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09-15-2010, 02:52 PM
Cuz all the cool stuff is in your purse duh!
I'm always surprised when people use double standards like that Jaz. They know something is wrong, they experienced that it was wrong, and yet, that's how they expect other people to live their lives. Like seriously? I see no reason to keep the...wrong...ness going on! Stop the cycle and make it RIGHT. You're a good mother to your kids, you take care of your husband, and your house. That's all you need to do. Your husband is working to support you and your family and he's helping to care for the house too, a house is an investment by BOTH parties not just one! Your mom needs to get with the times!
Clair- their birthday was yesterday. :3 They turned 4 OMG! lolz.
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09-15-2010, 03:02 PM
D'aww! :D CONGRATS! :heart: The twins are so cute. :3
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09-15-2010, 04:50 PM
I guess Dillon asked my mom what she would do if we switched places and she said that she didn't think it would be ok with me if we switched places... Which I don't know at this point.... I ask Dillon to do things for me when he has time and he doesn't do them so what is to make me believe that he would do MORE of them without me to nag about it when we switched.... She said that he would keep the house better then I would and that she wouldn't nag him as much >.> SAYS FREAKING WHO!!!!!!!!
Then he asked what if we both worked? And then she replied that "my (meaning me) excuses might work then" First off MY "excuses" consist of I have lots room and no storage... The STUFF I have in each room is specifically FOR that room so it is in a way where it belongs... I just lack shelving/ cabinets and PLACES to put said stuff... >.> so it sits on the floor or counters instead ><;; But yes the three rooms that are like that out of the 9 and a large hall way total are not used for anything they have "plans" but they are not guaranteed to be what happens to them.... So right now there is a LOT of storage type stuff going on... She is INSISTING that I am blaming my thyroid for everything and that I act like my father >.>;... I blame my thyroid for making me lose appetite... sexual desire... anxiety and depression and for my complete hate of ALL weather ><;; lol... Lately I have been really tired... But I don't know why... It is not a symptom of my thyroid unless my thyroid is way out of whack again which I know it is not because I have not had an increase of anxiety or depression... >.> so NO I am not blaming my thyroid.... I blame my laziness sure... I am LAZY... But there is only so much I can do without a place to put everything...
And just to let you know when I was a single mom living on my own working two jobs and going to school she still acted like I wasn't doing enough <.<
In a side... Not any happier note.... >.> Jayden pissed on my carpet!!!! She took off her diaper pissed and then re-snapped her diaper... And Dillon laughed >.> ROAR.... I am SOOOOO fed up with watching her and dealing with her behaviors.... At least Sean's bad behaviors I have no one to blame but myself..... With her I can't stop them cause they are allowed at home >.>
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09-15-2010, 05:03 PM
She's allowed to pee on the floor at home? D:
I hope you made Dillon clean it up for laughing. >.> That's what I would have done. You think it's so funny? CLEAN IT UP!
Scott keeps commenting on my lack of sexual desire. It's not that I don't want it, it's that I'm scared of sex at this point. xD It caused me to go into labor with Sakura AND the twins, I'm not ready to have this baby yet, It's not ready to be born yet. I'd like to make it to 38 weeks. >.< I feel bad, but damn it, baby needs to get bigger ( D: ) and it's lungs need to develop completely before I risk having it!
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09-15-2010, 05:12 PM
I know her discipline is REALLY minimal at home... I don't think they LET her pee on the floor but I am sure there reactions were probably similar to Dillon's... I was referring to her other behaviors like NEVER listening... "sit down Jayden" she stands there and stares at me even though I will tell Sean to sit and so will she (proof she KNOWS what I am saying)... Throwing her chewed food on the floor... etc... The boys would get their mouth smacked for that... I don't feel right smacking her mouth ><;;
Yes Dillon is cleaning it with the steamer as I type...
My lack of desire is actually medical... :/ it doesn't mean that I don't do (or enjoy) sex ... I just don't have the drive to have sex like Dillon does... I would be completely content if no one ever mentioned it... It just doesn't work that way :P My husband is healthy and has a healthy desire for it...
I can understand not wanting to have sex because of the risk though <3
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09-15-2010, 05:21 PM
Scott just gets annoyed at me for it. He understands why I've been saying no lately, but it doesn't stop him from being annoyed. >.<If we do have sex and I go into labor he'll feel awful though! Poor kid can't win.
It's hard dealing with a child that doesn't have the same rules as yours do. Children need consistency to do anything right, and if she isn't being made to follow rules at her home, she certainly won't follow the rules at yours unless you force it on her. >.<
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09-15-2010, 06:07 PM
Your not just preachin' to the Choir! I know full well that not setting down FIRM rules causes nothing but trouble...! I am VERY well away that my kids would behave better if I were stricter with them...
