I'm the middle child in my family, but because my older step brother has never lived with us and I have never met him I get treated like the oldest..well, my younger sister has had EVERYthing laid out for her.

Where I needed help in school my parents helped her where they didn't help me, where I worked my butt off only to fall behind in debt and end up having to move back in, my god parents buy her a car, I have to ride a bus to school everyday, I worked for 4 years before i decided to go back to school and it seems like no ones appriciative...

when my sister needed help I readily stepped up, I helped her pass economics, American government, and even some of her other moderately boring classes...yet behind my back and even to my face a lot she calls me names, always a bit** and other nasty things...yet when she wants something from me she can be as sweet as pie till she gets it, then its like venom seeps inside her..

is this like anyone else? do your siblings use you?

I have bigger sister, when were a lot younger each time we did something to each other it was fighting XD

Anyway, I think the best thing for you to do is actually tell your parents and or god parents about you're feeling...
Now,don't say I effing hate my sister and want to her to die blah blah blah...
That would probably give a negative outcome><

Don't compare that much either, like this;
She has a car, I have nothing
She gets help, I don't...
ETC

You should give a (few)good reason(s) why they should treat you better.
Now..not better than her,just better than before.


You should probably not talk too much about her either because,like I said,if you compare a lot they might lose the interest of discussing this.
Of course, you should use her a little bit,not ignore that she isn't there,but
ARGH DX,I hope you get it..My brain is going mad again><

My stephsister doesn't 'use' me, she's a downright fat cunt. And a dumb shit aswell. I'm glad I moved out.

My sister used to use me until I caught on and put an end to it. She unfortunately still milks my mother dry, but hey. x.x;

Perhaps you should talk with your sister and explain how unappreciated you're feeling as of late, and why. If things don't change, don't offer your helpful services any longer. Let her fix her own stuff.

I talked to mine once or twice, and things never changed. Therefore I switched it around the best I could, and things are better for it. Granted, I'm moved out now... but we still are tied together by something and see each other a few times a week.

• I am the middle child of a very large family. And at every turn, I feel like I am the one being left out. Not getting special treatment. My sisters, since they are female, get everything they want. I was recently brought into an argument with my father over this. He is buying my younger sister a 90 thousand dollar car for her 16th birthday. I almost broke out in tears when I heard this, being that I had to earn my own car. It's currently out of service, due to a blow out with my axle, and my father refuses to help.
  
  It makes me really upset, when I see my siblings getting so much, and me getting nothing. Sometimes though, I'm glad my dad doesn't help me out at all. I'm very proud of everything I've managed to earn, and feel I am better prepared to be on my own when I leave for college. Which I had to save for... But my two little sisters are going when they graduate, thanks to my father's generous nature towards them. He pays for everything.
  
  I try to just, accept that my father believes he is doing the right thing by having me provide for myself. I try to tell myself that he does it because he knows I can do it, and expects only the best from me. I also try to not let myself get bitter of such trivial matters and lash out at my sisters because of their special treatment. In 10 years, it won't matter. We'll all be grown up, and I hope I will be better person because of all the hard work I put into my life.

Originally Posted by cleric sarah

I'm the middle child in my family, but because my older step brother has never lived with us and I have never met him I get treated like the oldest..well, my younger sister has had EVERYthing laid out for her.

Where I needed help in school my parents helped her where they didn't help me, where I worked my butt off only to fall behind in debt and end up having to move back in, my god parents buy her a car, I have to ride a bus to school everyday, I worked for 4 years before i decided to go back to school and it seems like no ones appriciative...

when my sister needed help I readily stepped up, I helped her pass economics, American government, and even some of her other moderately boring classes...yet behind my back and even to my face she calls me names, always a bit** and other nasty things...yet when she wants something from me she can be as sweet as pie till she gets it, then its like venom seeps inside her..

is this like anyone else? do your siblings use you?

I know just what you mean =3

• My (immedeate) family has two children. My younger brother and then me, the older sister. We're pretty far apart in age (or so it seems...) and we fight constantly. I'm four years older than he is and he has no idea what stuff I had to work harder for.
  
  I can't get away with anything. I say "he's disrespectful of my privacy" and my parents get super mad at me. He calls me "a witch" and they say okay to him. What the eff is up with that? They said he can date at whatever age he wants. They told me, not until your eighteen. He doesn't watch TV for a week as his biggest punishment. I get abuse, no food, and no electronics and friends for a month as mine. I have grade expectations of nothing lower than Honor Roll. As long as he's passing the grade, they're happy with him. It's ridiculous.
  
  As for you, I'd say maybe you should stop helping her as much. I mean, if you don't help her then she can't take advantage of you right? She'll have to learn to fend for herself at one point or another. I consider that to be 'tough love'. Sounds mean, but it's all I could come up with >___>

I'm the oldest and I have a younger brother. We fight like none other even though I don't live at home anymore.

But, even though I downright want to kill him sometimes, I will protect him. Even when he's being a complete jerk to me.

It's like, I'd turn the kid in for murder, but I'd knock someone out for calling him a monster.

My sister is like that.
She's had trouble with reading all her life & I've had trouble with math ever since I can remember.
When I confronted them back in 3rd grade they dismissed it & said I was just being lazy & needed to try harder. Even my damn teachers said I was struggling and falling back terribly. My sister said she hated reading & my parents automatically assumed it was because she had a reading problem. They got her tested & tested & tested. They eventually stuck her in Special Education programs & she improved.
I've had problems with math ever since then, I've struggled & failed every test. I can study and study and study till I pass out from not sleeping. I try and do my homework but for some reason I cannot remember formulas or steps to problems no matter how many times I do them..but my parents still think it's my fault.
Oh and when my sister gets a failing grade in a class they dismiss it because shes "Special Ed" well, first off she only has ONE special ed class & that's reading 2nd off when they find out I'm failing math they freak out and wonder why. I get punished & she gets let of with "Try harder" she's failed more classes then I have.
Not to mention she has to bad knees & almost had to have surgery for both of them because of it.
She has gone to physical therapy twice as well. They assigned her a paper full of exercises to do to strengthen her knees...she did them for a week & quiet because she "Didn't want to do them" my mom yell at her once and let it go..I tried doing them with her to try & hell her but no, she didn't want to she was busy watching TV. My mom doesn't yell at her for anything, she can sit for two months in the house with out going out side, she can forget to do her exercises till she sprains her knees again, she can eat pizza & chicken every day of her life with out being yelled at to eat something healthy.
My sister is 16 & is over weight.
Shes never told to clean either. It's always my duty to clean & make sure the house is clean.
She's never told what to do unless I complain she never does it, which is true..

I MAINLY HATE MY SISTERS I HAVE 2

You're treated like that simply because you're older. And because you are older, you have most of the responsiblities. It isn't fair, but that's just the way it is. It's the same way when you can forgive a younger person easier than an older person.

But when you are helping out your sister, do you do it for her, or do you do it wanting something in return? If it's the former, then be the best person you can be, no matter what she does or say to you. Besides, you say that she calls you names behind your back. Can you honestly say that you don't do the same thing as well?

Um, no my sister and I really don't talk to each other much, she's a year and a half younger than me and i'm 17(praticly 17, 8 days) so we live in the same house share things and maby watch things together, but we really don't help or hurt each other. I believe theres two types of sibling love, Brotherly Love, is chaotic and could get you killed, Sister love is kind gental, and could help you out of most. I think this way partly cause i like the idea of opposites, but theres really no enforcement behind it being true.

thats a spoilt sister you have. I don't see ANY sisterly love there at all. Well from you yes, since you've tolerated her and actually agreed to help her and stuff.
The reason why your parents really haven't done much for you is because like what others have said, you're the 'eldest child'. Your the one they treat like an adult. They expect you to be able to look after yourself and your younger siblings.
Just think of it this way, in the end, you'll do better in life. You wont need your mom and dad's help in the future when you start to live on your own, while your sister ends up being the stress, wrath and burden to your parents. wahahahaa

At first I did her work just to help get her through her classes so the 3000$ my parents spent on her graduation wouldnt go to waste, but then when she started calling me a bitch and all behind my back I made her start paying me, and even then she stopped and I didnt force her because older sisters are suppose to look out for there younger siblings...

The worst thing is she got a computer after mine got a virus (cause of her downloading a whole bunch of stuff) and then when I got on it I had to do stuff for her, an example would be for gaia...

