Half of the time, a person has to look at least a little bit good to you, or you won't notice them in the first place. However, looks don't mean that much. I think it's incredibly stupid when people stay with someone who is a complete asshole just because they look good. Kinda pathetic, really. xD

As for what I look for in personality, I like a guy who is laid back and just goes with the flow, but isn't afraid to get up and kick some butt if someone crosses the line. Being funny is a huge plus. Also, a guy who isn't afraid to get dirty. I don't want someone bitching at me because I accidentally stepped on their shoe or didn't lay my jacket down in that mud puddle or something. xD

As for looks: brown hair and blue eyes. I like someone who is taller than me and bigger too. Not huge, but it makes me feel weird if the guy is skinnier than I am. o.O;; Tans look good on guys with brown hair too.

I don't want a long term relationship, so a good personality in a partner isn't really that big a deal to me at the moment. It would be different if I wanted someone to be around 24/7, but since I'd quite like someone I only had to deal with for a couple of hours once a month or so, I guess personality's optional xD

People do have to look a certain way for me to be interested. I can not do skinny guys. They just turn me off, as I worry that they'll break.
Smooth (no body hair) guys also make me frowny as they just look illegal :shock:
I can't be attracted to someone who makes me feel nervous to be around, so I need me a big bear of a man to get me interested in taking things any further.

D: If you play the game on only looks or only personality then it's not good.

I think you need to find someone you find attractive because it creates more diversity and you need to find someone you get along with on the personality level. I think it's common sense.

I prefer personalty, though it would be nice if the person was good looking. I have a few things that turn me off, like when I don't know a guy well and he puts his arms around me, it drives me crazy. I don't know why, it's just this pet peeve I have.

I can't have a crush one someone without them being my friend first. That said, looks don't matter to me much (but they sure as hell don't hurt).

I like a guy that's funny, but also really sweet.

And armpit hair (even in guys) absolutely repulses me. Maybe because none of the men in my family have armpit hair?

Thinking back on all the people I've ever been really attracted too, they weren't very stereotypically physically attractive people. I mean, I thought they were beautiful, but most people wouldn't. And i think the reason why I thought they were beautiful was because I was so attracted to their personality.

But that's not to say that I'm not occasionally attracted to people based purely on looks. That also happens quite often.

But it just seems like the people that I've been more infatuated with were more mentally beautiful than physically beautiful.

And also, I really like long brown hair and green eyes.

I don't really know what my turn offs are. I guess if we don't listen to similar music, and they're an annoying or unintelligent person. I don't really like that.

People are usually first Turned On by looks. Then they fall in love with their personalities.
I, on the other hand, am weird:
I've never thought anyone with a bad personality is attractive. Thus, I'm turned off by it. But I've been turned on by people's personalities as I get to know them, though that takes a while before I notice they are beautiful in a different way.
Most of the people I've been turned on are both attractive physically and personality wise to me. Though I can argue others see their personality as weird. Haha... my own taste - my problem not yours.

Intellects is also a big factor and I'm usually turned off (dumb people) or turned on(intelligent or cute innocent dumb)

My love doesn't have to be the most attractive guy in the world - but he can't be 'ugly'. Personality wise, I wouldn't want Mr. Perfect, but someone close to who I am and want to be with flaws that I can compensate - for example, I'm disorganized. I'd like a guy who understands and is organized to balance me out. ex: I'm short - I'd like a taller guy than me, but who's short for guys.

So, I choose personality because a beautiful inside comes through outside. That's why I'm attracted to eyes - they shine through.

Turn ons:
non muscle guys
anime/manga fans
bookworms
music lover
weird and cool at the same time
taller than me but not tall for guys
beautiful eyes
mystery or misunderstood air
humor
procrastination/lazy

Turn offs: Muscly, overweight, smokers, heavy drinkers, druggies, murdering the English language, too much effort on their clothes, unfunny, way too obsessed with grades, annoying

I'm pretty good at getting to look at just about everyone's personality, and then deciding if they are attractive to me or not. I'll talk to someone even if I don't think they look beautiful at first. But sometimes they turn out to be cause of their personalities :D

Not to sound shallow, but I usually only like really skinny girls. I don't know why o.O Fat just repulses me. I can understan everyone has a little bit, but I usually don't like big girls. >.< I am ashamed xP

I personally find my self attracted very much to this one guy,
but I don't know anything about him.
If I met him and he was a jerk though,
I'd probably be like, "NO WAI I DUN LIKE U ANYMORE..."
So, for me it's both.
But hey, I'd much rather love a person for who they are.
Just haven't met anyone that's nice yet.

