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05-25-2016, 02:54 PM
WOW! What self centered bitchy people!!  I'm sorry that you have those sort of people trying to infiltrate your life.  Good for you for getting rid of them both so you don't have to see the negativity.
My SIL is overweight but to me I don't see it as a bad thing, or make her a bad person. She's still a beautiful lovely woman who is a terrific mother and loves my brother dearly. And that is what matters to me. She isn't someone to be judged just because she's large - there's absolutely no reason at all to judge her.
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05-25-2016, 03:55 PM
I think one of the things that has stuck with me for awhile now is this: When you point your finger at someone there are three more pointing back you.
And yes, it's true. Try it.
Now as my friend, I don't require you to agree with everything I say or do, don't expect you to have the same opinions that I do on a lot of things. What I do expect is tolerance, love and understanding and definitely an open mind. Most of my friends have views that are vastly different from mine, I can see where they are coming from with it, but I still have my own views. Being a friend means you accept me for who I am, not what I look like and vice versa.
Too much ugliness in this world already without adding a shit attitude to it.
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05-25-2016, 04:02 PM
Especially from those who are so set in their ways that they don't realize that how they're viewing the world may be a bit skewed and is a judgemental way of seeing things.
Exactly!!!  Tolerance and not judging someone just because how they see things may be different from our own. We were all raised differently and we're all our own person. So we're not all going to be the same.
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05-25-2016, 04:19 PM
Basically for me their holier than thou art attitude is what has me seriously concerned. No need for people that are super stuck-up like that in my life. Nor would I want to bring them around my other friends and their families.
Definitely going to let me parents know what is happening with the situation. More a heads up than an ultimatum to remove them as friends too.
And Jacob should be careful about the things he says because he is a small business owner. You ARE the face of your company and while you might think your profile is private, customers will find you on Facebook and see the nasty things you post. Do you not think your hateful words will hurt your bottom line? Keep your private feelings to yourself and watch out if you don't, they can come back to bite you in the butt.
I suppose if I really wanted to be a cruel and mean individual, I could take his posts and put them up on Yelp, or the business's Facebook page and let all those clients and potential clients see just what the owner thinks of them. Especially since the company he owns is a moving company. All those lazy disgusting people you are ranting about...they are your bread and butter...
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05-25-2016, 04:28 PM
Oh wow!! Yeah!! People need to be more aware of what they're putting out there into the world where everyone can find it. That really could hurt his business for sure!
Sounds good to just let your parents know what's going on as a heads up and let them make their own decisions on what to do.
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05-25-2016, 04:44 PM
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Originally Posted by Queen_Andais
I think one of the things that has stuck with me for awhile now is this: When you point your finger at someone there are three more pointing back you.
And yes, it's true. Try it.
Now as my friend, I don't require you to agree with everything I say or do, don't expect you to have the same opinions that I do on a lot of things. What I do expect is tolerance, love and understanding and definitely an open mind. Most of my friends have views that are vastly different from mine, I can see where they are coming from with it, but I still have my own views. Being a friend means you accept me for who I am, not what I look like and vice versa.
Too much ugliness in this world already without adding a shit attitude to it.
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my husband should learn this. as I remind him every time he trys to blame me for something that was his fault. he doesn't even realize he does it. But damn if I'm gonna let him turn into his father.  I keep reminding him that his actions are his and his alone, he can't claim "well i was raised that way" you could be raised to kiss men and you're still going to be straight cause you're you not the people that raised you , or the people around you that have influenced.
Accept who you are, not what others want you to be.
well that was a completely off topic rant. sorry. xD I may or may not have gotten very mad with him last night cause he was failing to be a good communicator and insulted me so I verbally punched him in the throat and hung up on him for him to think about what he said. *mumbles about stupid jerks*
He's apologized of course. Cause he knows I'm right.
But yeah. i can't believe they did that to you Queenie. Some people just have no idea about the world they live in, that it doesn't revolve souly around how they live and survive. I'd say theirs some kind of lazy within themselves that they despise and have projected it.
Some book I was forced to read. catcher in the rye I think. Says that when we hate people, its usually because we see something we hate about ourselves within them. Which has always made me wonder why I despise preppy bitches..... I must secretly want to be a rich snobby cheerleader. lmao.
