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Old 12-21-2013, 05:51 PM

If it helps with periods, I should give it a try! x.x

I had two "superficial" tears, I guess they call it. I didn't need stitches but my midwife was being precautionary. I had no issues at all. My sister had a 9lb 10oz boy and didn't tear either. O_o; Terra was 8lbs 5oz.

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Old 12-21-2013, 07:23 PM

Can't imagine it would hurt :) I just really like the taste ;P with Sean they said I has "skid marks" Ellie who was bigger then Sean I didn't even have skid marks they said. I had stitches with Mikes it was worse then labor to have to sit there watching her stitch me like she was trying to pull fish up on a reel *shivers*

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Old 12-21-2013, 09:22 PM

*shivers too* The things we go through... xDD

You know what though? In all my prenatal care, not a single soul told me what to expect after birth. The recovery was much worse for me than the actual labor and delivery. I had sits baths and everything. But hell, if I bump my arm on a table corner it swells six times its size. :s

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Old 12-21-2013, 09:47 PM

Yeah after Mikes birth I had a terrible time healing. But I think that is part of first time mommydom... I healed a lot easier with Sean and Ellie. To be honest after both I didn't feel like I had just given birth, maybe an hour after delivery, unless I was coughing or sneezing then I'd feel it and of course when I nursed and it caused contractions, Ellie was the worst after birth contractions :O but I do think that labor is probably the most traumatic the first time.

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Old 12-21-2013, 11:01 PM

I'm still itching for another baby. >.> Still want a house first.

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Old 12-21-2013, 11:38 PM

Maybe it's because I am pregnant but all I want now is more stability. I am tired of treading Rocky ground in high heels :P we are on our way but I think it is time Dillon and I really set ourselves down a bit and focus on what we want too. Beyond kids. I know Dillon wants a degree and I want to further my education. I think both of us want more stable jobs too even if it is Dillon in a higher paying better benefits job while I manage at home.

I managed to get our stockings washed and now drying but I still haven't found our "s" hooks... Dillon is at his mom's telling his brother happy birthday right now so I am having trouble managing Ellie when I need to look upstairs! She is being fairly good but she's 2 and I can't trust her long enough for a good search.... plus my belly is in the way

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Old 12-22-2013, 12:05 AM

We have the financial stability, for the most part. Where our six month grace period ends January 1st, I need to do a little more budget calculations. If we hadn't been hit by the vehicle fiasco, we'd have some form of a savings. Bah. I really need to get a degree job with medical benefits offered. The premiums we'll have to pay starting the 1st are ridiculous.

I'd really like to get a house. Well, I'd love to build one to be honest. We're thinking of saving up enough cash to buy a plot of land and prepare it before THEN going for a home construction loan. I dunno. I'm still going to the bank after the credit card is paid off and I know what my income-based repayment plan will be for the student loans. I want to know what our options (if any) for home ownership are.

We took our presents downstairs. The only things left are the things from Santa that are still under the bed. I need to get those unwrapped and put together tomorrow night or Monday night. o.o I can't believe how fast it's crept up!

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Old 12-22-2013, 01:47 AM

I am kind of thinking that that is what we want to do too! Build a house. Probably out in Pueblo West sadly. :/ It is like a desert out there and there are coyotes and bob cats who like to eat small animals. :/ So that is an issue. but I really do want to build a house rather then have one that someone broke down for me :/ I am not sure but I want to solidify our 5 year plan we had started making a 1, 2, 5 and 10 year plan but we did not address things the way we had hoped. :/ Dillon was a big part of that but the time limits also crept up on us far quicker then we had expected. These were made before Ellie was born. We are quite quickly creeping up on what would have been the 5 year plan, and probably accomplished maybe one thing on it. If that :/

I think having the Mirena will help though. I won't be able to think about babies as easily as just stop the pill I'd have to really consider it. I'd have to have an appointment to have it out and such. I want more focus we really do need it. We really need to get to the base of WHAT we want in life beyond our babies!

