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Marissa D
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06-17-2007, 04:46 PM
Exactly a week ago, my dad was buried. My stephmum, who married him when I was 5, is still broken because of it. This is the second husband she lost without being able to say goodbye, and she can't stand it, it's tearing her apart. (She actually tried to wake him up and jump in his grave to get him out of his coffin! Poor woman :?)
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Today is Father's Day here, and she wants me and my boyfriend to drop by (I live with my boyfriend).
But if I will, I'll miss my series tonight and even though it sounds very very harsh, I don't think she's worth it. >_<;;;
Because she's been calling me every day for the past week, 'just to hear my voice'. And when I'd ask her if tehre was anything I could do for her, she said 'No, just your voice. I'm fine now.' And then like a friggin' 5 minutes later she'd call again.
My stephsister, Denise, is her daughter. And Denise is the worst bitch ever. So whenever Denise and I had an arguement (for example when Denise stole my cell and wouldn't admit it, or when Denise called my boyfriend an ugly cyclope two weeks after he lost his left eye) my stephmum would pick Denise's side.
So if Max and I would go over there tonight, we'll just be sitting there, 'being together'. Denise would play with 'her' cell, Max would constantly ask who would like another drink, she'd be crying non-stop and I'll be wondering what the hell I'm doing there.
Yeah... >_<
But I'm afrauid she'll accuse me of being careless (I know I am, but when it's prenounced it sounds so much worse! T_T) and stuff. :?
Discuss:
What should I do!? D:
What would you do in my situation?
What's the best way to get rid of Denise? >_<##
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ljosberinn
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06-17-2007, 04:57 PM
Woah. That's one harsh situation. :?
Have you tried sitting your mother down to just talk with her, tell her about Denise and how you feel about her?
I realize it must be annoying her always calling you, but right now, she obviously needs support. I guess you're going to have to try to handle that for a while at least.
How about you go over there for just an hour or so, tell your mum you and your boyfriend had made other plans for the night so you can't stay long. So you'll go and meet her, but you don't have to stay there all night, and maybe you'll catch your series?
I'm afraid that's the only advice I can come up with. Just go easy on your mother, she's obviously going through an immensely hard time. I don't know what to do about your sister though, other than talk to your mum about that, and maybe wait with that until a little later, when your mum starts feeling better.
By the way, how old is Denise?
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06-17-2007, 04:58 PM
Oh...well If I may suggest, it may still be good to go though. I mean, you dont have to if you dont want to and thats okay, nothing wrong with that, i'd probably not want to go either. But even though your step sister is mean, just ignore her when she says rude stuff, like my cousin told my sister when she was staying at my grandma's house, when ever she starts up a bad topic, just sit there and smile at her untill she just walks away, lol. XD No, but it may still help your stepmother to go there, even if she'll be crying and all. Maybe try and lighten things up and bit there, idk. ^^;
ljosberinn has a very good idea!
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Marissa D
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06-17-2007, 04:59 PM
Oh, there's no talking about Denise with her. "She is who she is! You want people to respect you for who you are, right!? "
Denise is 16. I tried to talk to her several times, but she either laughs at me because I talk stupid, or she'd constantly say: "I'mnotlisteningI'mnotlisteningI'mnotlisteningshut upshutupshutup" and stuff like that. :roll:
EDIT: She won't leave. My stephmother is crazyabout Denise, and everytime Denise would even get up to go to the loo she'd be like: "Don't leave us without your company, okay hun?" and stuff like that. ><; Or at least, that's what she was like last week.
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ljosberinn
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06-17-2007, 05:01 PM
That sounds incredibly childish. But I guess there's nothing to do about it, just try your best to ignore her and hope she grows up soon. >.<
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Marissa D
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06-17-2007, 05:03 PM
>___< If she won't grow up soon I'ma stab her I swear.
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Knerd
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06-17-2007, 05:24 PM
It's entirely your choice, really. It's a bad situation, but it is Father's Day. Do what you can to honor it. And if that means staying in your own home away from your stepmother and stepsister, then so be it. At least you can spend the day away from arguments and problems. It's not selfish is it avoids a horrible conflict.
I don't have any advice about Denise. It just seems like one of those situations that you have to wait through. Someday you'll have a better opportunity to sit her down and work it out, but you can't just force it to happen. Be the bigger person, for now.
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Marissa D
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06-17-2007, 05:42 PM
Actually, I see Father's Day as something made up by companies to make profit. And now my fatehr's dead I would really love to just... Break with ma and Denise. I have no need for them.
>_< But I'd feel guilty towards my stephmum. Not now, but when she's dead. I'll be like: "I wish I just..."
But dropping by to prevent myself from feeling guilty is already something to feel guilty about, because that would mean I'm just doing it for myself. .-.
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Marissa D
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06-17-2007, 06:09 PM
She just called again... And I told her I've got a lot of tests tomorrow and the rest of next week (which is true) so I can't drop by today... :? And she was like: "Oh. Well, you could have told me earlier." and she hung up. ><
Yeah. Great. Now she's angry aswell.
