all over the country...and always dresses dresses to impress.
After a chat with Turtles, I feel assured that there had not been a plan formed until paternal grandma mentioned it before I had arrived...and without allowing Hope's parents to even discuss it, it had been made in stone withing p.grandma's head...
The parents, thinking that a few extra days might be a good start, decided to keep Hope for longer than usual...and when I arrived, the "plan" was so new that the correct and complete details were not conveyed to me...and I was only going on what WAS conveyed...
It was Hope's birthday party and I didn't want to risk causing a scene...so I just went with it...
The next day, Turtles was asking if she could bring Hope back.
As it was, Turtles had a tremendous toothache and the new, full time responsibility of parenting (alone, while dad was at work!) was overwhelmingly taxing...
I, also, suspect that they may need to do some "discussing" of some matters that they may prefer to do outside of Hope's earshot.
The toothache must be bad...cuz she even made a dentist appointment....something she has needed to do for years but has been too scared...
She has a high tolerance to the numbing medication...even an immunity to the most commonly used ones....I'd be scared, too!
It is better that Hope is out of her hair while she goes through the dental ordeal.
I do believe that there will be further attempts at getting Hope to live with them, in the future...
In fact, I promote them spending more time with her!
But I believe that there will be discussions and we will all be on the same page about things...with the possible exception of paternal grandma, who is usually only on her own page, always!
Turtles and I agree that Hope should spend longer weekends for a while.
See...the usual routine has been that they would pick Hope up about 4pm on Saturday and bring her back around 6pm on Sunday.
For them to think that they could suddenly take her FULL TIME is laughable to me!
Dad works full time and has full time duties to perform at home....not Hope-friendly duties....so he would miss out on most of Hope's day...forcing Turtles to "parent" alone for the majority of the time....and Turtles feels that she isn't prepared to do that right now...
So...we will see if adding some extra days onto the weekend will help everybody get comfortable....or discover that it just won't work for them.
I kinda just wish that they would stop living in denial and admit that they really don't want to be parents.
I appreciate the truth over "putting on airs to make everybody happy" any day!
So...Hope is home!
She says she likes my house better than mom & dad's....and when I asked her Why, she said "Because YOU are here!"
Awww! I am loved!
I reminded her that most of the things she likes to play with are here, too....making it more fun to be here.
She is a very smart kid!
I have already typed longer than I had planned....so, next time, I'll write about a couple things she has done, recently.
I hope everybody is having a good week!
Thanks for letting me vent, here, Dazzy!
It really does feel better after I put all the words down....sometimes I find my perspective on things change after I write it all down.
I gotta go....potty training!! Yay!
(Hope! ...not ME!! Lmao!!)
Laterzz!  !
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12-10-2015, 11:15 PM
Indeed, Hope is a very smart kid. But I do have to wonder how smart she will be 11or so years from now. Hint hint. Wink wink.
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12-11-2015, 03:39 PM
Hi guys. What did I miss while I was off pouting
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12-12-2015, 06:39 PM
Happy Saturday, everyone! My free day, where I will try to catch up on things I can't do on weekdays. Yesterday hit ihop with Mr go. Ihop is like a headache on a plate for me. They have the sweetest, carby things. Got the blueberry pancakes. Mr go is buying my old coins. I sold him the 1943 steel pennies, nickels. He got silver dimes. A small handful is worth $93. Next is lady head dimes. I'm ecstatic to get rid of these. And hes thrilled to get them. Gave him 29 $2 bills yesterday. What am I going to do with them? My great aunt kept giving me them. Mr x is messing with his car. He just got the new radiator. Gf sent em again saying they plan to move to Portland area. Her dad and her pay about $3k for 2 bedroom apt. And Gf has been out of work about 2 yrs. In Portland you can rent a house for $1500. It'll be a real pain not to be able to hang with her anymore.
Izzy, I was thrilled hope came back to you so soon! The idea of parenting her might sound good, but the reality is it takes skill. And her rents don't seem to have it. You are so perfect for her! You have the patience and love she needs. Her birthday party did sound fun! I'll have to Google this peppa pig. Enjoy her back with you:)
And now I better start my day. Got to wrastle with printer too.
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Well that's interesting. On peppa pig the nose is not in the middle!
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12-13-2015, 08:37 AM
I, too, got a new radiator. I was cruising back to Turlock from a fruitless northern excursion when I thought I heard my tires run over a piece of plastic. A look in the rear view mirror revealed nothing unusual and so I kept driving along. A few miles later I see that my check gages light turns on and that's when I notice that my beloved Black Betty is overheating. Fortunately, I was nearing a rest stop and I was able to coast in all the while fearing that my engine block heads were going to crack or warp. They didn't. Thank God.
I pulled into a parking space and immediately shut off the engine. The radiator was letting off more steam than ten lumber jacks at a sorority house. After the radiator cooled a bit, I unscrewed the radiator cap and poured water into it. With my flashlight I could see where the radiator had burst a hole. This was obviously the source of the strange sound I heard when I was driving earlier.
So, I located a mobile mechanic who was able to drive to my veeeeeeehicle and take me to O' Reilly auto parts and pick up a new radiator. Before that could happen I had to track down a store that had the radiator I needed in stock. I couldn't just call an auto parts store and pay for it over the phone so my hired gun could simply pick it up and bring it to me. Nooooooooo. That would be way too easy. Instead, I am told to order the radiator on line. I go online and there isn't a way to order a darn thing I needed. I call the operator from the site and he informs me that I need a computer to order their crap online. I tell the guy I am using my smartphone. He repeats himself and so I cut the conversation short and call Mike the broke and barely mobile mechanic. Mike tells me he is low on funds and will have to borrow money from someone to pay for his gas to even get to me.
