..Is a complete and total b****?

Not to me of course, but to everyone else around her?
There's this girl at school you see, her name's Alexis, she's a grade younger then me (junior) and I've known her since her freshman year through an art class. Well, we became really good friends, and just last year I started to think I loved her. This, of course, caused more problems then it should of.
You see, she does have kind of a bad background, with home life and stuff, but I truely don't think it's any excuse for her to treat other people-that aren't her friends- so rudely. I admit I'm not the nicest pixie on the planet, but she bullies girls and even sometimes threatens them. She also is disrespectful to teachers and the kids at the middle school down the street all 'know her name'.

But me, feeling a bit ashamed now, had been blind these past two years to it, because she never did it to me. But lately it's been starting to bug me, I saw her make this really nice girl, Jane, cry infront of the whole class yesterday. :/ After class, I told Alexis about what she did and that I think it was messed up, and she got totally depressed over it! I didn't say it mean to her or anything, or even firmly...I just told her how I felt about it, and she started to cry! :/ She really cared about what I thought about her.
I really don't want to hurt her feelings...Not just cause I love her, but because she's been prone to cutting, drugs and bulimia when she gets depressed, and I don't want to be the cause of that. I want to HELP her get over that...

Sorry for the wall of text, but can anyone give me some advice and suggestions?
How do I help Alexis stop being absolutely horrible to people without throwing her back into her depressive ways?

i don't know, ask my boyfriend xDDD;

okies, on a serious note now, i think you need to talk to her and get her some professional help. If you really do care that much for her, you have to stick by her and help her through this, even start by getting her to see the school councilor is a good first step *nods*

edit - make her know that your trustworthy and care alot for her, it should help her open up and want to do something good for herself if she knows you love her

Hmm...Yes that could work :D Though I'd probably have to try another option other then the school concelor..That lady despises her. >.>; Like I said, she's mean to teachers too, gotten RPCed and suspended a few times. She's not the popular one amoung the staff. But you're right...I should talk to her about it first. >.< And then see if she'll talk to someone.

I think she needs to go and talk to someone if she hasn't already. Working out your own issues really helps the way you see things in general and will help give her more self confidence to feel as if she is doing things better. I hope she is able to get help and work out her issues as being a b*tch is not the way to deal with things.

Tell her to get some proffesinal(sp?) help. If she doesn't she's either going to end up 6ft under or she's just going to totally waste her life and be hated by everyone who she meets. Which could end up with everyone who she's ever gone against treating her how she treats them. Which might not be a bad thing try and record her on you phone or something and then show her the video of how she act. Some times schock treatment is the best way to go. But she really does need to go see a therapist or something.

Edit: If you show her how other people see her by catching her when she's being horrible. Whatever is happening in her homelife is no excusse for taking it out on other people. If you don't show her how other people see her then someone else or a group of people might just do it for you by doing what she does to them straight back at her. If you show her then she will see how others see her and that should spur her into going to get help.

Sorry about repeating myself so much but power of three makes things stick in the mind more.

When you told her how you felt about the way she treated Jane, how do you know she started crying because of you? Maybe she was crying because she was feeling remorseful.

Often while you are attacking someone, you aren't thinking about their feelings or the words that are coming out of your mouth and only after the argument is over, do you relize how badly you might have hurt someone.

She probably needs to deal with all of her emotional baggage. Suggest she talk to someone about her problems. And don't start a relationship with her until she has had time to deal with it. You can be there for her throughout the whole thing... just don't be romantically involved.

Seems like Alexis has gone through alot. Probably, had life beat her down and thats why she treats others the way she does. It's a perfectly good excuse. True its not right. But I think the best thing to do is talk things over with her. Talk with her about her life and then talk about how she treats people. But do it calmly, and understandingly, you have to be careful with things like that. Still, remember that the key thing is to lether know your there.

In my twisted opinion, and this is just from what I gather do not take it seriously in any matter but just CONSIDER this (because it happened to me for three years of my life).

Okay so I liked this guy and he was the biggest badass guy that hated everyone was mean, cruel, made everyone cry around him. Twisted everyone's hearts. Would play with girls and toss them away. Have new best friends every day. He was much older than me but he always treated me so great. I was so special. And I confused those feelings with falling in love. Perhaps the reason that you are feeling "love" to her is that you just feel so special in her life and feel the need to protect her and help her.

I know I know. "But isn't that love?" Maybe. But can you actually picture yourself kissing her? Loving her, holding her, hugging her, doing things with her that are intimate? CAN YOU?! Because if you can then I say continue on the road now. There's nothing better than a guy that does all those things for you.

But if not then watch out okay? Because you and her can get hurt in this process. Like if she doesn't feel that way about you and then she gets depressed for not having return your feelings.

If you can't picture yourself in those situations I say you need to really sit down and think about all the times you had with her and analyze everything. She probably needs you very much in her life the way you described it. If you love a bitch, then you are getting into a relationship that is one of the most complicated, haha. Always make sure that you share equal pants!

Thank you all for your opinions and words of advice. I really appreciate it.

A While Ago I Would Of Said Make Her Get Professional Help But For Some People Professional Help Simply Doesn't Work.I Think That You Should Continue To Tell Her When You Think She Is Being Out Of Line Because If You Don't Someone Else Will And That Could Turn Into An Even Bigger Problem. Maybe If You And Her Parents/Guardians Watch Out And Stop Her From Cutting, Drugs Etc Then Things Wouldn't Get Too Bad.

Though I Think That She Most Be Insecure If She Is Mean And Mistreats People. Perhaps You Should Deal With Her Security Issues?

tell her how you feel, i.e. about her, about what she is doing.
and if she gets depressed then stand by her side and try to help her through it.

You should tell how you feel for her but be careful.. She might no like you in the same way and start to use you <.<;; Sorry but it can turn to a fact.

Okay the other advice is for you to tell her that she needs help. I'm having some help when it comes to depression. I was like that rude to everyone around because I was actually feeling depress but never realized. But then I got a good friend that was a good listener and I got less rude. So make her feel like she can talk to you about everything and then you can tell her that she could go check some doctor to help her.

I think it's all I can advice =3