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#4776
Old 09-13-2010, 07:00 PM

Yeah, I didn't have it with either of my previous pregnancies so when it started I was like OMG NOOOOOOO!!

We were supposed to be going out shopping, I made Scott and the kids go and I curled up in a ball on my bed. I'm such a drama queen. ^^;;

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#4777
Old 09-13-2010, 07:09 PM

Oh god... I don't know how I'll react if that happens to me when I'm pregnant, but you can bet that it won't be good. x_x

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#4778
Old 09-13-2010, 07:11 PM

I'm whinny and complainy... At least I was with my last one... With Mikes I was pretty content....

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#4779
Old 09-13-2010, 07:25 PM

I'm whiney to begin with. lolz. Add on a pregnancy and I whine even more. I swear I do it out of love though...or discomfort. Either or.

I was pretty content with Sakuras pregnancy, even with the insane morning sickness, but I was waaaaay more emotional with her. Teenage hormones and pregnancy hormones was a really bad combination!
The twins I was pretty content with too, until the end when it was unbearably hot and I was insanely pregnant!

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#4780
Old 09-13-2010, 07:33 PM

I was emotional... But I couldn't tell what was caused by pregnancy and what was caused by my ex... and my mother.... >.>;;

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#4781
Old 09-13-2010, 07:35 PM

Other than some of my family being dicks during my prengnacies, I didn't really have anything to be emotional about...so I think most of it was just the pregnancy.

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#4782
Old 09-13-2010, 07:45 PM

Clair hopes people in her family are excited about the baby when she's pregnant. xD

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#4783
Old 09-13-2010, 07:59 PM

During my first pregnancy my mom wasn't too bad... My ex was TERRIBLE!!!!!!

With Sean my mom and Dillon both cause strife T_T

I am praying my next will be less controversial :/

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#4784
Old 09-13-2010, 08:35 PM

why was it so controversial, Jaz?

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Old 09-13-2010, 08:47 PM

My mom isn't a very nice or understanding person... Dillon and I had been dating a year and we weren't married or engaged... When she found out I was pregnant with Sean... She literally threw her hands in the air and said "It doesn't matter I'm JUST GRANDMA! It's not MY problem..."

Dillon was in Denver and we fought a lot... Because I was FORCING him to chose between what would be his family and his elite overpriced school...

I started my pregnancy VERY excited... I had wanted another baby since Mikes was a month old ><;; I wanted my kids to be really close together.... Not nearly 4 years between all of them like they turned out... But after my mom's proclamation... I got more and more depressed and questioned myself at every turn... And it cause more fights between Dillon and I because she was telling me he wasn't stepping up to be a father... etc... ;_; it makes me sad just thinking about it... My Aunt's response to finding out was "Doesn't she know what a condom is?" I was so upset... I was on birth control >.>; and if the doctors were right which I question but they don't they told me he was conceived at the time where we were using BOTH condoms and birth control.... :/

I am hoping that because I shared that I PLAN on trying for a baby again in the near future... That my mom won't be so....... Heartless :/ because I don't know if I could handle another pregnancy as emotional as Sean's was....

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#4786
Old 09-13-2010, 08:50 PM

Oh god.. that's my worst nightmare that my mother will be like that. :( And I dread my in-laws.

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#4787
Old 09-13-2010, 08:53 PM

My in laws aren't bad... I'll complain about them... But mostly cause my Mother in law is dumb with money and it irritates me... To no end...

It is the most hurtful thing in the world when your parents aren't supportive of you T_T

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Old 09-13-2010, 08:55 PM

I don't give two shits (sorry for the language) what my dad thinks in the future about my husband and children. It's mom that I worry most about. :(

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#4789
Old 09-13-2010, 09:03 PM

My mother in law told me to abort Sakura because Scott and I weren't ready for the responsibilities of parenthood and there was no way we would manage.
My brother in law told Scott I purposefully got pregnant to trap him into marrying me.
My mother was supportive of me and my decision to keep the baby. I think my dad thought it was a bad idea, but knew he couldn't change my mind anyway and so he just went along with it all and told me he would help if/when he could.

With the twins, we went down from our place in Nor Cal to visit family and tell them the news in person. We got to Scotts moms house and started talking about random things and Scott said he had a surprise for her, and her response was "Don't tell me Melanie is pregnant again [/annoyance] So Scott looked at her and was like, in that case, no, we don't have anything to tell you, we're going to go have dinner at Melanies moms now.
3 months after that ish Scott had a birthday and his mom and brother both got him a package of condoms for his birthday. :/ I was ticked.

Families make any pregnancy that happens when you're young difficult it seems. :/ Granted all of my babies were born before I turned 20...but still. I don't think I could have managed being pregnant or having twin babies right now. I'd be completely exhausted! If it weren't for my teenage energy at that point in my life I would have passed out dead.
I'm just happy I had my moms support with both of them, more than just her support though, she was excited for them.

