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08-22-2016, 07:28 PM
Nothing like hearing the parents' segregation stories.
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08-22-2016, 07:39 PM
True, no joke. Just true
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08-22-2016, 07:41 PM
Will admit that there are still some states that I won't visit with my husband because we are an interracial couple.
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08-22-2016, 10:25 PM
Is that an Undertale reference I see in the title?
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08-22-2016, 10:43 PM
Oh, really? 'Twas unintentional. I don't know Undertale things. Isn't Papyrus an Undertale thing? Nyeh heh heh. Pasta?
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08-23-2016, 12:41 AM
Yes he is xD
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08-23-2016, 12:49 AM
Pastas always good
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08-23-2016, 12:58 AM
I am definitely glad I wasn't born in the fifties.
Though, sometimes I wish I could have been, just so that I could have been involved with the Civil Rights movement. I would have loved it, but then, we still have the same issues today. In my state there isn't a lot of avenues to get involved unless you live in the city, which, I don't... But I hope that when I go to California I will be able to be more involved in Black Lives Matter and other causes to help the minority folk like me out there who are having their voices smothered.
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08-23-2016, 02:25 AM
Heh, that covers my Undertale knowledge.
Ava dreams of being a civil rights activist at a pivotal time. I dream of being a noble lady at a conservative time.
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08-23-2016, 05:56 PM
Ava, having spoken with you over the course of sometime, be cautious when getting involved with Black Lives Matter. And I would like to point out Louisiana as an example. BLM was there before the floods, rioting and picketing because of a shooting, but now that they are submerged under how many feet of water, BLM can't be bothered to help out their brothers and sisters that are literally drowning. Standing up and making sure your voice is heard is great, but actions always speak louder. It seems too often recently they are okay with inciting hate over finding ways to make things better. Dialogue, not violence. [/end rant]
Sorry about that. The husband, his friend and myself were talking about stuff last night on Skype and we all came to the above conclusion. For those that don't know, I am married to an ethnic gentleman, he has sweet chocolate eyes.
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08-23-2016, 06:23 PM
Yeah, I'm a little on the fence about BLM. I love the idea behind it, but I am not too crazy about getting involved in rioting. Me and my parents just sent $50 each to the people in Louisiana. And we really couldn't afford to help, but we always believed that helping others is more important than helping yourself because what goes around comes around.
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I used to think it was impossible for a black woman to be nobility back then...
Then I saw this movie and it changed my life forever!
A lot of people say I look like her too.
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08-23-2016, 07:17 PM
Unfortunately in this country we like to think we aren't ruled by propaganda, that's simply not the case. Most of our media today is all hype, divide and oppression. Kind of sad really.
Interesting, I will have to check out that movie, Ava.
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08-23-2016, 08:26 PM
For most of the end of 2014, that was my all-time favorite movie.
In fact, I would have been pretty close to naming myself Gugu if I hadn't been so infatuated with Only Lovers Left Alive and Mia Wasikowska.
I think you'll find it really inspiring and fun. I watched it with a close friend (who is no longer a friend) and we had a good time!
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I also wanted to add this little gif:
Because the story of Dido Belle is actually true!
I think it's crazy how no one knows about it. There really was a mixed race aristocrat in the 18th century. She is my all time favorite period piece character, even more than Jane Eyre or Edith Cushing because I could relate to her.
There was a scene that was so heartbreaking, where Dido (lead character) is looking in the mirror and she starts trying to wipe the skin color off her face.
It just hits home really hard. Not that I am ashamed to be black (and mixed race) but I can remember a time where I did the exact same thing!
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08-23-2016, 08:37 PM
Not sure I have an all time favorite movie. There are movies that I will never get tired of watching, most animated Disney movies and there are a few live action movies that tickle me pink, all of the Marvel movies...speaking of which, practically drooling at the thought of Captain America: Civil War coming out on Blu-ray next month.
Ava! You're outfit, fabulous! Loving the layers.