We have all the presents that will be present under the tree pre-Christmas out already. I am finishing wrapping the santa gifts tonight. I just hung our stockings I went on a mad search for the "s" hooks only to find they don't fit over our curtain rod /lame... I am pleased as punch to see them up though they look GREAT!

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Old 12-22-2013, 01:59 AM

I saw the photos--lookin' good!!

Maybe you'll have a baby with me four or five years down the road. (: <3

I had wanted a baby by 26, and I did it. I didn't graduate as early as I had planned. I had thought I'd be in a house by now, too. If I were to be realistic (I don't wanna), the house thing isn't going to happen for about five years.

What's your ultimate life plan? I really should make one. o.o;

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Old 12-22-2013, 02:43 AM

We have a couple of stupid superficial things... We wanted to be a two car family in I think 2 years which kinda happened... Now I want to buy/build our dream home and possibly use this house as a project we can do on the side. I am undecided if I would want to turn it into a daycare in the end or if I would just want to make it nice and then sell it for profit.

Ultimately, I want to either be a teacher or a Lactation Consultant for WIC I think. I haven't fully made a choice between the two. I want to work but only after the ALL kids are in school (preschool starts at 3 so if Liam is our last baby I have 3 ish years) this changes because I want to get my foot in the door at WIC. SOOO DESPERATELY!!! If a job comes available within a reasonable time after Liam's birth I may approach that sooner. I want Dillon to finish school and to decide what he wants in life. If it is Art then so be it. I want to help him accomplish that even if it means he must also pull a secondary job to make ends meat. Other then that. No real stinking clue. I know we both want to travel when the kids are bigger. I know we want to upgrade to newer nicer cars. I know both of us not only want a savings but we want to put stuff aside for the kids. Both older boys have a $200 Bond in their name I got for them two years ago. It matures in 10 years, and continues to gain interest. It is piddly though. I want to give them more then what I was give. Either a solid car to drive in College, or maybe they could go to one or two years of college without as much worry as Dill and I have. You know I am sure. But I've got NOTHING for Ellie despite her being two and SWEARING we were going to get her a bond last year. The new way to get them is like a MAZE! My family also completely jipped out on us. I asked if I started getting bonds for the kids like my step dad did for his niece if they would help add to them. My step dad buys a $50 bond every birthday and a $100 every christmas for his niece (and this also is done by grandparents and such) but the boys have had the bonds 2-3 years now. And no one but me thinks about them. My mom would rather shower them with shitty cheap toys that break and she gets pissed at me for tossing because they are BROKE because toys are shitty... >.> oh my bitterness is showing...

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Old 12-22-2013, 05:34 AM

My paternal grandmother gave us all (all grandkids, I mean) a $50 bond at Christmas. Of course, being a kid, I didn't get why they were so important. I do now. They helped me move out and get a foot into being independent. If I had to guess, your mom chooses toys because she wants to be looked at as awesome. I was always disappointed that I didn't get toys when I got the bond. ;D /brat

We share similar goals. I am honestly considering we get a "starter home" and build up to our "dream" home. Something with just enough room that we have privacy. Ideally three bedrooms so we COULD have another baby... that kind of thing. I dunno though. The bigger part of me feels that patience is key. If I'm patient, we'll be able to get more stable vehicles. If I'm patient, we'll be able to get a home without the mortgage and student loan combo killing us. That kind of thing.

My head spin came full force when I stopped to realize that when Liam is 3 Ellie will be in school. Terra will be in school. ;_; WTF.