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Especially since the company he owns is a moving company. All those lazy disgusting people you are ranting about...they are your bread and butter...
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i am so so sorry Queenie... but this made me giggle. cause bread makes you fat...  mmmm bread and butter. one of my favorite food groups. if this was an unintentional pun i love it. xD
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05-25-2016, 05:18 PM
Truth be told, it was an unintentional pun, which makes it that much sweeter (pun intended that time).
We are influenced by those we are raised with and the environment that we are in, but only to a certain extent and then YOU take over and make your own decisions. For better or worse, I have my mother's voice in my head at times. And I've told her that. Not that she is my conscious or anything, but simply the voice of reason at moments when my own voice gets lost. If that makes sense.
Or, I stop and wonder, what would my dad think if I did x, y, z or said, x, y, z. My parents have lived a pretty simple life and have made very good decisions, so having their voices in my head at times is probably a good thing.
As far as Jacob and Michelle go, I will let my parents know that for future functions that I will be at, or whatever, I will respectfully request they not be invited. If that seems petty, well, I have a right to ask. Now, should my parents say no, they are coming, well, I'll pull up my big girl panties and play nice. Doesn't mean I will go out of my way to talk to them, just that I won't bad mouth them or seek them out to slam them. Ya know.
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05-25-2016, 05:43 PM
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I unfriended both of them. Straight up don't need that negativity in my life.
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hooray! I agree with your decision. It's what he said after all, that if people disagreed they should unfriend him
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05-25-2016, 06:02 PM
I am sure that they won't even bat an eye that I have unfriended both of them. People should learn that all actions have reactions, one of those Newtonian laws.
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05-26-2016, 02:08 AM
I wish it did make them bat an eye though . like "wow look what we did" I WISH that people realized what their actions did. and no not just them. I'm talking in general.
no... of course i'm not STILL mad at my husband.. we're gonna see how that ends up when he gts home tomorrow for his 2 nights with us this week. instead of just one like has been since last august...
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05-26-2016, 02:27 AM
It doesn't matter what their reaction is to your unfriending them
The important thing is keeping the negativity away from you because you don't need it and you don't deserve it
and you'll be happier without it
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05-26-2016, 02:25 PM
Talked to my dad about it last night on my drive home from work and explained the situation and what happened. He's not surprised by Jacob's outburst, seems he has done it before (I probably missed it or wasn't paying that close of attention to it) and dad told me to take it with a grain of salt. Which, I will tell you, I do, most of the time. There are times though when you shouldn't take it with a grain of salt and make your voice heard.
Now we are focusing on the trip at the end of June, what we'll be bringing with us as far as food and what not. Andria and I have agreed limited to no soda this time around. Instead we'll be doing water, or Crystal Light drinks to cut back on sugar for both us and the kids. Naturally there will be alcohol, but nothing crazy.
Food wise, thinking Chicken, or Pork, stay away from too much red meat and hot dogs. Burgers one night, but otherwise, veggies and fruit. Limited snacks and cookies.
However, you can't have a camping trip in the woods without S'mores, so that will be the one sweet indulgence, at least for me.
Shadami, how great that you get him for two nights and not the customary one! Every minute counts and you just got a few more. Woo hoo!
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05-26-2016, 05:46 PM
Sounds like it will be so much fun, Queenie <3 hope everything goes smoothly! I like that you're not bringing soda for my own personal reasons (used to drink way too much soda when I was really young) and that you're opting for chicken over red meat and hotdogs, also for my own personal reasons (there was a period when I abstained from red meat and some other things and it lowered my cholesterol levels that were too high at the time while I was on a medication) :)
Yay for two nights for Shadami but hope all the anger and communication issues go away so you two can enjoy both :) <3
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05-26-2016, 08:53 PM
Salvete, usually when we go on vacation I will go hog wild with the eating and not being a good girl with food. That has to stop! Otherwise I will never get to where I want to be weight wise, plus, it's easier to stick to eating right when everyone is eating the same as you.