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08-23-2016, 08:43 PM
OMG! Captain America: Civil War is coming out next month?! YESSSSSS!!!
I am really excited to see that one again, it was amazing in the theatre!
I usually go in spurts with my "all time" favorite movies. Belle is one of those I never say no to watching. But I do get tired of it if I watch it every day for an extended period of time.
Aw, thanks, Queen!  I originally had this avi in all white, but I think I like the black and red scheme a little better.
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08-23-2016, 08:47 PM
The black and red give her more depth, at least I think so. Caught my eye for sure. Then again, we all know that I like the dark outfits and the contrasting colors. *Points to her own avatar* Can't help myself.
Ava, when my husband and I have kiddos, it's something I have thought about as well, them being mixed race. How they will be teased, or looked down on by both sides. Hopefully they will have the strength of character that my husband and I do to tell people that they are comfortable and happy who they are and if they don't like it, well they can go to hell.
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08-23-2016, 09:01 PM
One thing that I wish I could tell a lot of parents of mixed race kids is, firstly, don't make a big deal of them being mixed race.
I had a lot of friends who are mixed race too, my mom is also mixed race. But the thing is, my friend's mom used to say, "Wow I need to write a book about how to raise a mixed race child". I mean, I thought that was strange when she'd say that because I thought, "You'd raise a mixed race child the same way you'd raise ANY child. Just because they are mixed race doesn't make them any different from another child."
My horrible uncle and aunt also adopted a mixed race child and they put soooo much emphasis on her over their biological children because she is mixed race and the other children are not. I just find it sad. She's a child for heaven's sake! She's not some exotic pet to flaunt around. :C
My parents never made a big deal about my ethnicity and I used to tell them I wanted to go to school where kids looked like me because growing up I was the only black kid in my grade. Then in fifth grade I was one of three black kids in my grade. But I have two black parents, though they are both multiracial, so it wasn't really as hard for me as it would probably be for a child who is black with a white mother or a white father.
Personally, Queen, I think you'd be a really badass mom.
You seem to have your head in the right place for it. To me, as long as people remember to tell their children they are awesome, beautiful, talented and amazing, then it doesn't matter what race they are.
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08-23-2016, 09:10 PM
Thanks for saying I would be/will be a badass mother. There are a few things that I will tell my children that does seem to go against the norm these days, 1. If you want a trophy, then you better get out there and practice your ass off. I will not allow you to participate in a sport where you get a ribbon because you "participated" Bullshit. 2. Yes, you are smart, beautiful, awesome, that will only get you so far in life and it doesn't entitle you to anything. You want something, you earn it. 3. Just because all your friends have a phone, iPod, iPhone, or whatever electric device is popular when we have kids, does not mean you get one. Yet again, if you want something like that, you will have to earn it. Show responsibility to keep it clean, undamaged, etc.
Everything else, well, that will happen when we have kids.
And yes, I know I have strict views about certain things and most of that is because I have watched my friends with their kids. Learned from my friend's mistakes and applied how I was raised to how I want to raise my future children. One more thing, I will be their mom and Rodd will be their dad, we won't be treating them like our friends and they won't get to treat us like they treat their friends. Oh hell no. All about those boundaries when it comes to kids.
How does raising a mix raced child differ from a child that is of the same race? Outside of preparing them to defend themselves mentally against those that would think to cut them down for being a mix of two, I can't see the difference. So weird that there are people that would raise them differently.
My main concern will be if we have a girl...doing her hair. I've got your average straightish brown hair, white girl hair. I'll send them to you, Ava! Hair tips from Auntie Ava!
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08-23-2016, 10:39 PM
I'm always amazed at how many people believe a political lie over their own eyes, ears, and memories.