Her boyfriend wanted a devil tail so I spent my money and hard earned time and some of her stuff and busted my ass to get him a devil tail, I ended up using my stuff to get it and then what does she do after he gets it for christmas, treats me like shit....so a few weeks ago I borrowed the tail, sold it, told them both to piss off gave all my expensive items away and to my friend who is using them to whore to get herself a tail and get myself my tail back that I gave away to a friend...

I suppose it might be a bitchy thing to do but what the hell...

Well i can't really sympathize too much. I'm the youngest in my family and it's the exact opposite for me. But my older siblings are that way with me. If i need thier help, they fuss and complain, and get pissed off. they call me lazy because i'm the only one that can't find a decent enough job to move out and they say i'm a bum because they don't think i want to move out. believe me i do. but when they need my help, i'm the first one to offer it. they don't appreciate me either. that's why i live with my mom now. i avoid them if i can. but they still bug me from across states even. they're always calling me and trying to get me to come back. but i have too many problems to worry about to bother thingking about them. the best thing you can do sarah is just be the best big sister you can be. my big sister ignores me. she's the only one of my siblings that does. for me, it's a blessing. but to your sister, if you ignored her, her world might fall apart. i know it seems hard, but sometimes showing appreciation is as hard as saying i love you to someone you truly do love. being there for her will come back to you ten times better. you just need to be patient and try to think that you're doing what's right, no matter how wrong it may be for you. just remember that if you piss her off, you're only making the problem worse. sometimes, you have to be firm. if she's old enough to understand what you say to her, then sit her down, tell her how you feel, and tell her that you won't be her beck and call girl. you have to work for a living. she doesn't. tell her to try doing something for herself and see how it feels. that may not be what you want to here. but from my standpoint as the baby of my family, it's what i think is best. i hope i helped a little bit.

If you want your sister to stop using you, stop bending over backwards to help her. Like the devil tail thing. If you were rich donating a sizable sum would have been more then you needed to do, or helping her with her homework every now and then, but, don't just do things when she asks. If she's going around calling you a bitch after, and knows you know, and you still help her every time she asks, then she knows she can always get what she wants. So, stop helping her out so damned much. If she's in college, she's old enough to learn to help herself and do things on her own.

Thanks guys for all the feedback....


I'm sitting in class and I just got a message from someone on here who says that I'd been bumping on here and copied and posted a think I said...


It appears that when I asked my sister to get on here to post for me and help me a little she went back and added bumps to some of my older posts and made them small....-_-

What possess's a person to try and get someone banned on an account they know that person enjoys...wtf...

Ugh, that's horrible. You need to let her fall flat on her back.

My brother is not like that. He's just a bitch. He doesn't use me or anything like that because he's not clever enough. Ugh, he's so annoying. :roll:

Yea, sometimes the youngest of the children can be spoiled alot, I dont know why, but sometimes they are. I think your sister needs to realize she's not the only one there and that everything doesn't revolve around her. I think her being spoiled is getting to her head, but it's normal for sisters to fight and all, but maybe try talking to her about it. Idk if it would help anything, but it's worth a shot. :] Tell her that she needs to stop being a brat and that everything doesn't always revolve around her, but not harshly. She'll probably get mad, but it might help.

I'm the youngest in the family, but none of us are really spoiled more then the other or spoiled at all really. We do argue with eachother but there are times we get along and have fun as well. ^__^

wow sounds rough. sorry but me and my sister are very close and love each other to death, maybe almost too much. haha. well , i think you should but your foot down when it comes to your parents and tell them how you feel.


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Try talking to your parents about this. Maybe they don't realize their actions. I think that if they see it is bothering you, they will fix the situation.

Also tell your sister that you have done alot for her and that if she continues to act like that, you won't help her with anything.

My younger sister uses me all the time like that >< Mine is 15 and she tends to use me for her own happiness. I take her places and she takes my money while we're there, but it should be okay because her friends are there apparently x.X I drive her around everywhere she wants to go, because I'm bored most of the time and she's never very appreciative with that. I do tons of stuff for her and at the end of the day she tells me how much I suck xD Yeah, I'm used quite a bit. That's just my sister too, I've got a list of people who are at it with me >>

my twin sister.Well im older by a min is so greedy and annoying and i want to hurt her so badly.Also,my brother who young is a retard and yes is one and so annoying like my sister.god i hate my life.