I've never heard the term pussing out before. xD lol

Poor Chi. I hope your cold gets better soon, as well as the housing situation. Paying for heating in a too cold and drafty house would suck. We all have minor set backs sometimes though, so moving back in with your parents for a bit wouldn't be a failure, at least not to me. Sometimes shit happens and you have to put what's best for your family instead of your pride first. :hug:

Luckily I wouldn't be moving back in with my mom. She lives with her boyfriend 15 miles away. The house is empty. It's just that type of dependence is something I worked hard to avoid. In my family, if you get a favor, it's automatic expectation that you'll do anything they ask of you whenever they ask it. That is why I'm hesitant. The free rent isn't enough to make me go, "Okay!"

Ultimately you're right though. It's not about pride, but getting by. I hear the student loans are getting revamped a bit with a new law, and it would affect our supplemental income that way anyway. It might be better..

I won't know 'till we talk it through I guess!

REALLY YOU'VE NEVER HEARD IT? (uh, only the "really" should have been capped but apparently my brain or fingers are broken) I used it earlier emailing Dillon... I told him I didn't want to go to the District meeting by myself because I was afraid that there wouldn't be any other anti school closure supporters there... I told Dillon I was "pussing out" but it turned out I just COULDN'T make it rather then me being a pansy lol..

Good luck Chi I hope everything works out for you <3 I'm with you on moving back in with the parents... My mom would be the exact same...

I called last night only to get his voice mail, and his box was full, unable to accept any more messages. :|

I'll try tonight after class. I don't even want to go, being sick, but there's a lot I have to do, so.

Do they own a lot of rental properties?

I hope you can get this all figured out! I hate landlords who don't follow through... I've been lucky for the most part.... My first apartment was owned by a very old family friend and the SECOND something went wrong (which only happened once when the water heater decided to go capoot) he was out IMMEDIATELY... He even gave me a notice saying that I kept my house moderately clean when the reality of that apartment was I had piles of stuff everywhere... :( But in my defense I was working two jobs and going to school full time the whole time I lived there... I came home dropped off my stuff where ever and passed out on my futon with Mikes... :/ I think I had one day off a MONTH and it usually wasn't a day off without school it was a day off from both jobs... LOL... He was an awesome landlord... The other apartment I lived in was state owned and had a maintenance team so stuff usually got fixed that day unless it was a weekend :/ Then it had to be an emergency or you had to pay a ton extra...

I think we're the only people renting from them. I think this was a case of them buying a foreclosure home with the idea of fixing it up and making rent. We do know one of them got laid off recently. The voice mail did indeed say how things had gotten hard there. I get it. I do. But because life sucks sometimes doesn't mean it's on us. We'd have gotten our own house if we were ready to financially be able to take care of upkeep like that.

Dx

I was wondering because of the voicemail box being full thing... But if you are the only renters and more then likely you are paying as much or better then what their mortgage on the house is. Then why can't they just do what was requested... Honestly they should have done it in the beginning. Before "shit hit the fan" you know.... You never know what life is going to throw at you so don't drag out promises.... :/ at least that is how I see it... If I tell someone I tell someone I'll give them $50 for whatever, I don't mean I'll give it to them... Three months from now I mean I have the money now and if they want it for whatever need they have then they better get it cause it doesn't last long lol....

I called again and the voice box is still full. I wrote a letter laying it all out. It'll go out in tomorrow's mail. I'm unimpressed.

I really do hope it all works out for you Chi... You don't deserve to be treated like this... They said they would fix things and they are falling through... So not cool...


Oh my goodness I just spent a really long time putting away and organizing groceries... I need a bigger freezer O_o;; My fridge on the other hand looks bare if you take out the bread I stored in there to open up counter space :P

He called back, having probably seen his Caller ID. It didn't go well, and we're moving in December. It was a conversation that turned all about him and not about us. Did you know that this is a "life lesson" for us, that renting a house is far different than renting an apartment?

Apparently we're meant to pay $700 rent and deal with excess heating costs due to poor insulation on their part. And because THEY have run into massive financial difficulty, it's okay? Fuck that. Seriously.

I am going to attempt to put my positivity blinders on, because I can't let in the bad right now. I need to view this as a positive thing.

I'm so sorry Chi :'( *big hugs*

On the plus side, I guess we would be able to pay off some of our loans ahead of time..

Blarg money. That's a shitty situation and he's wrong in that even when renting a house the landlord is responsible for upkeep - but looking at it like you are (getting some loans paid off early) is totally a good thing.