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08-24-2016, 03:22 PM
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Thanks for saying I would be/will be a badass mother. There are a few things that I will tell my children that does seem to go against the norm these days, 1. If you want a trophy, then you better get out there and practice your ass off. I will not allow you to participate in a sport where you get a ribbon because you "participated" Bullshit. 2. Yes, you are smart, beautiful, awesome, that will only get you so far in life and it doesn't entitle you to anything. You want something, you earn it. 3. Just because all your friends have a phone, iPod, iPhone, or whatever electric device is popular when we have kids, does not mean you get one. Yet again, if you want something like that, you will have to earn it. Show responsibility to keep it clean, undamaged, etc.
Everything else, well, that will happen when we have kids.
And yes, I know I have strict views about certain things and most of that is because I have watched my friends with their kids. Learned from my friend's mistakes and applied how I was raised to how I want to raise my future children. One more thing, I will be their mom and Rodd will be their dad, we won't be treating them like our friends and they won't get to treat us like they treat their friends. Oh hell no. All about those boundaries when it comes to kids.
How does raising a mix raced child differ from a child that is of the same race? Outside of preparing them to defend themselves mentally against those that would think to cut them down for being a mix of two, I can't see the difference. So weird that there are people that would raise them differently.
My main concern will be if we have a girl...doing her hair. I've got your average straightish brown hair, white girl hair. I'll send them to you, Ava! Hair tips from Auntie Ava!
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I think those are good ways to raise a child!
I applaud you on not wanting to treat your kids like your friends! I've seen that go bad way too many times, especially since I work with kids. Too many parents think that their children have to like them all the time so they don't discipline them in any way, they buy them anything they want, they don't teach their child anything. They basically don't act like parents. Then they wonder why their child hits and bites them and why they are disruptive in class.
Yeah, I find that weird too. I would think that if someone is planning to raise their biracial child differently than they'd raise any other child of theirs, then maybe they shouldn't have any children. I do think that it's wise to help children with bullies, but then that could apply to any child because all children may or may not be bullied. And in this age, with all the technology and whatnot, children can bully in a much more... impacting way. So I could never understand those parents who'd say, "I need to write a book on how to raise a biracial child". Like...... Okay? How is that any different than raising a non-multiracial child?
LOL! Okay, now, hair is definitely something that's tricky when it comes to raising black children. My mom (who has loose wavy hair) did NOT know how to do my hair at all. She would rake through it with a horse hair brush, (which you're never supposed to brush curly hair when dry!) while it was dry and I would scream so loud. I would totally suggest just youtubing some hairstyles for naturally curly hair. There are tons of them on YouTube, even some for white moms who want to do their black child's hair. It's really nice these days! I wish my mom had YouTube when she did my hair!
But if you ever need tips or suggestions, I'm right here to help! :D
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08-25-2016, 10:57 PM
My other issue is the social media that so many parents allow their child but do not police in anyway. Snapchat, all that stuff (Personally never used snapchat, don't have Twitter), all I have is Facebook and some days...I even hate that. Friends of mine let their kids have Facebook, but if you are a friend on the child's page you have to be a friend on the parent's page...how about NO. NO to the Facebook as a kid, NO to the Snapchat, NO to unsupervised time on the internet. And I say this because when the internet became mainstream I was 13...totally remember those days. Chat rooms on AOL, Instant Messenger conversations with random people from all over...generally my parents knew who I was talking to and other times...well, what they didn't know didn't hurt them obviously.
However, times have certainly changed for the worse and we know what kind of perverts and deviants are out there now and man are they out there. Scary.
Youtube will become my new best friend for sure.
Time for me to head home. Not sure about the gym tonight...stomach has been kind of icky this afternoon. Blegh
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08-28-2016, 08:14 PM
C'mon everybody. Do the bump with me
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08-30-2016, 02:48 PM
A black noble lady? THAT'S AWESOME. I've found my place in history.
I thought that said "do not bump with me."
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08-30-2016, 10:44 PM
Black nobles weren't in short supply, the most famous would b cleopatra.
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08-31-2016, 02:31 PM
But that was Africa.
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