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10-03-2009, 07:35 PM
Hey baby-upi! Your son's adorable!
I've often heard other mums say that they are feeling the same way you are, so you're not alone!
I can't say I feel the same way myself, but having another child so soon would be very dangerous for me, so maybe it's just because my body kind of "knows" that it's too soon for me to have another. So sorry if I'm not much help.
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10-03-2009, 07:44 PM
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Hey baby-upi! Your son's adorable!
I've often heard other mums say that they are feeling the same way you are, so you're not alone!
I can't say I feel the same way myself, but having another child so soon would be very dangerous for me, so maybe it's just because my body kind of "knows" that it's too soon for me to have another. So sorry if I'm not much help.
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Well i have alot of friends of mine tell me it is my body trying to replace my sons twin, I miscarried his twin at 16 weeks. It was prolly the most devastating thing to ever happen to me.
If i am not prying why is so dangerous for you to become pregnant again?
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10-03-2009, 08:46 PM
Oh, I can see how you would want to replace them. I'm sorry for your loss though, I can't imagine how hard that must have been for you. But at least you still have your healthy little guy at the end of it.
I had to have an emergency c-section (I was in established labour all day but her head still wouldn't engage, she was also facing the wrong way, and her heart beat was getting dangerously high from stress) and having another pregnancy so soon could cause my uterus to rupture.
I also lost a lot more blood than I should have, so my body's taking longer to recover. So yeah, baby number two needs to wait a while!
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10-04-2009, 07:10 PM
Cherish- oh my. Well, I wish you a good recovery. I'm married to my best friend too. <3
Baby_upi- I think waiting would be a good idea. Your body takes about a year to completely heal from a normal pregnancy, longer if there were complications sometimes. So waiting would not only give you more time with just one baby (let me tell you, adding to the brood makes it so much harder to spend time with just one child! You can ask Jaz about that too, sometimes you just want to spend time with the oldest, but the younger ones won't allow it)But it will also help you be 'healthy' enough to carry the baby.
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10-04-2009, 07:10 PM
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Oh, I can see how you would want to replace them. I'm sorry for your loss though, I can't imagine how hard that must have been for you. But at least you still have your healthy little guy at the end of it.
I had to have an emergency c-section (I was in established labour all day but her head still wouldn't engage, she was also facing the wrong way, and her heart beat was getting dangerously high from stress) and having another pregnancy so soon could cause my uterus to rupture.
I also lost a lot more blood than I should have, so my body's taking longer to recover. So yeah, baby number two needs to wait a while!
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yea i think he is my miracle baby. I wasn't supposed to be able to have kids and then bam! I'm preggers with 2! When i lost his twin i pushed my family away making everything alil harder for everyone to deal with the loss of our baby. But We got Travis and he is all i could of asked for.
oh goodness yea you should definitely wait for another. Labour was extremely long for me also but they induced me my body refused to go into labor on its own so he was born two weeks late. With pitocin the whole way. They stopped it when i was 10 cm's thinking the contractions would cont. but they immediately stopped. :o
Edit: melody Yea i understand that I think i hold off at least til he's over a year old to add another babe to the family.
How many children do you have? ages?
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10-04-2009, 09:19 PM
I have 3 kids. Sakura my oldest, age 4 and a half. and 3 year old twins Aaron and Melody.
Never had an induced labor though. The twins were an emergency c section a month early, and kura was a natural birth 2 weeks early. Unless you want to count sex as an induction to labor in any case. >.>
I'm also in the process of getting pregnant for a friend now. So I'm on hormone therapy. Right now they're building up my uterus in the mock cycle and pumping me full of progesterone (the hormone that keeps a pregnancy going I believe). At the mid/end of this month I'll be supressing my cycle to match with that of the egg donor and hopefully having the embryo transfer end of November beginning of december. Fingers crossed!
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10-06-2009, 12:01 PM
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I have 3 kids. Sakura my oldest, age 4 and a half. and 3 year old twins Aaron and Melody.