Ay yi yi yi yi yi yi.
I wait twenty minutes and call him again to see where he is. Mike had to drop his mother off and then meet his girlfriend with the cash and then purchase gas to get to me. This whole deal takes about 2 hours.
He finally makes it to my location and away we go to Oh, oh, oh, O' Reilly's. I buy the radiator and more coolant and off we go to buy gas. This takes yet another hour.
Ay yi yi yi yi yi yi.
We get back to the rest stop and the removal of the old radiator and the installation of the new one goes smoothly. New coolant and water is added and we check for leaks. No leaks. Yay! I pay him and away him and I go.
The moral of the story is that I should have replaced that radiator much sooner than I did. Think I'll replace the thermostat next and have the oil changed, too.
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12-15-2015, 07:35 AM
Wowzers, Mr. Wrong! What a fiasco!
I'm glad ya found the radiator in stock! That could have taken 1 to 3 days!
The BF has a business account with the local O'Reilly's....gets a small discount, and even gets parts delivered!
That place is like the BF's second home! Lol!
But...I'm glad ya got er done in relatively good time and are back on the road!
Safe travels, my friend! ....low gas prices and holiday travel means more idiots for you to keep an eye on!
Yes, Dazzy...the characters on the Peppa Pig series are drawn with both eyes on one side of the nose...
They are crudely drawn, but the messages and morals behind the animation are wholesome and everybody always ends up laughing!
I love it!
So...as promised....a Hope story!
The other day, Hope spied some pastries that I had bought from the markdown bin...
She thought she wanted a Jumbo Honey Bun, but when I offered her an individually wrapped cheese danish, only saying "Or we have these!"...she opted for the danish....
She took the unopened package and attempted to bite the top of the danish....
I offered to open the package and she laughed and said "I trying to bite the cheese!"
I was seriously taken aback....for I had not mentioned "cheese!"
I asked her how she knew that that was cheese....and she pointed to the top of her head and said "I have a dream...and I just knowed it in my head that it is cheese!"
Wow!
...kinda gave me chills!
That was quite a statement for a 3 year old!
Anyway...that's all I have time for, for now....
I hope everybody is well and the week is being good to ya!  !
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12-15-2015, 09:26 AM
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Originally Posted by Inzanebraned
Wowzers, Mr. Wrong! What a fiasco!
I'm glad ya found the radiator in stock! That could have taken 1 to 3 days!
The BF has a business account with the local O'Reilly's....gets a small discount, and even gets parts delivered!
That place is like the BF's second home! Lol!
But...I'm glad ya got er done in relatively good time and are back on the road!
Safe travels, my friend! ....low gas prices and holiday travel means more idiots for you to keep an eye on!
Yes, Dazzy...the characters on the Peppa Pig series are drawn with both eyes on one side of the nose...
They are crudely drawn, but the messages and morals behind the animation are wholesome and everybody always ends up laughing!
I love it!
So...as promised....a Hope story!
The other day, Hope spied some pastries that I had bought from the markdown bin...
She thought she wanted a Jumbo Honey Bun, but when I offered her an individually wrapped cheese danish, only saying "Or we have these!"...she opted for the danish....
She took the unopened package and attempted to bite the top of the danish....
I offered to open the package and she laughed and said "I trying to bite the cheese!"
I was seriously taken aback....for I had not mentioned "cheese!"
I asked her how she knew that that was cheese....and she pointed to the top of her head and said "I have a dream...and I just knowed it in my head that it is cheese!"
Wow!
...kinda gave me chills!
That was quite a statement for a 3 year old!
Anyway...that's all I have time for, for now....
I hope everybody is well and the week is being good to ya!  !
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I believe that God does reveal knowledge to us through our dreams. I recall that you have written that you do not dream. Do you still believe this?
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12-15-2015, 09:46 PM
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Originally Posted by Inzanebraned
Wowzers, Mr. Wrong! What a fiasco!
I'm glad ya found the radiator in stock! That could have taken 1 to 3 days!
The BF has a business account with the local O'Reilly's....gets a small discount, and even gets parts delivered!
That place is like the BF's second home! Lol!
But...I'm glad ya got er done in relatively good time and are back on the road!
Safe travels, my friend! ....low gas prices and holiday travel means more idiots for you to keep an eye on!
Yes, Dazzy...the characters on the Peppa Pig series are drawn with both eyes on one side of the nose...
They are crudely drawn, but the messages and morals behind the animation are wholesome and everybody always ends up laughing!
I love it!
So...as promised....a Hope story!
The other day, Hope spied some pastries that I had bought from the markdown bin...
She thought she wanted a Jumbo Honey Bun, but when I offered her an individually wrapped cheese danish, only saying "Or we have these!"...she opted for the danish....
She took the unopened package and attempted to bite the top of the danish....
I offered to open the package and she laughed and said "I trying to bite the cheese!"
I was seriously taken aback....for I had not mentioned "cheese!"
I asked her how she knew that that was cheese....and she pointed to the top of her head and said "I have a dream...and I just knowed it in my head that it is cheese!"
Wow!
...kinda gave me chills!
That was quite a statement for a 3 year old!
Anyway...that's all I have time for, for now....
I hope everybody is well and the week is being good to ya!  !
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Re your hope story, I'll quote u...wowsers!!!!!!
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