Gah, dont start me on that particular subject Ely, wasnt even dating a chick, just haning out pretty much and when i told her that i didnt want to be sleeping together until she was over her ex she went mental. I was up til almost 4am with the messages back and forth this morning. Pretty sure she hates me now too. *shrugs* I dont get women some times?

I should also probably put a photo of myself up at some stage i guess...
Still one of my favourites of myself, even though its years old now.

Ugh. I'm sorry, Assassin. I've been there with one of my exes...although, he was using me as the therapist who was helping him get over me, so that he could go date somebody else. Screwed up, right? Anyway, he'd call me and wouldn't stop talking til 4 a.m. in the morning. Did it several times till I changed my phone number.

Some people are so messed up. :stare:

I love your picture, btw. I can see why it's your favorite. ^_^

Yeah, the weird part was that it got all turned around so that by the end i felt like i was an asshat for trying to think ahead and make plans to make things work... >_>

Your ex sounds weird, using you to get over you... how the hell does that work? Changing your number sounds like a good idea though.

Theres that picture, taken at night, and another during the day thats a lot clearer that i really like. That window on my old appartment was freaking awesome! I still miss it sometimes. :(

Yeaaah, that's a special skill us women have. :sweat: I hate it when other women do it, so I try to keep that evil power at bay. :lol: You were doing the right thing, though.

Yeah. I don't know what exactly was wrong in his head that he thought I wanted to hear about his new girlfriends, and how he didn't really like them, but still wanted me to convince him they were going to be good for him. Eventually my nice Ely ways ran out and I sent him a text saying goodbye, and immediately changed my number. Ugh.

I used to have a nice big window like that, but alas, I live in a basement now. :lol:

Yeah...I'm glad that when I break up with someone, either they end up avoiding me, or I act like such a douche towards them that they end up forgetting I exist. And its never been for a bad reason being a douche. My only question related to this, is why do people have to cheat on someone they say they love?


And Ely, I feel the pain of staying up until 4am talking/texting either an ex, or someone you dont really care to talk to right then. People ALWAYS seem to think that because I start work at 9am, they should try to talk to me between 2am-5am. Ive started ignoring the phone unless the number of someone who is always there when needed shows.

I can understand why some people cheat only because I've been in a long distance relationship in the past...that makes you understand a lot of things you don't want to know. But I don't get why people cheat on their perfectly wonderful boyfriend/girlfriend, either. Especially, like you said, after you've said you loved them or called them a soul mate. It just doesn't work right.

Yeah, the second I start having my phone in my room when I sleep is when people start texting the hell out of me at inopportune times, so I stopped leaving it in my vicinity at night, especially after the ex. I'll probably start sleeping with it again, though, whenever I start a new relationship or when my friend gets closer to going into labor. Whichever comes first.

It's really difficult to wake me up via text/call because my phone is usually on vibrate, and it slides under my pillow. I did have a girlfriend who would call me repeatedly at 3 AM to tell me she was lonely and wanted to talk. I usually hung up on her because I had school in a couple of hours and I wasn't ever quite sure how to talk her out of it. Whenever I didn't hang up, the conversation would go on for hours until one of us absolutely had to go or the phone died.

I think that's around the time I trained myself to just not wake up at all for that. I loved her, but I loved sleep on schoolnights a little bit more.

Well i heard from her again last night, and got an apology for tearing me a new one like she did. I admitted that after thinking about it a bit afterwards, maybe i was projecting an insecurity on to her unfairly and we've agreed that we will meet up at some stage to talk later in the week, see if we cant work something out.

Regarding the cheating thing, that is one thing i will NEVER understand. Cheating is one of the few things i will NOT tolerate, either by a partner, myself, or even my mates. If you dont want to see some one, man up and end it before you make things worse than they are, otherwise i see that as being deliberately malicious. Ive also said that if my mates ever find out that a partner is cheating on me, to tell me straight away, dont hide it from me EVER!

As for my phone, ill generally answer it if some one rings, i make myself available for people if they need me. Thankfully no one wants my advice unless theyre after something thats not sugar coated to make it go down nicely, so i rarely get called, and certainly not repeatedly. That said, ive fallen asleep texting people and on the phone to people before. wake up with half a text typed out or a message saying 'guess you fell asleep' lol! Usually though, once im asleep, itll take a bit to wake me up.

Also, forgot i had this picture too!

Oooh, another awesome picture, Assassin!

I don't tolerate cheating either, but (due to my experience with a long distance relationship) I understand the horrific and soul crushing loneliness that could entice one to cheat. I never would, never have, and never will cheat on someone, however, and if you cheat on me, you better run, because I'll kill you if I get to you before my anger reflex dies down. You can also guarantee I'll make your mere existence in the world very inconvenient.

