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#776
Old 07-06-2018, 09:00 AM

@ Ava: Yeowch. That has got to suck in so many ways .

I very rarely drink, despite there almost always being some sort of alcohol in the house X'D. Though in my case it's for cooking, not drinking...granted, I usually taste it before I use it in a recipe. Don't want the wine your basting the turkey in to have gone bad before using it >>;

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Old 07-07-2018, 01:44 PM

I wish I cooked more often but the kitchen is a mess and the fiance won't really help aside from cleaning like a couple dishes at a time. :<
Even though he uses more dishes than I do

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#778
Old 07-07-2018, 07:48 PM

Bleeeech.
I know a way to fix that ^^. Just only clean the dishes you dirty, and leave the ones he uses sit until he decides to get around to washing them .

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#779
Old 07-07-2018, 08:01 PM

Have you discussed your displeasure about him not washing dishes? Sometimes guys just take things for granted until they are told.

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Old 07-07-2018, 08:39 PM

Or until they have to do it themselves X'D

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Old 07-07-2018, 09:13 PM

um, I've tried cleaning dishes that I use and then putting them away, and next thing I find he's used them
granted its a dish or two at a time and hasn't happened in a while cos he kept using them...

but every time i ask him to wash dishes he gets pissed off so i've given up

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Old 07-07-2018, 09:56 PM

Like said, just stop doing dishes and when he bitches and moans...tell him that if he doesn't want to clean ones, he can learn to eat off the floor or something. Make him be a functional adult out of necessity, rather than making it optional ^^.

Or just tell him that if he doesn't clean the dishes, you won't take out the trash or something. See how he reacts then X'D.

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#783
Old 07-09-2018, 01:36 AM

I tried that method once with my guy. The place was in such a mess within a week that I couldn't help but clean it. He literally didn't care there were plates with food on it on the counter. Just ew!

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#784
Old 07-09-2018, 01:47 AM

*siiiiigh* Eckh...gotta love the bachelor mentality XP.

If I had a bf and it got that bad, I'd just start crashing at a friend's place X'D. Maybe it's just me and my low tolerance for bullshit, but dear gods if I'm going to be dating someone they'd better as hell be able to adult! It may not be fun, but it's kinda a necessity.

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Old 07-09-2018, 02:04 AM

Ya, it's honestly why after 10 year I haven't fully committed. I also only let him over for half the week/on the weekend then he's gotta go. He's proposed more than twice with words, but he never follows through on any of the actions he'd need to take to make it official.

He can't take care of him self financially, and I don't want another kid where I'm the only one paying to take care of them again like my first marriage. So all the reasons women used to feel the need to get married (kids and money) I don't really see the point of for myself (or really anyone).

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#786
Old 07-09-2018, 02:55 AM

I'm "meh" on the whole thing. I'm single, I'm not ashamed of being single, and I don't use it as an excuse to be a slut--quite the opposite, acutally X'D. I'm asexual, and the whole idea of sex just icks me out XP.

But the way I see it, if you're the kind of person who has to be a "we" and can't function as an "I", then you really shouldn't be dating at all. Be secure in yourself as an idividual first, then start thinking about relationships. Not the other way around.

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#787
Old 07-09-2018, 05:32 AM

I'd say I'm on the opposite side of the rainbow from you. XD I wouldn't call a single person that enjoys sex a slut or one that doesn't like it a prude. It's just their choices. It doesn't really bother me either way.

I agree with you, he's strong in other places that aren't money and cleaning. He makes me laugh when I'm on the edge and knows how to talk me out of the spirals I put myself in. Also it's hard to find people that are cool with being step dad.

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#788
Old 07-09-2018, 08:57 AM

I don't mind doing all the dishes...if only the BF would pick up after himself!
He has a bad habit of leaving things wherever he's done with them...usually in my way!
We have been living together for 22 years...some habits are hard to break!

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#789
Old 07-09-2018, 06:40 PM

This might sound like a stupid suggestion...
But there is a "fart spray" one can buy on Amazon. It's basically the opposite of Febreeze.... I would spray that all over the bf's clothes and belongings. Then after he's wondering, "Omg, what's that horrible smell!?" I would say,

"Haha, bitch! It's fart spray... and I'll keep spraying it all over the place until you pick up after yourself!"

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Old 07-09-2018, 09:53 PM

his clothes don't need any help smelling horrible
i had to pry his pajamas from him to wash them lol

I think his parents babied him too much and with me being disabled and right now having a bad flare up, I'm not being the best partner/homemaker either

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Old 07-12-2018, 03:01 AM

Oh fairy thats terrible.

---------- Post added 07-11-2018 at 11:03 PM ----------

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Originally Posted by Inzanebraned View Post
I don't mind doing all the dishes...if only the BF would pick up after himself!
He has a bad habit of leaving things wherever he's done with them...usually in my way!
We have been living together for 22 years...some habits are hard to break!
Throw the stuff on his side of the bedroom.

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#792
Old 07-13-2018, 03:16 AM

You wanna know what else is terrible?
Cluster headaches :x

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Old 07-13-2018, 04:13 AM

Those are never fun. >.<

I get mostly stress headaches or PMS related ones where I need to shut all the lights off.

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Old 07-13-2018, 09:47 AM

I used to get migraines that would affect my vision and ability to think or talk straight...
When I had my first heart attack at the age of 34, the migraines stopped.
Then, years later I had a few but they weren't as severe as the ones I had before the heart attack.
Now, 2 more heart attacks and a triple bypass later, I don't get migraines at all.
The BF gets bad migraines that make him vomit...they usually occur if he hasn't drank his usual amount of Mountain Dew in a day...and mushrooms seem to trigger them, too.
When I used to have them, my doctor prescribed Ergotamine...that shrinks the blood vessels in the brain. It worked pretty well.
Sometimes drinking 2 cups of black coffee right down would work, too.
I don't know if that would work on cluster headaches, but it might be worth a try.

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#795
Old 07-13-2018, 05:57 PM

Thankfully I've never been prone to headaches.

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Old 07-13-2018, 06:40 PM

I've never really had any headaches either...
I think one time I had a migraine because I had strep throat and it was sooo miserable!
I never experienced a pain in my head like that eveR!

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Old 07-13-2018, 07:32 PM

Benendryl is based off the same thing i assume ergot( fungus)amine is
i've been taking that but it only helps for about two hours and then I'm in pain again

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Old 07-13-2018, 10:51 PM

After googling Ergotamine, I learned that it is also used for cluster headaches but is not compatible with some other medications and should not be used if you have certain health issues.
You might consider talking to your doctor about it.

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Old 07-13-2018, 11:49 PM

Its also prescription only so its not like I would just have any handy lol
But yeah if this persists I'm probably going to urgent care tomorrow. in the meantime i was told by my fiance to cut back on the cigarettes (he's not wrong that is probably making it worse if its having any effect on it)

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Old 07-14-2018, 04:18 AM

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Did somebody upset you or something? (I just noticed your signature!)
I hope you don't leave us! We need you here and I would miss you!

 


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