Harry had his 1 year checkup yesterday and the little big is only 17 1/2 lbs - tiny little man! Doctor told me to feed him more butter and fat. :lol: Believe me - i'm trying, but the booger is apparently a fruitatrian and will only eat fruit :roll:

My Mom gave Chris and I early Christmas presents and we're leaving for a week in Florida Sunday to visit my grandparents - so excited. I really need some time away from work because my patience is wearing very thin - and I'm excited for Harry to get some time with his great grandparents.

Although poor planning on my part is that we leave on Sunday and Saturday is Harry's 1st birthday party so I haven't even started to pack yet because I've been trying to get the house ready for 20 people to come over and celebrate :gonk:

Oh Florida and a 1st birthday :D

Yup -all very exciting :D

I still can't get over that I have 1 year old child - I swear I was just pregnant- no way do I have an almost toddler. Just not possible.

I don't think that feeling ever goes away... I've gone through the 1, 2's & 3 year olds twice and I'm still in awe at how fast it goes :P I can't believe my oldest is 7 either O_o;;

I hear you. :( Mine just turned 14mos. It's so fast!

I remember those first few months seemed to last forever and I couldn't wait for them to pass - it was so difficult and exhausting- but now that it's done I'm kind of nostalgic (although I am totally loving that he sleeps for 9 hours at night most nights now)

I'm also really looking forward to the next steps - literally walking (he's still not quite there yet - but he's pulling to standing, creeping on furniture, and pushing toys around) and in a few months I want to start taking him to toddler storytimes (I'm such a library dork)

Reading = good! We read to Terra all the time, and I think library storytime sounds fantastic. :)

Terra is technically not the first infant I "raised". I went into her knowing how fast it goes. We had such a rotten battle getting breastfeeding going, but I refused to wish it away. She still sleeps with us and her longest stretch is 4 hours, but I know two or three years from now I'll miss snuggling with her in the middle of the night. T_T

Part of me will be happy to get my boobs and "life" back, and the other part knows I'll miss it once it's over.

Are you thinking of having more children eventually? On the fence over here!

He's still nursing as well - and it was a struggle at first between him being in the NICU, and then he was tongue tied so we had to get that fixed- but he's been sleeping pretty good at night lately (he goes down at round 7/8 and sleeps until 4/5 - then he comes into bed with us to nurse and sleep again until 6/7) Of course he has his nights where he's up at 12, 3, and 5 - but the are becoming more rare.

We always said 0 or 2 an since we have 1 I guess that means another- but I'm also not sure we can afford another child, things are really tight as it is right now. If we do have another it will be a year or two I think - I want Harry out of diapers and weaned before having another child.

Yay for nursing! It's difficult for me to find people (aside from you guys!) that believe in its longterm benefits.

I hear you on the money issues. Though what's going on here with the renting issue is ridiculous and unfair, once our lease is up we'll be living rent free, which frees up $700 a month. That's... a lot of money for diapers and such. It will take the pressure off if we do decide to try for a second baby. We both graduate in the summer of 2013, so we'd try to have the birth around then. Depends on my internship hours/daycare situation for Terra.

There's a really great resource near me (Breastfeeding Resource Center) that has monthly support group meetings. I've never made it to one but knowing that they are there is a big help to me.

But I live in a really progressive/ hippy area that embraces nursing, home births, etc.

I tried to do the math once for daycare for 2 kids and it was way more than we could afford - so unless my husband doubles his salary so I can stay home I'm not sure when we would be able to have another. Looking at the math with 2 kids in daycare I would be working pretty much just to pay for daycare. He may double his salary eventually - but not for at least another 2 years since he's about to start grad-school (maybe there will be some more recovery in the economy/ job market by then)

I want a home birth if I ever do it again. I live in a very close-minded area, save for a lot of the college population. Home births are somehow terrible, breastfeeding is sexual, etc.

We hope to get Terra into the local Montessori school, which is expensive but has scholarships available for those who need them. I'm not sure yet what the ultimate cost will be! Money is always the devil.

Hey ladies :) My daughter just turned 14 months. I was wondering if any of you nursed and for how long you did it/plan to do it and why. I'm still nursing and only after her first birthday started introducing more solid foods that weren't just baby mush. I was thinking of nursing until she is two, but not sure of the benifits at this point, etc.

My son just turned 1 and we're still nursing- I don't have a set date or age when I'll stop - I'm leaning towards child led weaning right now.

This site has a lot of great information and talks about the benefits of extended breastfeeding - kellymom.com :: Nursing After the First Year