NO! we dont
I have heard the phrase all my life, Only children are spoiled, self centered, they dont like sharing, they this they that...
Well I say those are lies! I know some are but come on it is one in a whole bunch.
I am an only child, my parents didnt want more kids because they couldnt afford it and they were conscious enough to take the right desition so I could have a good life, and even though when I was young we used to be in need often.
People tend to think that only children get everything they want and are normally asses and people who only care for themselves.
I have heard a thousand times people/friends with syblings saying "oh you have it easy dont you? they give you what you want" or "I wish I were you, my life would be so easy and calmed".
I agree with them when it comes to syblings fights and all but I can asure the rest is a myth.
Only children dont get all they want, my parents made an effort and sometimes it ended up in disaster they never knew how much to give me so they tend to give me less just in case.
I never had someone "on my side" like you can have when you have a sybling to unite with, I was the only one home when my parents yelled at eachother, and when they wanted to yell at someone, It was only me there.
And when you grow up and your parents need help, you are the only one there, and when they die, you are the only one there who knows how that feel, you cannot call a brother or a sister to hug and share the pain, it is you , all alone for everything.
If I have kids in the future, I will try to have two by all means.Even If I have to adopt one, I mean it.
So what's your opinion on this?

Originally Posted by Trinitydoll

NO! we dont
I have heard the phrase all my life, Only children are spoiled, self centered, they dont like sharing, they this they that...
Well I say those are lies! I know some are but come on it is one in a whole bunch.
I am an only child, my parents didnt want more kids because they couldnt afford it and they were conscious enough to take the right desition so I could have a good life, and even though when I was young we used to be in need often.
People tend to think that only children get everything they want and are normally asses and people who only care for themselves.
I have heard a thousand times people/friends with syblings saying "oh you have it easy dont you? they give you what you want" or "I wish I were you, my life would be so easy and calmed".
I agree with them when it comes to syblings fights and all but I can asure the rest is a myth.
Only children dont get all they want, my parents made an effort and sometimes it ended up in disaster they never knew how much to give me so they tend to give me less just in case.
I never had someone "on my side" like you can have when you have a sybling to unite with, I was the only one home when my parents yelled at eachother, and when they wanted to yell at someone, It was only me there.
And when you grow up and your parents need help, you are the only one there, and when they die, you are the only one there who knows how that feel, you cannot call a brother or a sister to hug and share the pain, it is you , all alone for everything.
If I have kids in the future, I will try to have two by all means.Even If I have to adopt one, I mean it.
So what's your opinion on this?

i think it's nice to have brother and sister , when you're the only children you get bored fast o.o

that's also true just try not to quote when you post right after me ok? =)

At times it is mentally exhausting..then you think "What if you were them..how would you feel?" I think that having a younger sibling, though at times they seem like monsters, is like having a wall to lean on. I don't mean this literally; only saying that its supportive to finally have someone there..and not be alone in life. When you're own, you can talk to them, esecially in times of was said before- Parents argue and you're the punching bag..wel yeah.. It happens thouh, and we must all remember that we should give eachother a chance.. If not we are enemies to ourselves as well.

I do agree with that
but not everyone with siblings have someone on their side...
I'm the only girl and i don't know how many times
I wished that I didn't exist.
and sometimes I wished that i was the only child.
but I know that I really don't want to be.
I wanted a sister >.<
but noo I only have brothers 3 of them..
all of the are jerks and pure evil.
they leave the cleaning to me all the time.
and my parents don't care about it either
they just say
"you clean better then he does" and walks away from there.
so they don't have to do anything really.
and if I don't do it they will scream at me till i do >_<'
.... its pure evil :evil:

well thats just my case >_<''
nothing really easy solved.

i don't want children at all.

Eh some children have it all but it's not about being an only child.. It's about being spoiled. Like the Kid I babysit. He sister is 15 and act's like she is 25, and when she wants something she gets it... Or she throws fits.

I wish I was spoiled XD

I'm a half-only-child. My mother had a daughter with her first husband (her "practice" husband), and my father had a daughter with his first wife. My mother's daughter, Tracey, is 13 years older and lives a city over. I only see her sometimes,and almost never when she's in a good mood. Darcella (Darcy), on my dad's side, lives in Arizona and is currently in prison.

I see it from both sides. xD

Originally Posted by Suicidebuttons

Eh some children have it all but it's not about being an only child.. It's about being spoiled. Like the Kid I babysit. He sister is 15 and act's like she is 25, and when she wants something she gets it... Or she throws fits.

I wish I was spoiled XD

Scary......
@melancholic awww that's sad, you should stop them and say no girl, you really need to, that is so gender discrimination >:[

Originally Posted by Trinitydoll

Scary......
@melancholic awww that's sad, you should stop them and say no girl, you really need to, that is so gender discrimination >:[

Yeah.. Some times I feel like beating the hell out of her... But then I have to stop and think to my self "Do not hit a minor"XD

And the 3 year old (The one I baby sit) Is like that too. There mom just gives them everything they want.

I am like... Wow you suck at being a mother.

Being a kid is so stressful.

We're so misunderstood. :D

Yeah I have seen those cases, so sad...really those people dont know all the damage they do to their kids right? oh well

My sisters are spoiled rotten. But when I ask for something, I get in trouble.

Well, at least you had parents who thought about the future -.-; I had 4 brothers around me while I was growing up. My parents had to constantly work to feed and clothe us.
BTW, I generally get the idea that parents side with one kid or another, not usually sibling sides with sibling against parent.
Plus, when parents yell, they yell at everyone.

...
when I read the title I thought you were arguing that 'children' don't have it better than adults...

yea, after reading your first post, I had to go over the thread name twice to 'get it'.

Well, I have a lil sister. No 'only child' would understand how to be annoyed with someone and love someone so much at the same time as having an annoying lil sister would do to you >.<

I think both sides have a lot of misconceptions about the other.

Only children seem to get whatever they want all the time which is not necessarily true in all cases. People with siblings are often jealous of their siblings (because it always seems like the other sibling ALWAYS gets their way or ALWAYS gets what they want and thus they wish they were "only children"), and rarely do they get along as only children think they do.

I happen to have five siblings and I don't share that kind of relationship with ANY of them. Given I am the black sheep of the family (or the "Jan Brady," if you will), I have never been able to talk to any of my brothers and sisters about my problems or worries before because they usually try to go out of their way to either tell on me or get me in trouble.

I am a only child. And you don't have to be an only child to be spoiled etc. That is just a stupid sterotype. I don't like to share and I am number one in my world (Including my mom), but that has nothing to do with having no siblings. That is just how I am.

Yeah maybe having siblings would change an only childs outlook, or not, who knows. *shrugs* I am glad I have no siblings though. :3

Originally Posted by Machika

I am a only child. And you don't have to be an only child to be spoiled etc. That is just a stupid sterotype. I don't like to share and I am number one in my world (Including my mom), but that has nothing to do with having no siblings. That is just how I am.

Yeah maybe having siblings would change an only childs outlook, or not, who knows. *shrugs* I am glad I have no siblings though. :3

"I don't like to share and I am number one in my world" I'm that way too, and I'm not an only child. I see what you're saying. :3

:/ There's times I wish I was an only child. I have 2 sisters, and 4 brothers, and to top it all off, Only 2 of us have the same father. My mom's a drug addict, So she'll sleep with just about anyone. Get pregnant and dump off the kid :/ My dad is an alcoholic, he threw me out of the house before I was even ready to leave. So a messed up family situation there. I now live with my grandparents as an only child here, but I do miss the company of my one sister. She's only 14, but she's a lot of fun to hang out with at times <3 But I dont think only children have it all.. Even if they always get what they want, they still dont have it all, Because they're always missing something. Generally they get it all because their parents dont know how to be parents and in return spoil their kids thinking they're doing the right thing. When infact they're just turning them into selfish teenagers, which causes more issues later on. Then they grow up learning they can get whatever they want, whenever they want it. Spoiling a kid is not the right thing to do .. x.x and wow .. This is a long post.