I love people with a great personality. But I'll have to admit, I wouldn't want to talk to someone that I classify as "ugly" right away. Having a great body, nice hair, nice face, terrific sense of style; that stuff really turns me on and make me want to talk to them. Possibly date them. However, if they are really stupid, impolite, shallow, with no sense of humor, and just plain asswipes, then it's a "See ya later," which means in Captain Subtext, "I don't plan on talking to you again!"

According to my boyfriend though, I have a good personality AND looks. Apparently. O_o;

Originally Posted by Lightswitch Raves

@ wifeofrajan:

Well ok then...

;'|

Sad as it is I know their pain...

to tell the truth, the only thing with looks that bothers me is helth and cleanlyness.

tho, i think these are seporate things.

i cant stand these people that think there grate because they get up and put half and inch of make up on and are basically the paris hilton types. its annoying when other females have a go at us guys saying that its our fault and that the paris hilton type of female is considered most attractive... really its not.

guys as a whole aint really that bothered if our partners have big breasts, slim bodys or what ever. most of us just want to be with some one thats fun to talk to and who likes a cuddle at times... not some one that has to make sure there apearance is exactly the same as it was 10 seconds ago.

its personality all the way with me. and i always make sure i know what that person is like be being friend before hand, or friend of a friend types.

When I first meet someone, I take in their overall appearance. Yes, some things stand out to me. Height and age for example. I can't date someone younger than me. It just freaks me out. Also, I can't date someone shorter than I am.

After that, if they have no personality, my attraction dies.

I could totally date someone who isn't the most amazing hottie but has a kickass personality. Sure, they would still have to be cute...

But personality > looks for me.

Definitely both for me. If something or someone is unpleasant to the eye for me, I mean horrifically unpleasant, I won't talk to them ask much. I try to be nice though and I talk to everyone.

For instance I'm friends with a guy I can't stand but he adores me just as much as his girlfriend. It's kind of sad. I don't like him though. I used to like him though but his laugh totally threw me off.

Turn ons... hmm... definitely a good personality. If they're jerks and have no brain I just turn away. If they're attractive and nice it's a good catch [but the secret is they're all taken.]

Things that turn me off: girly laughs, high pitched voices... etc. That is precisely why I don't like the guy that likes me.

In general I'd say the most important parts are a pleasing appearance and a good demeanor. XD sounds like I'm talking about a dog almost.. "Come here Freddie, it's time to go out to dinner!"

Pardon my sarcasm.

I guess, that for me it would be 50:50, because personlity sure counts and even though if the person is pretty, when you have nothing to talk about with him, or he is bichy, it would be rather hard to get along. Then again, I'd prefer to person look more or less okay, otherwise I'd feel a bit wakward.

Hygeine and personality are what I look for. Cheesy as it is, I don't give a rat's ass about looks.

a really good personality as in funny and hopefully likes manga and anime because i go on about it so much it would annoy anyone who does'nt

no facial hair i hate it probably because my dad has a moustache and it used to scare me like hell as a kid

i like quite long hair but not girly long i just want something to put my fingers through if ya know what i mean lol that sounds weird

hair colour i dont really care or have a preference about it
black is my least favorite if i have to say but i quite like brown hair
i like brown eyes they are so deep lol
i like hair with a little gel but not all the time just a one off account is good enough for me lol

i like very boyish clothes and slightly baggy trousers
i like a top that shows of their manly chest and i dont like too much flab either it just scares me lol

i like cute and sexy the same amount so someone who has both of these is a plus lol

i like someone who is taller than me or just below me
but its not necessary because i am taller than pretty much everyone lol

i feel like this is a dating thread...
even though i ain't single
and most of the points sound like my boyfriend but its not meant to KW just happens to be perfect for me lol

and has everything i could possibly want
love ya KW XXX

I think personality, most of the time, has a lot to do with how a person looks too. I've seen many drop-dead gorgeous girls go unnoticed because they were tomboyish, quiet and anti-social. And I've seen some, well, far-from-pretty girls who had tons of guys after them because they smiled a lot and dressed all girly.