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06-17-2007, 07:17 PM
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Oh, there's no talking about Denise with her. "She is who she is! You want people to respect you for who you are, right!? "
Denise is 16. I tried to talk to her several times, but she either laughs at me because I talk stupid, or she'd constantly say: "I'mnotlisteningI'mnotlisteningI'mnotlisteningshut upshutupshutup" and stuff like that. :roll:
EDIT: She won't leave. My stephmother is crazyabout Denise, and everytime Denise would even get up to go to the loo she'd be like: "Don't leave us without your company, okay hun?" and stuff like that. ><; Or at least, that's what she was like last week.
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If she steals your phone again report to your phone company and have it shutdown. If you are at your apartment at the time turn it over to the Police and check if you have a case against her. In some states it's Minor to Grand Larceny. Relative or not it's still a crime. As for talking to her just don't. If she talks to you mock her and treat her like dirt. I now it's cruel but after a few times she might realize that it's not fun being on the receiving end.
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06-18-2007, 03:01 AM
She's not your mom.
He was YOUR father.
You don't have to comfort her. If anything you have yourself to comfort. She needs to realize that.
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06-18-2007, 07:31 AM
How old is Denise?
Because if she's young, it's probably okay for her to be like that.
But if she's old enough to.. know what 2045*498 is you should get some some wits into her brain
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yanyan13
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06-18-2007, 12:29 PM
what's the point in having to go there knowing that if your mom loves HER daughter more than you? end of discussion. XD just don't. mothers when they've gone crazy are VERY difficult to handle. believe me.
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Katurine
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06-18-2007, 03:35 PM
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She just called again... And I told her I've got a lot of tests tomorrow and the rest of next week (which is true) so I can't drop by today... :? And she was like: "Oh. Well, you could have told me earlier." and she hung up. ><
Yeah. Great. Now she's angry aswell.
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Um...Err...Well, great, like it's YOUR fault you have lotsa tests.
In my opinion, she needs to stop being blind and deaf. Denise is 16, right? Your stepmom should stop treating her daughter as if she was a little child who doesn't understand "that she does bad things". And also all that "ImnotlisteningImnotlistening" stuff? That's what little kids do. They both need to grow up.
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06-18-2007, 05:17 PM
Wow.
I think you should go. I mean, c'mon, help your mom out.
Buuut first, talk with her about Denise. Now she's a bitch. x.x; You could try saying "I'll come only if you first hear me out about Denise."
That way, perhaps you guys could come to an agreement, and you'll be able to go.
Or if you really want to watch the series, if you have Tivo, go record it.
Or ask a friend to record it.
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Marissa D
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06-18-2007, 05:21 PM
yanyan13: Exactly. I feel completely left out... My stephmum actually still calls Max(my boyfriend) 'Mark'. ><;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;; Like she doesn't even try!
katurine: Denise just is the dumb shit she is, and my stephmum picks her side no matter what. I'm sick of trying to get through. She wants me to accept Denise the way she is, 'because we accept you too' :roll:
Winter Win: I ended up not watching the series because they mean little to me... But my stephmum means even less. ^^;;
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06-20-2007, 01:36 PM
ummmmmm..... maybe you should get a job and run away from home perhaps?
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Marissa D
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06-20-2007, 01:40 PM
I'm still in school and I live with my boyfriend. His place is my home. :3 No way I'm going to leave him.
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06-20-2007, 01:42 PM
travel with him?
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Marissa D
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06-20-2007, 01:43 PM
He has a job at the bank. If he randomly takes off, he'd be in trouble. He's having some tensions there... His boss doesn't really like him and would take any reason to fire him.
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06-20-2007, 01:47 PM
hummmm......... im out of ideas :sweat:
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06-20-2007, 07:06 PM
Record your series or something.
Your stepmom wants to spend time with you. Her second dead husband was just buried last week, you said so yourself.. Can you not realize how miserable she's feeling right now? It sounds like she really enjoys talking to you. Give up just some of your precious time you'd otherwise be spending watching TV and just go visit her. Take the high rode, don't put up with Denise. She doesn't sound worth it.
Be there for your stepmom. That's all she's asking you to do.
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Marissa D
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06-20-2007, 07:10 PM
Thing is, she's never there for me either. And she still talks to me like I'm an 8-year-old with retardation.
And there's no avoiding Denise when I have to see my step mum. Seriuosly. Those two are inseperable.
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06-20-2007, 07:34 PM
Count it as a 'good deed of the day' sort of thing, then. I know you don't want to go, and I wouldn't either, but seriously, how much more heartbroken would she be if you didn't visit her and she really wanted you to?
Put up with a little bit of patronizing for her... Would your dad want you to visit her?
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Marissa D
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06-20-2007, 07:37 PM
I don't know if he wanted me to...
He never cared much and never gave me advice. ^^;
All he said was (or everything he said came down to): "It's your life. Do with it as you please, but don't bug me with it"
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