Today at lunch, instead of scarfing down eight chicken nuggets, I only ate four of them. Right there, cutting my intake of calories in half. No soda with lunch, instead a bottle of water. All about making healthier choices, one at a time. *sighs* And that's the other thing I need to remember, it's day by day. Can only do one day at a time.
Gym goals are going once a day! However, it doesn't happen over night and it will take me time to get there mentally.
Ugh, they are painting our building inside and out right now! Smells of paint, like bad. Contact is all itchy, can't leave early because it's the end of the month and we are slammed. My escrow officer and I have like twelve files that will be closing either today, tomorrow or Tuesday. We are off on Monday which means that in between trying to get these files closed, there will be a bunch of calls to field from agents that are sending in new files, or questions about stuff that is closing. Sometimes having the time off for a holiday is not worth the set back it causes in the workflow of getting stuff done.
Kind of feel like the other escrow assistant is trying to kiss my escrow officer's ass. Cathy has suddenly started volunteering to help out and that is not like her at all.
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05-26-2016, 09:56 PM
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Talked to my dad about it last night on my drive home from work and explained the situation and what happened. He's not surprised by Jacob's outburst, seems he has done it before (I probably missed it or wasn't paying that close of attention to it) and dad told me to take it with a grain of salt. Which, I will tell you, I do, most of the time. There are times though when you shouldn't take it with a grain of salt and make your voice heard.
Now we are focusing on the trip at the end of June, what we'll be bringing with us as far as food and what not. Andria and I have agreed limited to no soda this time around. Instead we'll be doing water, or Crystal Light drinks to cut back on sugar for both us and the kids. Naturally there will be alcohol, but nothing crazy.
Food wise, thinking Chicken, or Pork, stay away from too much red meat and hot dogs. Burgers one night, but otherwise, veggies and fruit. Limited snacks and cookies.
However, you can't have a camping trip in the woods without S'mores, so that will be the one sweet indulgence, at least for me.
Shadami, how great that you get him for two nights and not the customary one! Every minute counts and you just got a few more. Woo hoo!
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If you know how to make it. fried dough with jam is also quite a delicious camping food. :3
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Sounds like it will be so much fun, Queenie <3 hope everything goes smoothly! I like that you're not bringing soda for my own personal reasons (used to drink way too much soda when I was really young) and that you're opting for chicken over red meat and hotdogs, also for my own personal reasons (there was a period when I abstained from red meat and some other things and it lowered my cholesterol levels that were too high at the time while I was on a medication) :)
Yay for two nights for Shadami but hope all the anger and communication issues go away so you two can enjoy both :) <3
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yeah me too. its not to terrible right now. I wanted to snuggle him as soon as i saw him but i did the  thing and made him apologize and suck up a little first. cause he'd really hurt my feelings. And i will be treated proper darn it. :3 kekeke.
it did help that he took me out to a chinese buffet cause i've been craving chinese spices something fierce.
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05-26-2016, 10:19 PM
I found out glamping is a thing and I am in love with the idea.
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05-26-2016, 10:56 PM
Fried Dough is delicious but I think the food options she mentioned will be a good healthy menu for their trip already ;-) LOL
Yay Queenie on the food and going to the gym. It takes a lot of motivation and persistence so that is admirable of you.
I have heard of glamping before. It sounds fun
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05-26-2016, 11:02 PM
The great outdoors isn't great to me, but if you like the outdoors, glamping is the way to go.
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05-27-2016, 12:47 AM
Yup! Keep all the bugs away while you are at it
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05-27-2016, 01:20 AM
My least favorite part of Phylum Arthropoda.
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05-27-2016, 01:42 AM
Do you like crabs, lobsters, and shrimp
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05-27-2016, 01:45 AM
I have no opinion on them. The only animals I would say I like are cats and bunnies. Butterflies are okay as long as they don't come near me.
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05-27-2016, 01:46 AM
How about humans
I'm guessing humans are not on the list
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05-27-2016, 01:51 AM
In this instance, I cite my favorite argument against humans being animals: have you ever eaten a human-shaped animal cracker?
/the things probably exist now
/somebody's scary humor
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05-27-2016, 01:52 AM
I've eaten sour patch kids
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