I feel like ranting on the internet because I'm feeling like crap right now and i don't want to call my friends..(read if you want) ;-; okay..I've been going out with this guy for like 5 days and nothing really happened....but i just love him so much! Today everything fell apart. My best friend told me he said that the only reason why he's going out with me is because his best friend (which is one of my friends) forced him to. It hurt my feelings so much! I liked him for so long and when he asked me out....i felt really happy. Then after school, one of my guy friends gave me this adorable pen that he got from his trip. x] its so cute! But, my "boyfriend" and his friend saw me accepting the gift O_O my bf's friend got pissed because he claims that i was cheating on my bf! D< Imagine how i felt when he was screaming into my face! He told my bf of course, and now my bf is going to break up with me! I cried for hours because this is so stupid! Is it so wrong to accept a gift from a friend? and wasn't my bf the one who was a jerk in the first place? He asked me out for the wrong reasons....i don't even know if he ever liked me. I feel so heartbroken...everything is just so complicated.

I'm sorry.....i know this is long and maybe confusing....but i kinda feel a "little" better after typing out this..

Discuss:
what should I do tomorrow?
Have you had any problems like this?
Friends that piss you off?

Ouch. D: *huggles*

Maybe you should break up with him. If it is true that the only reason he went out with you was because he was forced into it, then that is pretty fuckin' low. I understand that you like him and all, but sweetie, you don't deserve to be treated that way by a jerk like that. ):

I mean, if he's going off because of accepting a pen from a friend and he expects you not to be upset over that or the fact that you found out about the whole forced-to-date-you thing, then he is clearly not worth it. It'll be hard, but I say drop him like a hot potato because a guy like that will just make you cry more and you'll have to make more topics in this forum about it. @[email protected];

Originally Posted by Kiwizzle

Ouch. D: *huggles*

Maybe you should break up with him. If it is true that the only reason he went out with you was because he was forced into it, then that is pretty fuckin' low. I understand that you like him and all, but sweetie, you don't deserve to be treated that way by a jerk like that. ):

I mean, if he's going off because of accepting a pen from a friend and he expects you not to be upset over that or the fact that you found out about the whole forced-to-date-you thing, then he is clearly not worth it. It'll be hard, but I say drop him like a hot potato because a guy like that will just make you cry more and you'll have to make more topics in this forum about it. @[email protected];

That's what my friend told me....thanks for reading :) i feel kinda better!

Originally Posted by `Yume

That's what my friend told me....thanks for reading :) i feel kinda better!

Well, I'm glad I could help, whether or not you do decide to take my advice. Whatever happens, just do what you feel is best, but don't let anybody take advantage of your feelings. (:

I've ran into all sorts of problems like this when I was a teenager. Trust me, by the time you're my age, it'll all seem like such silly petty crap. I once broke up with a guy because he was looking at pretty girls in a magazine at a store. XDD

When you're young, you don't really understand what relationships are all about. It's really just about having a boyfriend for the sake of having one, because it's cool. Sure, there is like and attraction there, but... rarely do you see many high school relationships that last out of all those that exist.

What I think you should do? Explain to your boyfriend that the person who gave you the pen is a friend, and you have no romantic interests in ths person what-so-ever. Just because the person is of the opposite gender, it doesn't mean that you can't be his friend or accept gifts from him.

I don't consider it cheating until you really entertain the thought of doing something serious with something else. It's natural for thoughts to come into your mind once in awhile... but to actually act upon those thoughts is another story.

And love is something that develops over time and dedication. It's so easy to confuse what you feel now as love... the happy flutterby twirly floating on clouds happy kitties and bunnies feeling. It's wonderful, but it's not real true love. Love... is such a powerful emotion that is both beautifully amazing and painful at the same time. It's very hard to explain. n_n

But anyway, if he can't understand that this is your friend, and is only going out with you because he felt forced to do it, then he's not worth your time. Don't let yourself get caught up in having a boyfriend and put your needs aside to keep that around. That's an important lesson that I've learned.

It might hurt a little now, but it'll hurt so much more later on if you let these things happen.

Most guys are jerks. Seriously. My advice? Seek out the guys who aren't hot sexy bad boys. (NOt that they can't be attractive. n_n) Or just focus your attention on more important things.

But stay away from boys that treat you like crap. Period. :o

5 days and already everything is falling apart? dump him, now. otherwise you will only be miserable.

• Most guys see women as property when they are dating. The only reason they do this is because well.. men are animals and they like being protective of their mates.
  
  He's going to break up with you unless you calmly explain why you accepted the pen, If he breaks up with you anyways over that.. Well, Then he's not really worth being with to begin with.