At least he understands... There are a lot of men out there who wouldn't care...
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09-15-2010, 06:31 PM
Pfft, tell Scott, the next time he asks : "You wanna have sex? Be warned that if we do, it could possibly cause me to go into while in bed with you." ;) Usually, that would be a turn off for a guy. xD
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09-15-2010, 07:32 PM
lol Clair. I've pretty much told him that before, it doesn't really turn him off. He's well aware that I've gone into labor with it before (twice! D: ) He thinks it's worth the risk, I think it would be worth the risk if it was our child, but not since it's someone elses. xD I know how expensive NICU stays are, and I don't want to put that financial burden onto my IP's! (But I don't mind doing it to the military...lolz)
I could be stricter with my kids...but I don't think I really need to be. I fret over little things that they do that drive me crazy, but whenever someone else baby sits them, they're always willing to do it again and tell me the kids were really good. And when asked they are always happy to accept baby sitting them again. So I don't think they're bad kids, or even have that many bad habits, I think I'm just crazy/expect more than I should while other people just see kids that normally listen. Granted they don't have to try to get them to clean their rooms...but ya know, they could be far worse so I'll count my blessings. xD
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09-15-2010, 07:45 PM
I sweat all the small stuff too... I was meaning I see that my kids behave better for Dillon because he sets the rules and sticks to them... They behave better for him then they do for me...
The worst thing Sean does is bites... Other then that there is a lot of attitude thrown about by both boys... And getting into things they shouldn't but really they aren't too bad!
My friends who have watched them say that they are good ^^
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09-15-2010, 07:53 PM
I think my kids have horrible attitudes for me. Like right now Melody is completely unable to put on her socks and shoes so we can go pick up Scott. She's thrown herself onto the floor and is whining because putting on her socks is "too much!" and I'm like...I want to take a paddle to your bottom! D:< It's so incredibly pathetic how she's acting right now, and it's grating me to the nerves. It's not like a terrible thing she's doing either, It's just friggan annoying, because the little things will maker her do this, and she ONLY does it with me.
She's in the corner now. She got one sock on and I told her to put on the other sock...so what does she do? She takes the sock she was wearing OFF of that foot to put on the other. :/ Yeah, corner time for miss "I don't need a nap" :/
I want my husband to be home now...I don't want to go get him with this drama llama in the back seat! >.<
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09-15-2010, 07:58 PM
OMG my little brother use to do stuff like that... He took NO JOKE NO EXAGGERATION 3 HOURS to put on his socks and shoes every morning... My mom had to get him up before all of us so he wouldn't make us late... It was terrible!!! Except he said if he didn't get his socks'shoes on JUST right that they felt funny and he would have to take the whole sock/shoe off to fix it
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09-15-2010, 08:02 PM
Right now it's because she has to wear Sakuras socks becasue she's left all of hers dirty around her room instead of putting them in the wash for me. So she's all out of clean socks...and I'm like well duh you don't put them in the laundry!
But Kuras socks are too big! [/whine whine whine] and I just don't care. >.> They're socks. She's also managed to lose ALL THREE pairs of her sandals in bedrooms or left outside...or something, so she has to wear her real shoes instead of putting on sandals. She's pissed, but it's her own damn fault. If she would LISTEN to me and put stuff where they belong instead of just flinging it all over the place and hoping that I pick it up like a friggan MAID it would be sooo much easier on her. But does she? No. Yes, I'm annoyed. Highly, highly annoyed.
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09-15-2010, 10:22 PM
I say we need to get together Mellie... Lock the 6 kids in the playroom together while we go somewhere else in the house and ignore them for an hour.... and the 1 that survives can go home lol or stay home... My money is on Kura!
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09-15-2010, 10:29 PM
Were the twins in the NICU? :O
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09-16-2010, 12:00 AM
Melody spent two days in the NICU, er partial days anyway. She spent some time up with me as well, but she was attached to monitors and had an IV in her...leg, or arm. I can't remember which. Aaron spent the whole time with me, minus like 6 hours at night when I sent him off to the nursery so I could get some sleep in my room. Not that it helped much since doctors/nurses come in every friggan 2 hours to check blood pressure and the amount of bleeding after birth. Or the c-section scar depending on the type of birth anyway. Either way, it sucked having people come in all the time and wake me. xD They would also sometimes bring me Aaron or Melody when they got fussy/hungry so I'd wake up to feed them too... Wow I make a lot of long rambly answers...haha.
Jaz- Where you at? We'll meet half way. xD
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09-16-2010, 12:09 AM
Aww, poor Mellie! D":
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09-16-2010, 12:15 AM
Colorado so.... see you in a day or two? ROFL
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09-16-2010, 12:23 PM
Sounds like a plan Jaz!
