Not even sure what that is, Ava. Sounds interesting.

My older sister would cook for us on her day off and she made this Cajun Blackened Chicken, put it over potatoes and broccoli/cauliflower with plain Greek yogurt...so good!

You guys are making me hungry.

That's how it goes in here, feast or famine.

That… is why you be picky. So everything sounds gross.

Some days are not for adulting.
Like today. Nope.

Sometimes I wish I could not adult all day everyday

Holy cow! Obviously Aya has appeared!

I wish I was pickier about food, but I love most of it.

Hi Queenie

I wish I was less picky. For me it's texture that bothers me before taste.

I wish I wasn't this picky.

I love my pickiness. I've learned to take advantage of it, like taking off my glasses to avoid something I don't want to take in. It's the next best thing to unseeing.

can i not adult today. i feel like crap

Sure you can.

Hubby made me lunch. and i'm making corchet maracas causeneed to do something but head so fuzzzzy

I am about to explode from anger right now and really trying to hold back crying. Husbands suck!

I once heard someone chuckle and say, "I don't need one of those." Re: husbands.

they do. they really do. at least mines not being bad TODAY. last night on the other hand....

-hugs Queenie- They really can at times.
We are here if you want to vent.

Either my husband is lying to me or the event brite website is...thinking my husband is and I hate second guessing him, but I have nothing else to go on. He is suppose to be going to a Job Fair today, he tells me this morning as he is getting ready that he got an e-mail saying it was moved to tomorrow. Fine, I am stunned, but sure, shit like that happens. He still goes out to get the oil changed in his car, which he had a coupon for, it was suppose to be $19.95. Nope, he gets the high mileage because that is what is recommended and now the oil change is $63.98, way over budget.
This pisses me off and I go to event brite and look at their website and the job fair is still on for today, hasn't changed. I text him back, telling him event brite has the fair as today, he should double check. Haven't heard back. Now I am at work thinking my husband is lying to me, has been lying to me this whole time and all I want to do is go home and lose my shit all over him.

Is he maybe trying to do everything he can to not get a job?
I know my husband is more interested in gaming that trying to find a job. Sure, he's got some stuff that might make it harder to get hired, but he hasn't even tried to apply to things around here.
Deep breaths, focus on your work while keeping it in the back of your mind. Then go home and blow up at him. Get it all off your chest and direct it all at him.
-shakes head- That oil change is just ridiculous. There is nothing wrong getting the basic change for cheaper, then waiting till you have some more income to change it again if need be. Be like, "Use your brain! "

Six years of not working, I have stuck up for him a lot and now I feel like perhaps he has been playing me for a fool and I think that's the part that hurts the most.

Trying to contain it and not let it spill out. In fact, my boss has graciously offered me the frozen margarita to calm me and help me work. Kristi really is amazing.

When I get home and find out WTF is going on, there will be some serious changes...one of them might be the no internet at home. All game systems come to my work and get locked up here and he surrenders his debit card to me and I completely control all the money. He will be accountable to me and that's not how a marriage should be.

I'm so sorry to hear that Queenie.
*hugs*

Thanks, Siipu.

Trying to stay positive and not let it eat at me too much.

Yeah, that is quite a while. My husband hasn't really worked anything since 2012 besides the odd jobs and day labor positions.
That is really amazing! It is great to have managers/supervisors who are very understanding and try to help the best they can. Wow! Alcohol at work!
Yep, sometimes you just have to treat them like children. They have to grow up sometime. If it takes a harsh punishment or taking away their toys, then so be it!
Yeah, hopefully he will realize how serious this is and step up before it becomes too drastic. If you can communicate how very important it is and the importance of sticking to a tight budget, he may be willing to work along some strict guidelines. Gotta work it out and communicate it together, letting each of your feelings and thoughts lay bare for each other to understand. Also keeping and open mind and an attentive ear to each other's positions. (All this after a little bit of yelling before hand to let out the steam.)

So sorry Queenie that things are so tough right now! :( He should tell you the truth, and that oil change... jeeze!! He should have gone with the cheaper one! Wow!

I do agree with dragoness - keeping an open mind and willingness to listen to one another, and not just yelling (which is totally justified!!) He needs to learn that you mean business and that means being an adult and getting a job! That's way too long with him not wanting to find work! D:

If this was the first time that I have had to converse with him about getting a job or going to school it wouldn't be so difficult for me to be level headed. We've had this conversation a few times a year for the past five years. Finally putting my foot down and the last talk we had which was a month ago or so, I told him he had two choices, school or work. If neither one of those things happened before the first of the year it was back into the military or we needed a break. I can't keep being the only one supporting us and I can't be the only one wanting to support us.