Never had an induced labor though. The twins were an emergency c section a month early, and kura was a natural birth 2 weeks early. Unless you want to count sex as an induction to labor in any case. >.>
I'm also in the process of getting pregnant for a friend now. So I'm on hormone therapy. Right now they're building up my uterus in the mock cycle and pumping me full of progesterone (the hormone that keeps a pregnancy going I believe). At the mid/end of this month I'll be supressing my cycle to match with that of the egg donor and hopefully having the embryo transfer end of November beginning of december. Fingers crossed!
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Wow you are being a seragate? How does that make you feel? are you scared?
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10-06-2009, 12:26 PM
I'm excited (: I worry that the embryos won't take the first time, and my couple will be out $1500 +the cost of the procedure and taking care of me for 2 days afterwords, just to go through the process all over again, but that's more if a distant worry.
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10-06-2009, 12:31 PM
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I'm excited (: I worry that the embryos won't take the first time, and my couple will be out $1500 +the cost of the procedure and taking care of me for 2 days afterwords, just to go through the process all over again, but that's more if a distant worry.
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Do you know these people? What is the whole process like? I mean being asked to be a seragate? to actually going thru procedures, and then the pregnancy. i think it would be a very emotionally grueling time.
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10-06-2009, 12:35 PM
We met through a surrogacy agency. I wanted to be one, and they were unable to have children with out the use of a surrogate. We met in person for the first time in May and have talked weekly since, and they take me to all of my appointments that are in the Yale Fertility office. They're really great people, and I know they would make great parents.
I haven't had any emotional issues. ^^;; I mean, other than hormones, but since everyone knows that hormones play with emotions that was expected.
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10-06-2009, 12:42 PM
Why did you want to be a surrogate?
I know i couple people who have done it for the money. But idk.
What are the requirements to be one.
i've thought about doing it since i had Travis. Mostly becuz i know the feeling of thinking you'll never be able to have children. it is a upsetting thought to believe that you will never be able to bare your own children to feel them grow.
But i also am afraid that Travis was a once in a life time occurance he was my one gift.
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10-06-2009, 12:49 PM
To help people. :) I have no problem having children, they just kinda appear in my uterus it seems. xD So I figured I might as well use it to help people eh?
It depends on where you go as to what the requirements are. You need to have had a child already with no complications in the pregnancy. Be financially stable. and pass the psychological test (no crazy people!) and be physically able to carry a baby no problem. Some agencies I looked into required 2 successful pregnancies, others only required one. Oh, you also have to have health insurance in place. urm, I can't think of anything else. xD
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10-06-2009, 12:55 PM
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To help people. :) I have no problem having children, they just kinda appear in my uterus it seems. xD So I figured I might as well use it to help people eh?
It depends on where you go as to what the requirements are. You need to have had a child already with no complications in the pregnancy. Be financially stable. and pass the psychological test (no crazy people!) and be physically able to carry a baby no problem. Some agencies I looked into required 2 successful pregnancies, others only required one. Oh, you also have to have health insurance in place. urm, I can't think of anything else. xD
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Wow thats alot more than i thought you would need.
now i know i prolly won't be able to do it, I has so much trouble carrying Travis i'm sure there will be complications with the next child as well.
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10-06-2009, 01:03 PM
Maybe not, your body knows it can do it now. My aunt had to do invitro for her first child, they had tried for over 2 years to get pregnant before trying different methods. then she got pregnant with her second by accident. Sometimes you just need to know it can happen for it to work. <3
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10-06-2009, 01:53 PM
yea maybe.
But today i'm freaking out!!
I have been craving spicy foods. I mean i'm nervous i am. But i'm on the pill plus extra protection, I think its my body playing tricks on me!!
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10-06-2009, 02:02 PM
Maybe it's just been a while since you had spicy food? I know some days I'm more in the mood for sweets than other days, and some days I want nothing to do with sweets. (which if you know me, is completely out of character).
I hate pills. I hate remembering to take them at the same time, I hate hate hate hate pills! >.< I can't wait to be done with the mock cycle/get pregnant/have the baby so I can have my nuvaring back!
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10-07-2009, 12:16 PM
Thats what i thought but my hubbie is like no you seem like ur pregnant. I hope not this scare is making me realize we are not ready for another child yet.
My hubbie is flipping out blaming me. Saying i' not careful enough but it takes two to make a baby. he's acting like i'm doing this on purpose.
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10-07-2009, 12:21 PM
o.o uh, yeah it does take two, and he would be the second no? If you're having sex with someone you can't put the blame on them if they get pregnant, 'blame' is to be shared. ugh. men piss me off so much when they do that.
If you're that worried about being pregnant take a pregnancy test, first response is supposed to give a a response 5 days before your missed period? Or you could go see your ob/gyn and discuss your worries with her. They can do blood tests to see if you're pregnant that don't have the error margin that home tests do.
I however think, that if you're on birth control pills, and using a secondary contraceptive you should be safe and you're husbands just being an ass.
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10-07-2009, 12:35 PM
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o.o uh, yeah it does take two, and he would be the second no? If you're having sex with someone you can't put the blame on them if they get pregnant, 'blame' is to be shared. ugh. men piss me off so much when they do that.
If you're that worried about being pregnant take a pregnancy test, first response is supposed to give a a response 5 days before your missed period? Or you could go see your ob/gyn and discuss your worries with her. They can do blood tests to see if you're pregnant that don't have the error margin that home tests do.
I however think, that if you're on birth control pills, and using a secondary contraceptive you should be safe and you're husbands just being an ass.
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I can't really take one at the moment cuz of my mom she would flip! I'll have to wait til the 18th when she is not around anymore.
i keep feeling movement but i think its my imagination.
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10-07-2009, 01:19 PM
You shouldn't feel movement until month 4/5 of the pregnancy. The fetus would be too small at this point unless you got pregnant months ago. :/
And according to your profile you're over 18, you also speak of a hubby, so I have to assume you are married. Your mom flipping would be the least of your worries, at least it would calm down your 'OMG I MIGHT BE PREGNANT' nerve.
Or you could do what I do when my husband starts thinking/saying I'm pregnant: Slap him upside the head and tell him to stop it. :3
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10-07-2009, 01:51 PM
lol maybe i'll adopt your way of dealing with hubbie! lol
I live with my mother and she is very controling. so everything i do that she doesn't like i do get punished for whatever way she can think of to punish me.
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10-07-2009, 03:19 PM
hiya everyone, hectic times. I am squeezing in a lot of hours at work and keeping the house with four kids running smoothly on my own. My partner is working offshore just now.
Cameron is settling in very well, he has made himself at home. Though with the current situation he was spending more time at mine than with his mum so its no wonder.
I would have felt the same way. I mean my mother and I always said that we wouldn't take in Nikki's baby and that she was on her own thoug after being faced with the ultimatum, take him or he goes to care and I lose all rights, contact and access then I said I would take him. I don't think I could handle losing him completely.
Plus once my sister gets her head sorted then slowly her relationship will build up and one day she may get him back when she is ready, I doubt it but its best for her to have that option.
Plus I really like bonding with Cameron, your right Izumi its completely different from raising your own, though I treat him like he is. Plus having a house full of girls its a nice change to see a boy, having the blue things and the trucks and that, plus I find him so much easier to handle than the girls, I mean much less mood swings and tantrums with Cameron.
I hope to be a little more active on mene now that I have gotten into the swing of things so hopfully things will be more manageable soon.
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10-07-2009, 03:29 PM
Man sounds like you're in a horrible situation, Upi. Both your mother and your husband sound like they need a change of attitude. If you're old enough to be married and have children, why is she 'punishing' you? Seems a bit juvenile and out of place. I guess one could argue you live at her place, under her rules. =|
Anyways, best of luck to you!
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10-07-2009, 03:34 PM
Yeah, to me it sounds like they both need their heads screwed on properly. Well surely your mum doesn't follow you into the toilet? Could you not take the test without her worrying? It will be a huge weight off your mind to know that you have done it, the waiting would drive me insane!
What a cutie your son is by the way!
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10-07-2009, 03:56 PM
Hello....I'm a nooblet to Menewsha and to being pregnant (12 weeks tomorrow), hehe. Thought I would stop in here and say hi :)
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