I personally look more for personality - all the guys I've liked so far were far from handsome, except my current boyfriend/fiancee'. And him I met online, never knowing what he looked like for over a year, not even from pictures. Thing is, even if a guy is really pretty or handsome, if he doesn't have charm (which comes with personality) then I'll get bored instantly. He needs to be either cocky and/or like all sorts of things that I do too, and let me know soon. Like, if I don't know right away that they're a gamer, than I probably won't take the time to find out. Usually though, the kind of guys I like, make it very visible. I like geeks, tehee.

Anyway so, yeah; I think personality is what makes people attractive, more often than not.

So, conclusion; I like attractive people, which, to me, means people who share my likes and are open about it.

I used to find cute, ditzy girls really attractive.

But nowadays i'm attracted to females with intelligence, not looks.

Brains = So sexy <3

I actually have a bit of a thing for tall guys. Especially tall guys that have cross necklaces, black, and sweaters. That sort of style. And did I mention tall? xD I always want a man that I'll be able to hug with my head resting on his chest. *siiigh*

But as for the personality? I'd like someone that's open-minded and clever. Witty, even. Someone that isn't shallow, but isn't stiff enough so that he can't have fun. Someone that takes his studies seriously, but someone that knows when its time to take me out to dinner. xD

For me they have to have a good personality, and I'm a little ashamed to say it but most times if they don't look semi-descent I wouldn't take the time to talk to them. Only because looks can say a lot about you. But I love a good personality, like if they accept me through mood swings and all ^^. It's hard to find good people these days though 8(

I would have to say I give just about every one the same chance. Although I generally tend to talk to the guys that are a little...not so pretty as some would put it. I find that they're the ones that most often treat me like a queen. And that's what I like.
I've had my share of guys that were droll worthy, but they always ended up, cheating on me, or beating me. Usually beating me, and I've never had that problem with the other guys.
They have to have a good personality though, which is hard to find. I like when a guy tells a cheesy joke, or a cheesy pick up line. It makes me happy. I'm not sure why, but it does.

Personality:

Turn Ons: Intelligence, Responsible, and a Good Sense Of Humor

Turn Offs: Immaturity, Ignorance, and Egotistic


Looks:

Turn Ons: Well Kept, Clean, Long Hair, Boyish,

Turn Offs: Grunge, Body Hair, Overly Muscled, and “Bad Boy�



I go for personality over looks. It is a plus if someone is nice looking though; I won’t lie about that. But I will deal with some of my Looks turn offs where as my personality ones are a definite no. I just don’t have the time nor patience to deal with people like that.

• Zombie Secks would LOVE to find someone who under stands his condition.. but he knows he won't find anyone like that..
  
  He enjoys intelligent people with a motherly nature.. he also likes people who are understanding and easy to get along with.. who are quite.. animal loving.. and knows when to be supportive and when to not be..
  
  Zombie secks finds it a major turn off if his lover is an arragont donkey.. he dose not like unintelligent, insenstive, theives! He hates anyone who would abuse a small animal for fun! He thinks the punishment they have for animal abusers is not severe enough.. but that's for another topic..
  
  Zombie secks has a list of turn offs.. and turn ons.. he won't share much of them with you. Just know that he dose not like shallow women or men.. he would rather hang himself then date a shallow.. souless beings. a being who prides it's self on looks is no friend of his!

Eh. I've always gone for the personality more. My friends think I'm crazy. A lot of them are like, "But he's ugly!" and I'm like "Not to me." Because honestly, it doesn't matter to me. If they're sweet, nice, and work compatibly with me then it's all good. My boyfriend right now I've been dating for a year and some and we're like a perfect match. I HATE when people say "You can do better" or "Why him?" It drives me crazy. Love is love.