*hugs for mellie fairy* :heart:

wow... my kids are treated so much different by the grandparents....

My kids are spoiled, I think part of the reason is they don't see them too often. If we lived closer I'd have to deal with them being over every weekend, I'm sure of it. @[email protected] That's the only reason Scott and I are on the fence about moving back to So. Cal. We'd love to be near everyone, but damn it we need our space. We're still taking flight so to speak and want to stand on our own...but they keep trying to cushion around us and it's really difficult.
Scott and I were two of the favorites of the families though. The children with the most potential, so I think they just want to make sure our kids have the best they can possibly get. Which is nice, but a little over bearing at times. ^^;;
Scotts mom is retired and helping out his brother a lot who has spent the last... 5 years jumping from college to college thinking about what jobs he wants, going to training schools and never getting a job with those skills etc, moving in and out of her place and just all around kinda slacking at getting his life going. So I think she might think that we need the same help he does, and even though we don't she has the mentality of equality (among her sons anyway...not so much among my kids...) that she has to spend the same amount of each of them. So she's been making his brothers car/insurance payments for a while even though he just bought a NEW car instead of a used, has NO job etc...so she wants to do stuff for me and scott and we're like...save it. We don't need anything. She's like the doting grandmother that gives you ugly sweaters for Christmas. >.> lol. Sometimes...I just want to take care of my family with out all the extra outside influence. I know I should be happy and grateful for it... but it's just so... much.

:hug: for Snow. xD

Maybe that is the issue ><;; Dillon's mom's obvious favorite is his older sister... ><;; they are like best friends not mother and daughter... But I don't think Jayden gets TONS of stuff from grandma either... My mom hates me sometimes I am almost sure of it... I am pretty sure her favorites lie in my two middle siblings... I think she views me as a failure...

That is nice that she tries to keep it even though... My mom and MIL are not so much... When I told my mom that I just had to spend nearly $300 on new school uniforms for Mikes and new shoes etc (not to mention his school supplies....) she just laughed... My mother in law.... just conveniently never has any money... I am pretty sure all her extra goes to cigarettes and pot >.>

Having family members with addictions can be hard. >.> My brother in law is a smoker, and I think that's where a lot of his money goes, and why he never has money and there for has to go crying to mommy to make his car payments, insurance payments, and for gas money. It's like seriously? Grow up and stop smoking. It will save you at least $100 a month! (I have no idea how much he actually spends on cigarettes, but he only uses the expensive ones, and goes through about a pack a day...I'm assuming it would save at least that much.)

Okay, this baby has been dancing on my bladder all day. I swear I've almost peed myself twice. >.< Now it's attacking the pudge below my boobs but above my belly with it's little wandering appendages. It feels so weird. I'm wearing a dress...and I can see it moving where he's moving. I think this is the coolest and most random part of being pregnant. Feeling something, and not knowing what it looks like or how big it is...just knowing that it's healthy and I guess happy, and wants you to know that it's there. <3 baby. I think I also enjoy this part of pregnancy because I still have room to breathe (well with one I do anyway, it was a different story with twins) and I know that the end is close. I can't wait to meet this little guy, and even more so have his daddies meet him. It's going to be such a great experience!

Yeah my mother in law is ALWAYS witching about money... >.> it makes me mad cause she is guaranteed 40 hours a week... And makes $10 an hour... That means in a normal 8 hour day (and she USUALLY works 8-9 hour days) she is getting $80 a DAY to work... But she was asking Dillon for money ><;; when he was working for BARELY over minimum wage... When he was getting 20 hour weeks ><;; I know for a fact our house payment is more then hers at the moment so I get rather frustrated with that... Not that I don't think Dillon should be responsible for his loans through his mom... But if you can't support your family then bills that were stupidly added on because your parents wanted you to live comfortably during college... No... No I don't think that you should be responsible if you can't afford to just LIVE... I get so mad when I think about his loans... She took out the loan nearly big enough to pay off our house for Dillon to rent a house with FOUR other people... >.>* because Dillon didn't like the fact that the dorms that had been taken over by the school did not allow any food heating devises in the rooms... >.> I think that it would have been cheaper to eat the dorm cafeteria food (and more nutritious then the Ramen he ate everyday too) then it would have been to rent the stupid house!