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Old 12-22-2013, 06:06 AM

My step dad also buys toys for his niece. One toy and one bond. His niece is like 15 now? or something like that. She is the "only" grandchild on his side of the family. He of course married into having us! and we are all grown adults not children. But his family hates ALL of us. So yeah... I have never even seen them at the holidays much less received a gift from them! My mom is just a freaking BUTT... >.>; I hate the way she acts sometimes. I'd kill to have something for the kids. We had nothing though I found it freaking hilarious when I was struggling trying to figure out how to order the bonds online (the boys all I had to do was walk into a bank and say "federal bond application please k thanks bye." ) my mom's response was two things. "Well I guess Robin will have to learn a new system for Miranda to get her bonds" and "I did something different for each of you just do something else for Ellie" I could have died laughing. She did NOTHING in prep for us being college students or moving out or having babies NOTHING... Yes she helped us. Well some of us she was particular to how and why and when the help stopped ex. My two older younger brothers got 0 help, the oldest because she found him with drugs so he was kicked to the streets not too long before he turned 18 and the adopted one because he chose to get married at 18 so he forfeit her help in her eyes, me I lost the help she offered when Michael turned two because I was working and she felt I needed to leave because I had a job. I subsequently lost that job the day I moved out... Just a couple weeks after Michael's second birthday. My sister has been riding my mom's help for gosh she'll be 22 this year I think? and she graduated high school early (my mom fought to get her in school a year early) so she since she was 17! And I don't honestly see her letting it off anytime soon. She doesn't want kids. She is content being in school forever and working crappy jobs until she gets the odd combo of degrees she is searching for..... Did I mention she spent the first 3 years of School FAILING almost all her classes???

While I complain about my house falling apart it has been an amazing learning experience for both Dillon and I! We have learned to make small repairs (mostly plumbing stuff) we have learned what to do and not to do when looking for a house. We have also learned what we need to work on if we do buy an already constructed house again. What we should keep an eye for and that we should listen to the friend of the family real-estate agent says when he says that the windows are in bad condition and that there is visible water damage in the basement etc... >.>;

It isn't hard for me to picture where my kids are at each of those intervals. It gives me definite pause for thought! In one year I will have a 10 year old heading into 5th grade, a 6 year old heading into 2nd, a 3 year old who misses the cut off date to start 3 year old preschool by like a month, and an almost 1 year old!!!!! Michael will be ending his time as an elementary student in 2 years Ellie will be in 3 year old preschool and Liam will be edging towards 2. In 5 years, Michael will be starting high school!!!! Dear god! That may have just made me have a small heart attack! Sean will be a middle schooler Ellie will be in 2nd and Liam will be in kindergarten! That is only 5 years away all of my children in full day school. Then 10 years is really hard to look at. Michael will be nearing 19 and a full fledged adult in 10 years! Sean will be in high school, Ellie in middle, and Liam probably ending his last year or two of Elementary!

There is a post that has gone around fb a few times about parenting being the shortest and longest time in a persons life or some such. and when I think about the future just 10 years away I will be losing one of my children to adulthood. :'( the others will be following suit in only a few short years from that!.... It is heartbreaking to think about...

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Old 12-22-2013, 11:36 AM

Be the parent for them your mom wasn't for you guys. Even when the years fly (sadly, we know they will), we'll be able to support them well into adulthood, whether or not we have money.

Oh man, it's too early to get into "favorites" in terms of parental help. My sister still gets help. For someone with no money, she makes sure to go party each weekend. That's expensive! :/ I don't know what help she gets, but it's a few hundred a month. There's a long story of favoritism, but it boils down to sexism and people assuming I have my shit together when I don't. At one point I was told I was married so I was taken care of, which is why my sister got the help. I'm not touching that one. It took a long time to let go of, but I did it by the time Terra was born. It's unhealthy to hang onto that mess. I'm grateful I had what help I did over the years, more so that Mom was patient while I figured my crap out. So 18-21 I didn't pay rent and just lived at home like a mooch, minus paying my phone. :p

So, what would you look out for when buying a home? What are the red flags?

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Old 12-22-2013, 04:13 PM

Ugh... I lost a MASSIVE post darn super sensitive kindle keyboard and Mene not having the technology to remember posts if you hit the back button T__T

Lets see if I can remember what all I had said.....
1. Ensure the roof and foundation are in tip top condition. My grandfather's advise is "If it has sturdy feed and a solid head everything in between can be fixed" I suspect we have water damage to our foundation in two spots one of which we can't get to the other we can't seem to repair the hole because it is caused by erosion of soil due to the back step being slanted and ALL water kind of just sitting in this one spot. We had our roof replaced as a stipulation to buying when we moved in, but I worry that there is significant damage to the ceilings/ attic space upstairs.

2. Get a good inspector. We had our home inspected but he wasn't very thorough. He pointed out cracks in the walls and said "they are fine so long as they are vertical not horizontal." BUT he was saying this about walls that have a covering on them and you can't actually see what the REAL wall looks like. The "cracks" he is referring to were man made... Or man lazily not finishing a project correctly. Cracks= material seems.

3. On that subject, look for false or "cover up wall" we have walls that are bowed out now because they are covering damage we have yet be brave enough to look at. It means pulling down the wall covering, and revealing bare walls that could indicate serious damage. The large seem lines in our kitchen should have been a big clue. But pushing on the walls can be a good indications too! Our livingroom and kitchen have walls that now bow out but we could have been hinted to the fact that they are cover ups by pressing on the wall and looking for movement (or listening for sounds behind the wall) a solid wall will of course not move or shift....

4. make sure ALL parts of the house that are access ways open! I know this sounds obvious but we have three "ceiling access panels" that I didn't realize that was what they were. Two of which we had to tear up to access. We had an inspector in and he damaged one with his ladder trying to push it up. He shrugged it off saying it was probably just painted shut. It wasn't, it was NAILED AND SCREWED SHUT because the seller didn't want buyers to see that plumbing and electrical were overlapped and intertwined in there!!!

5. Look for updated windows. 100 year old windows are a royal pain in the arse. Beyond that look at each windows outer and inner framework and see that it was updated when the window was! We have an $800-900 window that the frame isn't worth it's weight in beans. Like wise we have 100 year old frames that are now rotted through.

6. uh.... Make sure all the utilities can be assessed by the inspector that all of them are on and operational our lovely seller turned the water off when I had turned it on in my name >.>; to hide the damage to the waterline. And contact each utility and ask them to come and look for leaks and damage to utility boxes, gas meters, and water lines/ water meters.


I think that is it. Most of the things we have have had problems with... Basically walk in looking at the safety and er, quality? of the big ticket fixes. Floors for distortions, windows etc... Things that you are going to have to pay an arm and a leg to repair.

As for my mom, she has always shown favoritism.... I don't know why I let it bug me. I honestly know it shouldn't but I do. My sister isn't horrible. She lives fairly meagerly and she is good about money most days. She tried telling me she was better about saving money then I was and that she handles money better and I almost slapped her. I have always been better with money then my siblings. I could save forever. If she is comparing to me now, it is hard to "save" money when you have nothing to put towards savings plain and simple. If she was talking about as a kid. You could give her $5 as a child to buy a couple candy bars at the convenience store and she'd lose it... My oldest younger brother would (and still would) spend every last penny the adopted brother would probably save it or only use part, my youngest brother, honestly now I have no idea but he would have bought every penny worth of candy as a kid.... I would have spent some and kept the rest for later... I was the one who was saving for a concert after working an entire summer in the sun and I included bus fair, tickets, food etc in my savings plan. Someone stole that money, it wasn't something I had control of. My mom insists that I am the most irresponsible with money. Which is a line of bull crap. She had me as the benefactor on her life insurance at one point. Saying that she wanted the money to go towards paying off the house, and then towards helping my siblings as they grew. It is now in my sister's name (not her husband's my sister's) and she was not given any direction other then to pay for her body disposal? (she doesn't want a burial even though THAT is already paid for go mom). So I guarantee it won't be divided. She is also in charge of my mom's estates. I've come to grips with the fact that aside from the two things I have of my grandfathers (his tripod, and ONE of his glossies that Michael colored on when we were living with my mom) I will never have any of the things my mom inherited from him. I am also fairly certain I won't have any of the balleek (my sister already has some my mom gave her) china or any of the glasses from Ireland that she promised me. I think what she gave me when she moved is what I will get. And most of it was shit....
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Old 12-22-2013, 05:21 PM

Thanks for the housing tips. <3 I have been eyeing a couple on the market. One is owned by our colleagues' old neighbors that divorced. They want it gone ASAP, and I'd love it if they'd look at a rent-to-own option. Again, depending on what the bank would offer us, we may be able to get something like that anyway. Dunno. There are plots of land on the road we're living, too, and I like the idea that being here we're just 3-4 minutes from town. I don't like that we don't have cellphone signal or decent internet. Lots to consider. But hey, if the land were even a little closer towards town the signal for both would be much better than what it is here.

With inheritance and such... I dunno. Did I tell you my grandparents are rich? Rich and extremely frugal. They only spend money if someone is sick and/or dying. Gifts are usually $10. They own three houses, two being oceanfront, one trailer being DIRECTLY oceanfront, three fishing wharfs, several fishing vessels, the business itself... tons of stuff. I'm really worried when they pass everyone will fight. I'm just not looking forward to it. :s

I kind of hope my mother takes whatever inheritance she gets and does something fun with it. I really do. At this point most of the worth will be in assets and not cash, and with the selling market as it is, who knows what will happen. I know she doesn't have enough to retire with at this point. If she can live comfortably, that's enough. She gets paid crap for working 24/7, 365, and the BS she puts up with... I dunno how she does it.

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Old 12-22-2013, 05:49 PM

My grandfather was well off when he passed away. Well prior anyhow. He lived in West Virginia for a little while with a girl friend and because they lived together for x amount of time they were considered common law married.... when he moved he didn't take a lot saying he'd be back for the other stuff and when my aunts and uncle made the trip out to get his other stuff she had full possession of it :/ He collected barbies in boxes to be given to his grandkid, he was a fairly successful commercial personality. Lets see!

Little Ceasar's Conga Line Commercial - YouTube
He's the in the brown coat. This commercial was also played in Grumpy Old Men :)
Little Caesar's Commercial - I Taught My Dog to Say I Love You - YouTube
I taught my dog to say I love you guy (OMG hearing his voice again made me almost cry T__T)
There are a bunch one where he was a traffic controller for tums. One for JcPennies. etc. A honey nut Cheerios commercial...

He was also an entrepreneur. He had his own flooring business. He designed and built the house my mom grew up in. When he passed away he left what he did have left very specifically. The house was left to all 4 kids. For my uncle to get possession he had to quick sell it and buy my mom and her two sister's shares. Little stuff like jewelry was I think the only thing that wasn't "evenly" divided. My oldest aunt has most of the little stuff from my grandpa. My mom got money and a few small things. His coffee cup his and my grandmother's claddaugh rings (she had these long before he died though they were my mom and dad's wedding rings and are now my mom and Robin's rings) but there were antiques and collectibles lost to his girlfriend in West Virginia. She was the devil reincarnate... We visited him twice while he was still living in California with her. And she was AWEFUL!!! T__T

Do you have a program like we do here that you can go into and see what you are going to be looking for before looking for a home? Ours is called Freedom Financial I know they are at LEAST state wide not sure how far they go though. They essentially look at all the stuff you have/ pay for. And your credit and they find you a loan. They take into account your need to pay utilities and such too! We were approved for a $75k loan, and we bought the house at $69.9K Mind our market here is a crap shoot most homes here do NOT go for more then $100k unless they are in Pueblo West which is where you will find $200+ k homes. We bought our house when Dillon was working at 7-11 making only gosh, MAYBE $8 an hour? He'd worked there two- three ish years (something they consider is that you are able to hold a job more then 2 years)... It was nice knowing what our limit was and kind of having someone to guide us. Though I will be sure to do local next time we accidentally called the office for a town north of us. The guy was a total bone head he knew nothing about our town, and it made it hard.

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Old 12-22-2013, 10:33 PM

Yep--that's why I'm planning to go to the bank after the credit card's gone. I want to go in with knowing exactly what my student loan payments will be each month and say, "Hey, what are we eligible for based on this?" I'm very fortunate that Cole's and my combined score is 800+. Individually we're about 750 each?


OOOMMMG!!!! I REMEMBER EVERY ONE OF THOSE COMMERCIALS!! That is freaking awesome!!! (:

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Old 12-23-2013, 01:16 AM

I have a really high credit score not sure what it is but I imagine it is in the 750s... Dillon I am not sure honestly. O_o I know he had a knock on his credit due to something concerning his school loans but I am not sure how badly it effected him. Or how much credit he has otherwise. Both credit cards are in my name. Though one he is a registered user. ALL the household bills are in my name minus the mortgage. Not a stinking clue. I know he got denied for a Sears credit card the year we bought the house but the house was a big mark on his credit. Like WOOOH GUYS he just borrowed a hell of a lot of money we haven't tried since. Credit cards are evil... I worry he'd be denied for a loan though if we tried.

I <3 my grandpa and I miss him so much he's been gone a long time though :(

We've been baking fools over here! Sooo many cookies and mixes and such!!!! We aren't even halfway through we need a second oven! Though I suppose I could be making the rice crispies treats now... Instead of later, but we are doing family sugar cookies soon. So that will need to wait anyhow!

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Old 12-23-2013, 01:29 AM

I really wish I could bake this year. Er, I COULD bake, but with Cole's gallbladder as it is he couldn't eat anything. :( At least come Friday he'll be on the path to feeling better. That's a lot better than waiting 'till February!

We got about half an inch of ice outside. It's coated the trees. The cars have icicles everywhere. We didn't even attempt leaving the apartment today. If it's crappy in the morning I'm not bothering with work. It's not worth it.

How many years has your grandpa been gone? I'm still in awe that he's your grandpa. He sounds like a man of many talents!

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Old 12-23-2013, 02:00 AM

He was awesome! He was a good man, one that would be hard to find now a days. How he gave light to my mother I sometimes wonder. He saw good in everything, he found beauty in everything and everyone. And I know he tried to teach my mom and her siblings such. I think it has just melted out of my mom. She is nothing but bitter and angry now. Hard towards the world.

I think he's been gone close to 17+ years now more... I was around Mikes age when he died.... My family die early, he was just shy of 66 years old. He chose to die, he already had a pace maker and he refused to have another one put in when his was failing. He wanted to join his love I think he was ready to surrender. My grandmother died when I was one so he lived a long time after her. Heart disease and cancers run rampant. I freaked when I turned 25 because I kept thinking "OMG I AM MIDLIFE FOR MY FAMILY" I am for my mom's side. But my dad's are long lived despite their er, vices. My grandmother died at I think 80 and my grandfather on that side I do believe is still kicking as is his brother and my er, 4th cousin 22 times removed or what have you ><; I think they are both in their 80s now too it's been 15+ years since I spoke to my father or any family on his side.

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Old 12-23-2013, 02:31 AM

My great-grandmother, I suppose you could say she chose to die as well. She knew she had uterine cancer when my mom was five or six (I think--I remember looking at her funeral's guest book, and seeing Mom's signature). But, she chose not to treat it, saying that if God wanted her alive then she'd be alive. She must have been in her 40s?

My paternal grandfather passed early. He was a heavy drinker, and sure enough... he had a heart attack. They found him in his truck, passed away. There was no accident involved. I was 9 when he passed.

All three grandparents are still alive and kicking. My paternal grandmother has advanced dementia. I haven't seen her in years. I had a long span of time not speaking with my dad, and thus didn't communicate with Dad's side of the family. By the time we opened lines up again she was mentally gone. :<

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Old 12-23-2013, 03:58 AM

I believe my grandmother was in her 40s or early 50s when she died. Leaning towards forty I think. My mom was the youngest of 5 children one of my aunt's was hot by a car and passed before my mom was born and there is a 10 year age gap between my oldest aunt and my mom (the same can be said about me and my brother and Michael and Liam almost) and my mom was early 20s when she passed away. She was a very heavy smoker and lung cancer got her. My aunt was talking the last time I saw her and said that she or my mom was the same age as their mom. My mom is 49 so my aunt is 59 it must have been my mom...