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Old 09-13-2010, 09:24 PM

God, some people are hateful! D<

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#4791
Old 09-13-2010, 11:43 PM

Yes, yes they are.

What really got me was how much his mom wanted to be a part of her life after she was born. It was like seeing her changed her opinion on everything. I still haven't forgiven her for what she said...nor do I think I really need to. I'm glad I didn't listen to her, and that Scott was against the idea as well.

His family didn't trust me. We'd been together for almost 3 years, but because it was a high school relationship no one thought it would or should come to anything. *shrugs* I was happy in the relationship then, and I'm still happy in it now, and the in laws have changed their tunes...and I think are suffering for their previous attitudes. I'm much closer to my mother than I am to them, and we spend more time with my mom because of it. As much as I know they want to see the kids...I just don't trust them like I do my mom. Words and actions from the past have a way of coming back and kicking you in the butt.

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#4792
Old 09-14-2010, 01:10 PM

Clair... My father has no idea (to my knowledge) that he is a grandfather... He has been living in Southern California since I was 15... He never calls... He never writes... he doesn't even bother to ask after us :/ so I could careless what he thinks... I am more referring to people who are close to one or both parents.... I was pretty close to my mom... And her disapproval of my second pregnancy was pretty hurtful... I was paying for my own rent I had a job... And I supplied everything Sean needed and more >.>; there was no reason for her hostility... It was intended to be hurtful and it was :(

But I've started to see that my mom is just like that... She says that my house is worthy of her calling Social Services... It is not dirty...... There are no dirty dishes in the sinks.... The laundry is confined to two baskets (whites and colors).. The places where we are all day are relatively clutter free... She is making that judgment based on the three side rooms (which just FYI are closed off all day everyday unless I am back there trying to get them more organized) which have for now been kind of been being used for storage... :/ She also told me that I am not suppose to enjoy life... Because I chose the role of stay at home mom... But I've been full time working mom.... and she has said the same thing... She just thinks that mom's are not entitled to enjoyment...

She told me that it is my job to clean everything all the time and Dillon's job is to go to work and fix things even though his job is not in any way physically or mentally taxing he literally reads and plays chess etc while waiting for a sales rep to call... There is no reason why he can't help maintain a house WITH me >.>;;

Dillon asked what she would do if we switched rolls... And he stayed at home and I worked... I think my mom would still expect that I do everything... >.> It is just the way she sees the position of being a mother... She sees motherhood=slavery... I don't see it the same way... I see Dillon and I as partners... He helps make the mess and helps clean it... I take care of the kids all day... I entertain them... I teach them... I clean a bit.... And I cook... That is my job... And sometimes I require a break.... >.>;; just like anyone with a job!

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Old 09-14-2010, 01:20 PM

@ Jaz:: I have more contact with my father than that, but I still could care less what he thinks. I know, though, how awful mom's disapproval could be. It hurts.

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#4794
Old 09-14-2010, 02:29 PM

I'd be super pissed if motherhood DID equal slavery. Some days it may have a feel of it, but if motherhood wasn't enjoyable I doubt anyone would become parents!
Gosh Jaz, you guys must have been a pretty roudy bunch of kids to give your mom that impression. :P Or perhaps she just never learned to take joy in the little things life offers. Even bad days have good sprinkled about in them!

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Old 09-14-2010, 05:09 PM

Yeah, another nightmare of Clair's is that she'll marry some dominant "I'm the man, what I say, goes, no ifs ands or buts about it" type guy. Obviously, she'd probably know before marrying him if he were like that, but it's still a scary idea. >.>

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#4796
Old 09-14-2010, 05:16 PM

It is a scary idea. I wouldn't put it past some men to hide who they truely are until after marriage. Just like I wouldn't put it past some women to do the same to men.

I'm running out of time. I still need to finish decorating the kids birthday cake. >.< I've got it baked, cooled and frosted, but I need to make it look like a drum now. At least, do the best i can to make it look like a drum. xD

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Old 09-14-2010, 10:11 PM

OH! The twins, right? :D What is their birthday?

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Old 09-14-2010, 10:13 PM

Mellie... I THINK a lot of it was that my father DID treat her like a slave she worked 40+ hours a week and always demanded she do AS MUCH overtime as possible... and then when she came home she would have to clean the whole house... That was how most of our childhood was... My dad slept all the time and yelled at us to clean or drugged us to make us sleep... :/

Cause in my mother's eyes... The woman is required to do everything and the man is required to do nothing... My mom pisses and moans all the time because I am not working... So there for I am NOT "doing my job as a mother." If I would have married Mikes dad I would have been in the position she wants me in I think... It is terribly depressing...

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#4799
Old 09-14-2010, 11:43 PM

My father was like that with my mother.

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#4800
Old 09-15-2010, 01:54 AM

Yeah but does your mom think that was right? My mom swears he was wrong to do that to her... But it is somehow ok to suggest that I be treated the same way :/

Why won't my son stay out of my purse GEEEZ

 


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