Clair- eh, it wasn't so bad. xD I liked having the babies with me, I love my babies. I think the hardest part of the hospital stay with the twins was having them in the room, and having my friends bring Sakura over (Scott had left her with them while he came to check on me because he knew how she would react...they didn't >.<) So my mom, Scott, Sakura, the twins, and two of my close friends were in the room, and Sakura was attempting to crawl all over me, because she didn't want the babies near me, when my mom picked up one of the twins Sakura started throwing a fit, She almost knocked over my IV holder things twice, which would have hurt like hell since it was attached to my arm, She wanted to cuddle on my little bed thing, but would hit my incision site EVERY TIME SHE MOVED, and it was just horrible. I love Kura, to bits I love that girl...but she was so jealous of the twins, I have no idea why my friends decided to come and visit me there that day and bring her. >.< They should have waited until Scott got back to the house and then come to visit and left him with Kura. She needed individual attention that the hospital setting just wasn't going to allow since I needed attention and so did the twins.
It wasn't as horrible as it sounds, having a baby in the NICU. When Kura had her stay in there when she was born, I knew she was well taken care of because it was one nurse, and two babies. Much better nurse to baby ratio than the normal nursery. When Melody spent time there, I never actually got to see her in there, but Scott said it was the same nurse to baby ratio as Kura had. And Melody wasn't hooked up nearly as much as Kura was, they were just monitoring her O2 stats to make sure the spot on her lungs they saw was nothing. Which was the case.
>.> I need to take the twins down to school... quiet time you're almost mine!!
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09-16-2010, 12:46 PM
Yeah, it would be horrible to try and communicate that just because you have another baby (babies, in your case) you didn't suddenly stop loving Kura, especially when she was so little at time! D": It probably was really scary and confusing to see momma in a weird bed, hooked up to wires holding other babies; and worse, when she tried to be held, it was hurting momma's tummy! D":
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09-16-2010, 12:56 PM
Yeah, it was really hard. We'd done our best to prepare her for the thought of having more babies in the house. We got her twin dolls and she would carry them around semi-lovingly for a while.
In the hospital though, she was just angry. She wasn't even trying to be careful with anything. It was painful both physically for me, and emotionally.
What was really cute though was when the twins were about 3 months old she'd pretty much gotten used to them, and being around them with me. So every night before they would go to bed, I would nurse the twins for about 20 minutes each in a rocking chair in their room. She would join us, with a book and we'd read together. After about 2 nights of doing that she would come in with her twin dolls and hold them up to her chest as I read to her too. It was cute. ^^;; One of those things only breast-feeding mothers get. xD
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09-16-2010, 01:06 PM
Hehe Mikes use to nurse this doll he had when he was littler... I think I broke his heart later that year when i told him that he couldn't have babies :(
I do have to say Michael was very loving and happy in the hospital <3 it was when he got home that he was a terror... I think Sean is going to be like Kura when the next baby comes :/ he is so terrible with Jayden around... >.< I am terrified about how he is going to act with a new baby especially cause they have no way to fight his naughty back like Jayden does ><;;
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09-16-2010, 01:17 PM
Prepare both Mike and Sean for the new baby, even before you're pregnant. That way it doesn't come as a shock to them.
We tried our best to prepare Kura, but she was just so young. </3
You might be okay regardless. Aaron and Melody hated babies that I would watch randomly when they were two and a half, but they're both super excited about me having a baby. I keep telling them that it isn't mommies, and that it belongs to the two guys that randomly come over for doctors visits (and bring them presents. xD) and they get sort of sad about it. I've watched them playing with other semi-toddlers and they're happy with it. So you may be good since Sean will be over 3 when you get pregnant, possibly close to 4 when baby is born. He may also take cues from Mike on how to act. You'll also give him more cues of how to act around baby. And he won't be allowed to spend time with it/you when he isn't behaving because you can't risk him hurting baby. Jayden is a bit older, and she just popped into your lives pretty much, This baby he will have more time to get used to.
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09-16-2010, 01:24 PM
Aww, poor Mikes! D":
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09-16-2010, 01:40 PM
I plan to prepare them when it is closer to the time I plan on getting pregnant. That was part of the idea of buying Sean the baby doll... He isn't allowed to do anything to the baby he wouldn't be allowed to do to the real baby (except he holds her which he wouldn't be allowed to do with the real baby and he pretends to change her diaper... Another no go but those are loving nice things so I don't want him to get the wrong idea)... Mikes loves to play with the doll <3 he treats it so sweetly I think he is over whatever he had when he was Sean's age. ^^
Mikes was 3 when Sean was born... Nearly 4... I think it is part of the process to hate the baby in the beginning </3
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