I agree with Kiwizzle, break up with him, he's obviously not worth you time. Don't allow guys to treat you that way you're better than that.

I agree with Sagitar.

It's only been 5 days and things are already as crazy as you say? It'll only get worse. It's better to end it now then to keep it going and have even more heartache. D:

go on with your life. if he does something like break-up with you, let him. then show him what he gave up. show him what you're good at, sports or school. excel in what you do. then look down at him. i know how it feels to like some one then have him rip your heart out.
no i don't have your problems but i like this guy who can't get over his lying crooked ex.

I think it was really stupid of him to date you for those reasons alone.
But on the other hand, how can you be sure that he dated you for those reasons?
Maybe you friend lied or someone else lied to her, because if he did date you for those reasons alone he probably wouldn't care if you did anything with your friend.

I'd talk to him first if I were you.

Hmm...this was actually a little bit confusing to me...I may have to read it again, but first I'll tell you a little bit about what I think...

You said that you've been going out with this guy for about 5 days...and that you 'love him so much' clearly you had/have a crush on him and you're extatic that he finally asked you out...but I honestly don't know if you can really say that you 'love' someone after only 5 days. Were you close friends with him first? If so then I may be able to see it. But when I was in HS I had this monster crush on this guy and was like OH MAN he's the one, I love him so much! But it just turned out that I found him very attractive...and that's pretty much where it ended. You can mix up love with like, lust and other feelings. But if you truly to feel like you're in love with him, then good for you for knowing your feelings right away, I on the other hand am very...confused about feelings...all the time lol.

If this guy is only going out with you because another one of his/your friends forced him to...then there is really not a lot you can do about it....Yes you can confront him about it and ask him...but I really don't think he would have asked you out unless there was some sort of spark there, so while his/your friend may have suggested it, you won't really know for SURE unless you ask him.

Okay the pen...I don't see ANYTHING wrong with a friend of yours giving you a gift from a trip...I get gifts and such from different people and my boyfriend doesn't freak out and start yelling at me...I kind of found this part to be a little scary, I hope he doesn't yell at you all the time...and it's not like your friend was giving you an engagement ring! It was a little pen, (that was totally cute. ^^) I kind of think it was wrong of your b/f to yell at you for that...and you can't be rude and not accept it. If your b/f is really worried that you're 'cheating' on him because another guy gave you a gift from his trip...then reassure him that you're ONLY FRIENDS with him, other than that, there is nothing you can do.

From what I read, it looks like your boyfriend is kind of being a jerk...but may I ask how old you are? If it's a first relationship for you/him that could also be the reason...maybe he really, REALLY does like you, and was worried when he found out that you got a gift from another guy and he jumped to conclusions...

The only thing I can say for sure is talk to you boyfriend WITH NO ONE ELSE AROUND (because you don't want anyone else telling him what to say, you want him to talk for himself and you want him to talk from the heart..etc..)...and see if this is going to work out or not...and then go from there.

I wish you the best! ^^

You've only been seeing him for five days. That isn't enough time to fall in love with someone and get to know them. Are you sure you're actually in love with him? It's more likely that you just find him attractive. You really have to be with someone and get to know them to know if you love them. Five days isn't even a full week. And he's already getting mad at you over a pen from someone? Ask yourself if that's really worth it. If you'd been with him for five years that would be different, but five days, no. It sounds like you should get rid of this loser if he doesn't dump you first. If he does dump you, it proves that he's not really worth it anyways, because dumping you over a pen that someone gave you is pretty lame. I know it feels bad to get dumped but just remember, it was only five days, how serious could you two have been in five days? I'm sure you'll meet someone who's better.

From what everyone is telling me, i know what i should do..thanks everyone. Oh and we've known eachother for about 2 years..he just asked me out now..I've had a crush on his since we frist met.

Talk to him about it and ask him if what you friend said is true. If he dumps you then you can do better than him if he's going to be that way about you just accepting a gift from a friend.

I don't know that I'd want to stick around with a guy that was that much of a hair-trigger jerk. If he was yelling at you because you accepted a cute gift from another friend...imagine what he might do if you *gasp* were really friendly with someone else!?

What you've got to think about and wrap your mind around is that you guys are really young, which means that you're going to do a lot of stupid things. He might really care for you, but he's young and stupid and very prone to doing things that he will likely regret later in life.

I'd leave off dating him and see if you can't go back to just being friends...wait until you both are more mature, have had time to figure out who you really are...and if you're still interested then, THEN date. I did it, and whoo...I am SO glad I did!

No matter what you choose, I wish you the best of luck.

If you know what to do, then great! I wish you lots of luck, and I'm sure it's the right decision. :3nod: