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Old 04-30-2014, 01:07 AM

When I looked it up earlier in the month their absolute minimum income was 716 for a family of 6 before taxes...... That is a 100$ less then a single check for Dillon if he makes all of his hours. We will be getting a check tomorrow and I anticipate it being low. But not low enough to be less then $716 and then he will have a total of 6 days on this pay period which will further give us another. At least Dillon made 608$ on this pay period and assuming he goes back to work tomorrow he will make another $300 so even best case scenerios he's making over their minimum limit... I will look over the link though I've been hibernating in my office too long so it will be a bit before I finish...

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Old 04-30-2014, 01:11 AM

Wow... $716? Who the hell could make it work on that anyway? :\ I'm wondering if you called to speak with someone if they have an emergency fund? Our state does. I remember it was made specifically to keep families off TANF when the unexpected happened. It may just be a Maine thing. At any rate, do you think they might give more food benefit to compensate the loss in wages? I know it's not the same as cash, but if food were covered more cash could go to the rest.

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Old 04-30-2014, 09:11 PM

Sorry I haven't gotten back to you. I read the announcement on the WIC page about the peer councilor position and now I am feeling super icky about it.... Previously the ONLY thing you needed was a GED or High School Diploma. And speaking spanish was preferred but now I am worried I won't get anywhere because on the announcement if says something that makes it sound that you NEED to speak spanish :/ I am almost sure the other three are not spanish speaking so I am wondering if they are only looking for spanish speaking... I keep telling myself to apply anyway but I feel sick to my stomach just thinking about it V_V

Question... How do you put together a cover letter? I was never taught how to even put together a resume the only reason I can even manage is because they have templates for it. Someone suggested that I apply and explain that I am not fluent in Spanish but that I feel my other qualifications make me a good person for the job. Dear lord I do not know how to talk nice about myself... Much less to do so in a way that would be considered a "letter"

As for the other stuff... I took some stuff to the consignment store today. Though I don't expect much for it... 40% of all of it because it is all smaller stuff not furniture... Dillon tried to finish a few more applications. I am TERRIFIED because he is applying everywhere which I guess is a fail safe at this current moment but still terrifying. He makes 9.50/hour and we BARELY scrape by... I don't know what we are going to do with less... As for food. We may get more but honestly because of their stupid systems we got a "back payment" for the last three months since they had us labeled like I was getting $1200 each month from Michael's dad. LIKE THAT WOULD EVER HAPPEN... He doesn't even make the $300 payments he is SUPPOSE to that is WHY he paid $1200 he was extremely behind and CSE was threatening him. *rolls eyes*

anyhow... we haven't had to worry about supplementing our food with cash currently because of that we ended this month with an excess of like $500 (though part of that is because we are being cautious too, we have another dock coming I think this next coming month). I think I am going to see what we have as far as funds tomorrow. Since I thought today was the 1st and alas it is not... See how bad we are behind and call catholic charities to see if they have funds available for our mortgage V_V I've only had to do that once before in my life and it was mortifying. When Mikes was two and my mom kicked me out ... They didn't have the funds then... I got denied for another loan... With two credit scores in the lower 700s we are being denied. T_T I am going to die....

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Old 05-01-2014, 01:41 PM

I need to sleep before I give cover letter info. I HATE cover letters. :( Why are you being denied in the 700s?! That's frightening. :/ Are they saying the debt-to-income is too high? Sounds like us when we tried to get an auto loan.

I don't even know how to get into what happened last night. I am so, so exhausted. Basically, yesterday we found out one of our workers just... walked off. Left his wife suicidal (who also works here). Of course that had to be the one day I take Terra with me due to a daycare conflict. We all (family) end up fighting to the point she flails her arms and yells, "Guys! Guys! GUYS! STOP FIGHTING!" She then fed off the tension and acted like an ass until I took her back home. I don't blame her though.

Mom had left (read: walked off angry, needing to cool off), and by the time my aunt and I got work done, my aunt forwarded the phones to her and Terra and I went home. We had company for dinner. I got a call directly after eating, and I hear scream-sobbing in the background from the suicidal wife, and Mom hesitatingly saying, "I'm in way over my head and don't know what to do." I told her I was on my way, and there I sat 'till about 12:30am.

Long and draining. Husband came back home with his tail between his legs. I don't know if they're okay, but I helped her make a safety plan, giving her crisis and hopeline numbers to call.

Wanna know what happened after that? I begin my 40 minute drive home, and by 1:00am, the car is making really fucky sounds. Really, really fucky sounds. So I turn off the radio and listen, driving a bit slower. I take a left turn onto the road home, and something feels off. I sighed and just wished I could get home. Take a right turn. The car begins whirring and I can barely turn the steering. At that point I rolled my eyes and said, "Seriously? NOW? NOW you're failing again?!" Make the final turn into the driveway and I didn't think I'd get it parked.

The power steering gave out. So, called for towing this morning. I am so fucking done.

Got to sleep at 1:20am, Terra woke up at 5:00am. I am going to chew coffee grinds today. I'm just glad no one's dead yet. :\ And I used "yet" appropriately, in my gut sense.

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Old 05-01-2014, 05:36 PM

Yikes that sounds like a terrible day/night/morning I hope you get some rest :( and that everything is ok...

I read a disturbing article by our local news station that was reporting on how a man is likely to leave a sick wife and gave examples why! WTF guys... This sounds like that kind of situation. They stated that one third of the something like 2700 couples ended in divorce because of the wife falling ill with major issues like cancer, heart disease and stroke. These were older couples but seriously WTH? They justified it that women are culturally more the care giver then me. Because we are more attuned to our emotions then men. But that being a caregiver often leads to poor health... Stress sounds like it is doing that exact thing in this case. The guy needs to be smacked or something. Anyone with so little regard just ick.

Yeah they are saying our debt to income ratio is too high... I have a feeling though that Dillon could apply for a credit card and get approved :/

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Old 05-01-2014, 06:16 PM

I'm wondering if the CC might be able to get you guys to a safe place while you wait. :/

And argh! That article is indeed disturbing!

I'll get rest tonight. I'm going to bed when Terra does, without question. I'm so, so tired.

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Old 05-01-2014, 07:50 PM

There is no more waiting... Dillon's been terminated. His last check given to him a whopping 100$ I can't help but bawl my eyes out. The real kicker here is we still won't qualify for tanf this month... He made a whopping 800 in total... I am beyond sick...

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Old 05-01-2014, 08:57 PM

Call. Call them and explain, because technically you will not earn any money this month, and they go by what you earn. If you say he's been terminated and job hunting, give the last paycheck date and amount, and see what happens.

This is not the end. Call any agency you can for the emergency aid while he continues applying. It's okay to bawl while doing it--this is fucking scary. Frightening, in fact. We're here to bounce ideas, always. I just wish I could front you money to help you. :(

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Old 05-01-2014, 10:39 PM

We called catholic charities as I know they offer a housing grant thing. They say they usually don't help until people are behind... Good to know but I prefer my credit doesn't go for shit thanks....He was advised to call in the morning I guess anyhow. Because they get a grant a day and it varies between renters help and buyers help... :/ and they don't know which will come in, but to be aware they may not help us either way

We were apparently up for re-determination with SNAP and Medicaid so I started filling that out... I am not even sure how to apply for TANF other then to go in...

I am trying desperately not to revert to fetal position for the next week... :/ Trying so hard to keep my head up... We decided to not tell the kids. I feel it is undue stress for them and the only one who will understand is Michael who will tell his PITA father and I really don't need his extra bull shit...

I did find and send Dillon a few applications for the hospital as food service and such full time...

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Old 05-02-2014, 04:06 PM

So much has happened while my week has been stupid full of nonsense!
Oh Jazzy! So much shit to hit the fan in such a short time frame! I'm with Chi, it's okay to cry, you probably need to, hell, I feel like crying and I'm only reading about everything. *hugs* I wish I could help. ):

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Old 05-02-2014, 05:56 PM

Kindle died while making a post... Dillon and I sold our gold wedding bands, we decided the attachment lay with our silver bands and my engagement ring. We got 200$ for the pair. Then since I can't justify donating money when we are struggling my breastfeeding bowl a thon money also got put in the bank, so did money from selling our old printer to my sister in law as well as plasma money... All in all we deposited almost $300 which should get us to the halfway mark for now. I found our mortgage can be placed in a forbearance temporarily so we may look at doing that if we can too...

I am feel a lot less hopeless now which is good.

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Old 05-02-2014, 07:35 PM

Feeling a lot less hopeless is a good thing. I still wish I could do more. :( I'm crossing fingers and toes that Dillon hears back from an application soon, and that the new job opens up a better opportunity than this one did.

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Old 05-02-2014, 11:38 PM

I still feel fairly helpless but less so...

I am hoping the kids will go to sleep easily so I can get some cleaning done while Dillon works on applications

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Old 05-03-2014, 12:22 AM

I hate money. It just complicates everything. :\

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Old 05-03-2014, 01:22 AM

Right? It really does feel like the root of all evil. :/

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Old 05-03-2014, 02:29 AM

Agreed.... Dillon got $40 more dollars by selling some big money cards he has (Two for half price :/). He still have the really really big money cards... I think he said one is worth $200 alone.

I want to cook or bake or something... The kids only have a few more minutes of wake time........

I totally walked away and got both the little ones down by 8:45 :) Now what to do what to do!

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Old 05-03-2014, 11:01 AM

It sucks that you guys are having to sell some things. Still, I guess it's better than going without. It's awesome that some of his cards are worth bigger bucks!

I've been trying to sell some of my animation art too. By the end of this month (barring something else happening with cars), we'll have almost enough to close on the house. It's going to be a very tight squeeze. Very tight. Enough that I'm a bit worried, to be honest. The car repairs will be roughly $500, and it won't be done before Wednesday.

I'm just going with the flow, at any rate. Like the saying goes... it is what it is. The tenants are still trying to secure a rent, so I told the realtor I wasn't going to put in my 30 day notice this month. We'll close sometime in June, likely toward the end. I think the tenants have 'till June 18th or so to officially get out, so we'll aim for that. Whenever Cole's second month paycheck is, is what I was thinking.

Oh my. I went looking at new cars and about had a heart attack. I've never had a new car before, and they are so expensive. I will say that with the VW, everything that keeps going wrong ends up not being repeat fixes. This is the first for the power steering. Still, I need something more reliable for the new job. :\ I'm not wanting to deal with it, but maybe this fall. We can't in the summer, plain and simple. Too much house stuff right now.

I think the reason I'm all "meh, whatever" is because of everything happening all at once. I kinda shut down.

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Old 05-03-2014, 03:05 PM

Oh, how have I not noticed this thread in the past? Seems I am a little more scatterbrained than I originally thought.

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Old 05-03-2014, 07:34 PM

Hey there Alien-Princess: Welcome! I hope you stay and chat a bit. (:

We've decided to drop drumming for the upcoming year. We don't have the time or motivation to deal with the people running it now. They keep changing times on us and it's getting all around irritating. Scott copied a paper for them 30ish times saying that todays thing was going to start in the band room at 11:45, and then they would move on to the radio station after that. So that's what we planned for. Apparently it changed on Wednesday to 10:30...and they just told him, he forgot, so I was still under the impression it was 11:45. I get a call at 10:40 asking where he is. I didn't answer, as I, like a clever person, put my phone on silent so I could sleep after work. Woke up at 11:10 and called the number back and they start giving me attitude about where my husband is and why he's not there. Uh sweetie, he's with my kids, I JUST woke up after getting off of work at 6 am. He'll get there when he gets there. I haven't even seen him yet this morning! Then she goes off about how he made a commitment...
They gave us the forms to re-enlist the kids on Wednesday. The price has gone up for $200/person. Last year we spent about $400 total.- and Scott wasn't expected to pay since he helped in an instructors position. This year they gave us 4 forms, and they wanted $800 from us. Uuuuuhhhhh...NO. We've never gone on any of the trips because Scott is always working or I'm always working...we're not...we can't...just no. This is the last one he's going to. As much as I like the drumming and believe it's good for the kids, it's not worth $800 for us since it's been hell getting them there the past couple of months.

Scotts agreed to give the kids piano lessons on Sundays and Wednesdays to make up for the music education deficiency in the schools since we're dropping the drummers now.

Mostly I'm irritated at her attitude towards me when I called her back. I get that he made a committment, but so did you when you sent out the darn papers about it starting at 11:45! That's what we were going by!

OMG this Jalapeno Cheddar bagel from safeway is divine. It's kinda oily though...so I'm sure it's going to give me heartburn later. but soooo good.

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Old 05-03-2014, 10:58 PM

Oh I do intend to stick around. :)
I only wish I would have noticed it sooner. This is what I get for not wandering about Mene more.

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Old 05-03-2014, 11:28 PM

Hi there A-P!

Mellie, that sounds ridiculous! @[email protected] Sometimes people infuriate me. Holy smokes.

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Old 05-04-2014, 12:27 AM

Hallo. :)
How is everyone today?

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Old 05-04-2014, 01:40 AM

I'm doing pretty good! The house is mostly clean and ready for the Star Wars day party tomorrow. Scott is decorating the ceiling right now with tie fighters and stars...he'll put up my star wars snow flakes once I finish making them. Though I'm also considering putting them on the windows because I can. Still a bit left to do (er like ALL the food) lol and I've got some stuff to get for girl scouts too...busy busy busy. I should probably head out to town and get the stuff we need to purchase before the stores are closed!

Chi- I seem to be dealing with a lot of them this week! I sent a message to the leader of the girl scout troop I had an issue with last week asking if we had a meeting, 3 hours later she responded that we did. After she made such a stink last week about how she ALWAYS does it every other week and last week was our on week. (Really I sent the message just to be snarky and expected her to say no...ALAS! lol) So...yeah it's been special with people and their saying one thing then changing it and expecting me to read their minds!

What are you guys up to today??

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Old 05-04-2014, 02:05 AM

Oh my, sounds like you got a busy night and day ahead of you.
That is always the part I don't like about parties and such. The food, cleaning, possible decorations, Then the clean up and such after. I like parties at OTHER peoples houses. xD No clean-up duty for me.

Oh, girl scouts. I remember being in a troop myself when I was little. I tried to get my daughter into it but she said she didn't want to sign up. A small piece of my soul was crushed that day.

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Old 05-04-2014, 05:25 AM

I took my daughters to a couple of meetings before signing them up. They had such a great time I had to do it! Though, I did it partly because I was one when I was little too!

It's 9:30. I really should be sleeping. xD

I also love parties at other peoples houses! Alas, most other people don't celebrate star wars day or pi day...so I have to throw those or else they get forgotten! D:

 


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