Glad to hear that you are enjoying it Mellie lol...

lol. lavishness comes back to bite him in the ass. >.<

When scott was in A-school they had to stay at a dorm like thing. They weren't allowed food heating things either, they had a fridge in the room and that was it. There was a cafeteria at the bottom level of the building, I liked it when he ate there...it was cheaper. Something like .75 for breakfast, $1.50 for lunch and $3 for dinner... if he went out he would spend over $10/meal. We were saving up to buy our house at that point in time so it really irked me when he would go out to eat with friends instead of just going down to the 'mess hall' I can understand why though...when you're away from family it's nice to have someone to hang out with. But it still irked me. >.>

No his lavish living is biting me and MY family in the ass... <.< but at least I knew it was there BEFORE we got married ><;;

His was more expensive then that but man where can you cook a meal for less then 3 dollar person... It irks me that he chose the lifestyle of paying someones mortgage for them (probably 4X's over since each person was paying close to 500 a month >.> and housing here is rather cheep) and to also pay for EVERY utility but trash... and food on top of it all... Wouldn't it have been easier to pay the like $200 the dorms were asking and only to have to worry about buying food in the cafeteria...?

You would think. But some men don't think all that often. >.>

How close is to he paying his mom back for what she spent?

A lot >.>... Well more then half of our house loan... >.>

ouch. o.o that was a bad decision on both his moms and his part.

I think his mom should have been more responsible... Most 18 year olds don't see that far beyond their noses >.>;; they also don't want to live uncomfortably so OF COURSE they are going to think house > dorm... ><;;

My sister is a GREAT example... She is living in the "upper class dorms" at the moment... Right now she is like OMG yes FREEDOM!!! But when the bills come a rollin in.... She'll be thinking differently I think..... All her bills are HER responsibility... My mom is smart... No loans for her! All for us! I agree with that policy! There is no reason for my sister to live at the dorms when my mom lives only a few miles from the school... Even if she would just prefer NOT to live with my mom... She could save money by living in the less expensive on campus dorms ><;;

I lived with my mom when I was going to college. The saved money was totally worth it. Even when I paid my mom rent it was nothing compared to what dorms or an apartment would have cost us.

I figure to help my kids out with money for college. My mom has helped me out with buying text books when I couldn't afford it. I think she spent about $200 a semester on me. Sometimes more...since sometimes I needed help with buying groceries. >.> Yeah. I figure to help my kids out in small ways, but I don't want them being irresponsible with money either. Hopefully they'll go to college close to home so it's not nearly as expensive as it could be. fingers crossed?

Dillon went to college out of town but still in the same state... So it made since that he had to get either a dorm or a cheep apartment... But he also could work too so some of those expenses wouldn't be so bad >.> there was no reason to take out a loan the size of a small house loan......

I'll help the kids with what I can. Both boys should get a good amount from grants if they are smart about it ^^ and they can pay the rest off with loan in their own names like I did... >.>;; If they go to school in town they can live at home with me... If they don't... They will have to figure out their own expenses... I had to work and go to school it was hard... But if I can do it anyone can..

Like I said, my mom helped with mine. I had grants that covered most of my expenses for my associates degree. I'm quickly running out of my grant money though, so I know my bachelors will cost me more.

I went to two different community colleges for my associates. My brother is doing the same. For a while he was living with my mom and going to college out of the city. The drive wasn't bad, so the cost of gas was less than the cost of getting his own place out there. I had a lot of friends cursing going straight into a state college instead of a community college first. They said it didn't help them at all, it just amassed more debt. Which is pretty much how I viewed the whole thing. >.>

Eh, I don't mind helping my kids financially. Just because I had it hard doesn't mean they do. I'd like to take some of the hardships of life off of them. After all it seems that you can't get anywhere any more with out a college degree...though now you need to get degrees, but getting the degree over qualifies you for the position so you're still stuck with out a job. >.< Here's hoping that improves in the next 15 years!

Like I said I will help but I am NOT taking out loans for them... ><;; I think it is just silly to have THAT much money on my back with no sure fire guarantee that they will graduate (not saying they won't cause I really want them to... But the reality is that there are a LOT of people who drop out of college... I am a good example of that >.>;; though I do have one degree so I guess that doesn't really count...)