I agree with you completely.

I am an only child. Granted my past hasn't been as rough as other's lives have been, but it hasn't been a walk in the park. When I was a child my parents used to scream at each other all the time and it was only me, alone in my room having to listen to them. Then when my parents divorced I was all alone. Nobody understood how I felt.

I did have siblings for a little while, but they were insane. Literally. After that marriage failed I was feeling more alone than ever with nobody the rely on.

And when I was jumped after school every other day I had nobody to help me out.

SO, I guess having a sibling can be useful sometimes... But you learn to rely on yourself and carry your own burdens better when you're alone. Same goes for dating and friendships...

I guess I got off topic. I'm sorry...

I have a brother and sister and as much as I love hem I would’ve rather been an only child. My daughter is an only child. She’s five and it will probably stay that way too. Kids are expensive. I look back and had my parents only had me I could’ve been totally set up… car, college, and all the works. That’s what I want for my daughter. I want her to have everything I didn’t and I want to be able to throw her a proper wedding when she’s an adult and I don’t want to be paying it off for the rest of my life. If I only have the one then I can blow 40-50k of my savings and still have enough to be sitting pretty as an old lady and travel the world. Selfish? Maybe a bit, but hey just because I’m a mom doesn’t mean I don’t deserve a nice life too!

I've got an older brother and a younger sister, I always wanted an older sister though. I'm jealous of my sister because she gets all my awsome hand me downs and doesn't have to buy all her clothes! My brother's a freshman in college this year and I'll start college in three years. I'm worried my parents won't be able to afford college for my younger sister, so I'll probably go in state somewhere and try my best to get a partial academic scholorship or something.

Me and my brother are the only ones that are really close in our family though so he's helpful to have around. Now that he's in college I feel like an only child, but I still don't feel like I'm spoiled. Well maybe I am a little. . .

That being said I really can't judge if only children are spoiled or not because I'm not one and I definitely don't want my kids to be only children, thats really far in the future to think about though. My gym teacher has 14 kids, and no, that's not a typo. I have no clue how he managed to raise that many kids on a teacher's salary, let alone how the poor wife managed to pop all those children out.

I've always considered myself more or an only child, even though I'm not. My brother is an invalid. He's got the intelligence of a 6 month old and is wheelchair bound. I'm not even sure if all of my friends know I have a brother.

So I'm in about the same boat as you Trin, except I'll have to watch after my parents and my brother when I'm older. D:

However, I got quite a bit of what I asked for, but I've grown up money conscious and only mildly spoiled. (I blame attending a private school.)

Yea i agree, but most onlychilds do get spoiled more. but one flaw is if your always calm and theres no one there exept your parents. If you have brothers and sisters, then theres someone to talk to, someone to playwith when a storm is happening, i know that its hard to talk about hats going on with me to my brother then it is tomy parents. Plus yea me and my brother fight but we never stop loving eachtoehr and if i lose him then it would be liek losing a big part of me, as well as my parents. I mean fights can come and go. But a brother will last forever, and i believe whoever says "you have it all and good" to an onlychild they know they cant live without their sibling(s) everyday they knwo they wont get their way cuase sometimes their brother or sister has to get their way too, which makes it hard for parents to please all of theyr children, which is probably why they get grey hairs sooner cause of all their kdis fighting for what they want. But an only child doesnt have it all all the time. They might be spoiled, they might get nothing. Both sibligns or no siblings it all depends on the person's point of veiw.

I wouldn't like being an only child. I get along really well with my brother and honestly, I can't imagine not having him there to poke once and a while. It's great having someone who really understands you like a friend but is also looking out for you... Heh. My older brother rocks.

same my older brither is lie ka friend and someone i can talk to. plus no onecould ever replace him hes too weird and crazy to be replaced.