I am sick from stressing myself. It gets like this whenever I want to do something special with the kids. We are decorating sugar cookies tonight before bed. And just the process of getting cutting them out was immensely stressful! The kids get so keyed up when there is something special. Top that with both boys knowing that Christmas is just 2 days away and they are going NUTS! I am anxious for the day to come just to try to get back to normal!

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Old 12-23-2013, 01:18 PM

Good morning! I think Terra and I are home today. My car is iced shut. I need to attempt to yank open the front door at least and get it running for 20-30 minutes. Glad I filled up before the storm. o.O I'm not keen on driving on iced up roads. Screw work. Cole did go, and he said our road is crappy. He said he didn't have much choice in the matter, what given what's coming up.

I did find out this morning that Terra's daycare will actually be open Thursday and Friday when I thought it would be closed. At least she'll be there with friends on Friday and I won't have to worry about her while Cole's in surgery.

Do you feel better this morning?

I need to do some cleaning. Dishes need to be done, trash needs to be taken out. Vacuuming. Guinea pigs. Bah. I'd rather do it now in case I have to work tomorrow before we go to Mom's for Christmas Eve. I also need to get a couple eBay packages ready to go. I have had a mug of coffee and it doesn't seem enough. :P

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Old 12-23-2013, 02:55 PM

I feel better but something, I am leaning towards a very strange anxiety attack because I had symptoms while doing cookies. I was laying with Ellie and listening to my book to calm down, which was working, and passing in and out and apparently passed out through 3 chapters. I'm not sure what it was that woke me but I woke shaking and my stomach lurching. Then I couldn't fall asleep until nearly 2:30 this morning from the shaking and stomach ache. Those both usually come with my attacks but this one was just off...

I need to get up and moving, I am going to cancel my midwife appt today. Michael looks like he has full fledged pink eye in both eyes this morning. :/ and I need to be available if the doctor has an early opening. Plus I don't want to see Pat. She delivered Michael and just NO....

I never really understand why daycare aren't open on day before and after. Schools I do kids go on vacation some times with parents so giving a few days is good. But daycare? Most adults are required to go back to work the day after holiday. Check now a days many work on the holiday. :/ when I worked at the daycare we had a sign up to show who needed care and tallied whether it was "financially responsible" to stay open. Honestly we were asked the same thing at one of the other daycares Mike's attended but I was out voted :/ I worked Christmas eve (Dill does tomorrow) and apparently no one else does!

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Old 12-23-2013, 03:13 PM

I may or may not work tomorrow. If the roads clear up, I will be. I made the better decision to not risk it this morning. It took me forty minutes to clear the car off. Longer including the car "run" time. It was half an inch thick on the door handles. I had to chisel to even get into the car!

I'm looking forward to a job with nice benefits so I could take the week of Christmas off without worrying. I'm betting I won't get paid this week, with the exception of Thursday. I can't work Friday due to the surgery, today's a bust, tomorrow may be a bust, and Christmas Day will likely not be paid. If tomorrow's doable, I'll work, but my grandmother is very frugal and doesn't easily give sick or holiday pay for "hourly" people. I'm not worrying about it because we're already fucked with Cole's surgery. If we end up living with a credit card for a month, there are worse things. I should be happy we have the credit card to begin with, right? We'll just worry about paying the major bills with my paychecks and put gas and groceries on the credit card.

In actuality it's likely the end of January that will be bad. He gets paid this Friday, and then he'll be paid again Friday January 10th because I know he has at least two weeks in the system. He worked four weeks before receiving his first paycheck, so... it shouldn't be too bad. I hope not, anyway. I'll be budgeting the car payment and rent first, as that's most important. The reason it's dodgy is because I literally put every last spare cent we had onto the credit card last Friday. If I hadn't done that, we'd have flex room. Bah. I try to be responsible, and there you go. :[

I wonder what caused the anxiety attack so heavily..? Do you still have a sense that something's off, or did it pass??

 


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