Yeah, I'm the same way as you Assassin. Told my friends that if they had proof my partner was cheating on me, to tell me right away. Hell, one time we got proof by my friend acting as bait(the girl I was dating didn't even know him).

Ive been in a long distance relationship before, lasted almost 2 years. The whole pressure of her parents not knowing, the fact she was 14 when we started "dating"(I was 18 when we started), and the fact she thought she couldn't trust me pretty much ended it. I was even planning on going to visit her(already had hotel room for myself booked) for our second anniversary, good thing the hotel refunded my money.

But like both of you have said, I don't tolerate cheating, and I would never cheat on someone. I will always break up with someone if I thought we weren't doing each other any good.

I don't think there's ever an excuse for cheating. It's kind of everyone's worst nightmare when you're in an exclusive relationship, I think. It's mental torture to wonder why the other person was better than you, where you went wrong, as if the downfall of your relationship was your fault and you remained ignorant to it. In my really horrible relationship, out of everything, the cheating was probably the one that drove me the most mad and tore me down, paired with the awful things that were said to me. It's safe to say I'll never cheat.


Just gonna awkward turtle this one in. Not great timing.
I took it to put it on my Tumblr, and so I had a slightly better picture than a mirror shot that was current.

Its still a nice picture Lenora.

And wow, awful things said to you in addition to the cheating? What is wrong with people these days? Some people just need to win a Darwin Award...with a little assistance of course. :ninja:

This is why I don't get polyamorous relationships...or polygamy. I mean...wtf? You're freaking giving your partner the go ahead to cheat on you! How does that shit work?

Haha, right? I used to think some people just didn't have a jealousy gene in them or something, but I've been watching Sister Wives and that's obviously not the case.

Honestly enough...I don't think the women of Sister Wives are all that happy...

You know, I think the people in a Polygamist relationship think that they are too hot for just one person, which is why they go into such things. It just makes me wonder WHY people would subject themselves to that, when you can only please one person at a time....unless many people want something to happen to you, and it happens...otherwise, its retarded.

On the note of pictures, I'm thinking I'm going to take a picture of a good ol' Southern Alberta winter when it finally snows here. Though, I kinda wish that I was going out for Halloween, since my friend at work gave me an awsome costume idea...dress as an Eskimo. xD

Yeah. You just know the men in those relationships are screwed in the head and think that they're too good for just one woman...and the women have usually got to have some weird "I'm not good enough" complex, so they don't care that they aren't getting the respect that monogamy is all about.

That's awesome! ^_^ I'll have to take some pics of the mountains when it snows here, undoubtedly, on Halloween day. :lol:

Actually, i know several people that do poly relationships, and hats off to them IMO. I find that theyre more attentive to their partners, more aware of what each person is wanting/needing from each other etc. And also, its the women in these instances wanting and enjoying the poligamous nature of the freedom to love, not the blokes. For the most part, its one woman dating a few select men, all of who are aware of each other. The key to a relationship of that nature is openness and trust.

Cheating, to me, is inexcusable. If youre feeling tempted because your partner is long distance and you havent seen them for an extended period of time, then maybe you need to re-evaluate why youre feeling like that in the first place, and then do something to rectify that problem thats not cheating.

Although i couldnt do that myself, i dont mind the person im with having fun with blokes around her provided shes not kissing them etc, all provided that i can see her and i know that im the one shes going home with at the end of the night. If she wants to flirt a bit with a few blokes, turn a few heads, tease a few sleazes at the pub or something, i can laugh at that, because i know shes all for me still and just toying with them.

To get back on topic though, this is a picture i took of myself at work probably a year ago after cleaning out some filters of all their dust...

I've never seen a woman with more than one man around here, but it's probably just because the media makes a big deal about the guy with 10 women and doesn't bother to search out the other extreme.

Yeah, you do need to reevaluate yourself and what's going on if you're in an ldr and thinking about cheating, but what I was saying is that ldr's show you why some people cheat. The loneliness is, and can be, unbearable.

I watched a Raising Hope episode that I really loved about reverse gender polygamists once. This lady had three husband and there are all, well... Stereotypically flamboyant. I think a lot of people wonder about poly sex lives and this was just the best.

I would be interested to see that show, since the only thing I've ever encountered that had to do with polygamy was a man with several wives. It must be a mind-blow to see it the other way around.

I honestly dont know how blokes can handle more than one woman at a time, especially blokes that cheat... one woman is MORE than enough trouble! :P

*ducks for cover*

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Ely, thats an AWESOME siggy youve got there!

It's okay, I feel the same way about women and I am one. :lol: I don't know how one would handle more than one guy, either, though. :XD

Thanks, Assassin. Was it a particular pic/quote or just the entire randosig itself?

It was the one about the Reality of Fear.

Ahhhh, yes. I've had that quote in there for awhile, so I forget about it, but it's very true.