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Old 06-26-2007, 06:20 AM

This isn't anything major, but my best friend has a crush on this girl I used to be friends with (she's a plethora of things, none of which are good). Anyway...she treats him like total crap-calling him a freak of nature and such. And I know she isn't pretending, seeing as she hasn't caught on to the fact that I can't stand her, she bitched about him every day to me after 8th period. Real considerate of her, to complain about my best friend to me. Basically-he's blind to how she treats him, and I know he's gonna get hurt. So I how do I either knock some sense into him or protect him from Mrs. Bitchy?

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Old 06-26-2007, 09:31 AM

Perhaps you could calmly sit him down and talk to him? Go somewhere nice like the park, share an ice-cream or something, and just talk to him. Maybe ask him why he likes her and what he sees in her? Then you could tell him that as his friend, you don't want to see him hurt and he should stay away from the girl he likes.
Just don't make it seem pushy or bossy :) And if he doesn't believe you or doesn't want to listen, don't get mad. All you need to do is talk to him as a friend and show you're there for him and his best interests :)

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Old 06-26-2007, 12:15 PM

Yeah, tell him you don't think Miss Bitch is a very nice person, and when he's like: "Well, I think she..." just tell him she really does NOT seem like a nice person and then let him talk. And give a lot of examples. Open his eyes without being nasty. :3

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Old 06-26-2007, 04:07 PM

the only way to let him know is to flat out tell him. You can however do this calmly and gently, maybe over luch or something.

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Old 06-26-2007, 04:09 PM

If he doesn't get it from her obvious distain for him, then I'm sure you're going to need to take out the frying pan and bash it into his head before he really realizes it.

Good luck, I think you'll need it. XD <3

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Old 06-26-2007, 07:26 PM

If I were you I might confront her first. Just flat out ask why she thinks it's okay to talk to me in the first place let alone putting down my bestfriend. And see what she says...Maybe she is strangely attracted to him and has no idea how to react. -shrugs- If she is just a bitch then maybe set your friend up to hear what she says about him once. I think hearing it first hands is the best way to get over someone. It would hurt but then he'd know for sure what a creep she is.

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Old 06-27-2007, 01:34 AM

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If I were you I might confront her first. Just flat out ask why she thinks it's okay to talk to me in the first place let alone putting down my bestfriend. And see what she says...Maybe she is strangely attracted to him and has no idea how to react. -shrugs- If she is just a bitch then maybe set your friend up to hear what she says about him once. I think hearing it first hands is the best way to get over someone. It would hurt but then he'd know for sure what a creep she is.
I've known her forever...she seems to think she's queen of the world and can do whatever the hell she wants-and no one has to guts to knock her off her pedestal. Except me. Gee how I love how she now takes her anger out on me.

That's mean, but it'd probably work...

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Old 06-27-2007, 02:26 AM

To be honest? Tell him how you feel about it, what you know about her. If he doesn't listen, there's nothing you can do but be there for him when he gets hurt. Really, don't worry about it. Getting hurt is part of life, and it will make him stronger and smarter in the end.

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Old 06-27-2007, 07:11 PM

First and foremost, NEVER start the conversation with "I think she's a(n)..." This will not only change his opinion, but also cause him to get mad at you for insulting the girl he likes. What you should do is calming break it to him- maybe at his or your house, a public pool or park (Just make sure SHE won't be there) and slowly break it to him.

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Old 06-29-2007, 07:37 AM

I think you should beat the living shit out of that hoe.! :x :twisted:
And as for your best friend you should beat some scense into him ,Or you could tell him to open his eyes and she shes just a bitch and he need to move on to liking a nicer girl. :wink: Good luck with fixing your problem I hope that helps a little.

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Old 06-29-2007, 04:14 PM

Not a whole lot you can do about that, unfortunately. <<,, You can try telling him, but if he really likes her than he'll probably blow your advice off. Then, months later, when he's moved on and talking about how bitchy she was, you'll roll your eyes in frustration because you tried telling him, and he wouldn't listen.

<<,, I've had this experience.

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Old 06-29-2007, 07:51 PM

You can offer advice, but ultimately... if he's going to get hurt, he's going to get hurt. I've had a few friends in my time cry on my shoulder (literally) asking, "What should I do?"

You can give advice, but they'll either do what they want or they won't. Sometimes people have to get hit really hard before they re-evaluate their situations. :/

I hope it works out.

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Old 06-29-2007, 11:29 PM

You should tell her to get to know him first and that he's really crazy for her. If you explain that he's truly in love with her then maybe she'll ease up. If she doesn't care and continues to badmouth him then don't talk to her. Just ignore her, if she can't be nice to someone who likes her then it's better that you aren't associated with her for the time being. Give her some space and let her think about what she's done to him.

I hope it works out for you.

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Old 07-02-2007, 03:43 AM

oh thats easy knock it to her to back off of him and then tell him to move on

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Old 07-04-2007, 12:31 AM

I had the same problem a while back actually.

And nearly fell out rather badly after I tried to explain it to him and then we both kind of got fired up/argued about it, mainly because he wouldn;t listen ;_;

You should just talk to him about it and tell him that you're just worried etc. Although sometimes experiences like these kind of eh "toughen" someone up? And to be honest, I think you'd have to go through something like this at one point or another to grow up and learn that people don;t always return your feelings.

Is he a rather naive person btw? Just wondering, although if he really does like her that much chances are he wouldn't be able to see through her flaws or uhm.

Gah i'm not making any sense agains, I think I should go to bed now...

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Old 07-05-2007, 03:51 PM

WoO! Sound like my friend and boyfriend in a way.
He treats her like shit 90% of the time, but shes doesn't wanna break up to hurt him.
& Just a bunch of drama.
I say, let it pass & figure it out on his own.
If hes blind and can't see that she doesn't like him & is absolutely terrible to him, then it's his fault for not seeing it in the first place.

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Old 07-06-2007, 11:51 AM

Just tell him and see how things go. Thats the best you can do in my opinion : )

If he doesnt believe you or something like that, oh well. His fault.

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Old 07-13-2007, 01:35 AM

It is a good that you're looking out for your friend, but it could also back lash out at you. The reason why I think you should let your friend learn from his own mistakes is because he might call you jealous. I had problems with some of my friends before with the same situation. I have always tried stopping them from making careless mistakes, but I think we should just allow them to. It may take them a thousand times of making the same mistake, but eventually they will learn. If they don't learn from it then well... They never will, lol.

 


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