Yeah 4 year colleges are soooo expensive... I am glad I got most of my gen ed stuff finished at the 2 year college... I also am probably going to attempt to take classes through the two year college for anything under 300 level since it will be cheaper (and a smaller class size and also the community college are WAY more understanding about life having other obligations then just school)... That is if I can ever get Dillon to graduate.... He needs to fight with someone to get himself into classes this semester... I am terrified he is just going to let them screw him... He soooo needs to stand up for himself... ><;;

Ohh glitter on teh floor :drool:

shadow- exactly.

Jaz- I'm letting Scott take the semester off. He needs to take the entrance thing still and the high school for some reason canceled his request for records. So now I have to have him call the school for them to send them since the online thing for it isn't working. ugh.

One degree at a time Jazzy. One degree at a time. You're still able to go back at some point if and when you decide you want another degree, there's nothing saying you can't go back later. So don't consider yourself a drop out, you got one degree, and you can always go back and get another when you choose to. (:

Dillon really needs to stand up for himself... >.> he lets too many people step on him <.<;; and it irritates me... He was told he CAN'T go this semester cause of his advisor who refuses to answer/ return messages...

I'd head down to that adviser and give him a piece or two of advice. >.>

The semester here already started, and Scott wasn't able to get all the stuff together in time. Er, I wasn't able to get all the stuff together in time. >.< Since he was kinda busy working and stuff. haha. The problem is they only offer afternoon placement testing once a month and he normally has duty those days and so he can't leave early to go to them! It really sucks. </3 And our high school canceling his records request sucked too. I keep forgetting that they're 3 hours behind me and so he could call after work, but after work I start thinking it's too late since it would be too late if it was here...but CA is behind us!


OMG OMG OMG OMG!! Promotion ceremony for my lover-ly tomorrow! I'm soooo excited!

Woooohoo promotion!!!

Our semester is started too... It started on the 20th... Dillon signed up for classes on the 16th because we just walked in on his adviser since he would NOT return our calls or emails...... Then Dillon found out that his appeal to financial aide was too late... ><;; it wouldn't have been if his damn adviser would have answered the DAMN calls... Bah... Then the jerk didn't even have all the paperwork we needed to get the appeal either <.< I was so angry... Still am... But here I can't do ANYTHING for him....

Yeah, I'd be pissed if I was you too. Theres no reason for the adviser not to be doing HIS JOB. I'd consider a complaint to his superiors about it. My adviser was the same way though. She never returned my calls or showed up to our appointments on time. Which sucked, because I would have to make them to suit her schedule and work my family around it...and then it would take 3 times as long because she couldn't be bothered to show up and I'd have to find someone who knew where she was, have them call her cell phone and then she would just tell them to take care of whatever it was I needed. WTF is the point in Having an adviser if they're NEVER there to advise/register you for classes? Total bull. I think the position should be completely nixed from campuses across the country. No one seems to do the job right. xD

I didn't take pictures. D: Scott had me pin on one of his crows, so instead of being able to sit down and take pictures of it happening, I had to be up there doing the pinning. booo. I know it's an honor to pin them on and everything, and I feel special that he'd rather me do it than some of his superiors but I kinda just wanted to take pictures. ^^;;

Advisers at most community colleges are teacher-advisers... In this case he is actually the dead of the department... So I believe the next person up is the Deen.... ><;; I've never had to go farther up but I have had two teachers that were head of their department that I wanted to just stab... They were TERRIBLE... Then I have had to go to the math head when I was unable to EVER get a hold of my math teacher one semester... I adored my teacher/adviser/ head of the ECE department... She was awesome all but one semester and that is cause it was my HARDEST semester ever! It was more me then her honestly....

Sorry you didn't get pictures that really sucks :(

I only had the one adviser. xD After being screwed out of classes by her one semester I gave up on going to her and just called the school and made an appointment to see one of the admissions reps and signed up for classes that way. I knew she wouldn't return my phone calls and so I just went around her for my second year there. They always asked if I'd talked to my adviser about my class choices before seeing them, I told them she wouldn't answer my calls or call me back and I didn't want to wait any longer to get classes since there were only a few I needed before graduation, and they let me get away with it. Thankfully!

Hey, Mellie. <3