The decals I look at are similar to something like this:

Amazon.com: Black Photo Picture Frame Tree Vine Branch Removable Wall Decor Decal Stickers: Everything Else

I'm too tired to actually find something I'd jump at and buy, but I like the ones with tree shapes, or leaves. Stuff like that.

Tired this morning. Gotta get packed up and go!

Ohhh that looks so pretty!!

So it's official -- Pam is moving. Mom is refusing to sign anything but Aaron is trying to be amicable and work with her. Pam told her this weekend she's moving. So now it's just a waiting/paper game.

Her mom wouldn't let her taken any of her posessions down here. SHe snuck extra clothing as her mom would only let her take what she was wearing and made Aaron bring the iPod with him as she is 'afraid we will break it'. She is using her personal posessions as part of her emotional warfare, and Pam realizes it and isn't biting.

For the meantime I gave her my ipod and dock and wiped it. Told her it was hers until further notice. (Either her mom unclenches and gives it back, or we figure something else out.)

At this point, whatever keeps her safe. You mentioned Tristan wanted to stay with his mom, but only after she left her boyfriend? Where does that stand? He may end up getting the brunt of his mother's mess, so keep an eye out unless he's staying too.

For now Tristan is with his mother. I would want nothing more than to have both of them, but at the same time with her mother acting like this over Pam leaving...Tristan too at the same time and I think she would go batshit crazy quite literally. It sucks as I want to be there for him too, and make sure he goes to some counselling to help him work through what's going on. I will do that for Pam, and I would like her mother to get Tristan in but I know that she does not put as much stock on psychological health, which is really a shame. She runs the kids up to the doctor at the first sign of a sniffle, but she just seems to think emotional stuff will work itself out. I'm really surprised given all she's been through, and how not close she is to her family over it that she herself didn't try to get counseling. I'm sure the state forced her to go through it as she was awarded to them and placed in a foster home...I guess she just didn't get anything out of it and writes it off as not helping.

I'm hoping that this will help strengthen Tristan to be more independent. For the longest time he has relied on his big sister to help him with everything. All the sudden he can't do that. I know it's pretty earth shattering for an 11 year old, but I'm hoping that once he's gotten over the initial shock of the changes he will actually benefit from it. I still plan on keeping an eye on him, and if need be work on getting him here. As I stated before I need to work on getting Pam into school to make it where her mother can't try to yank her out of our home. Her mother won't sign anything, give us anything -- so we're having to get copies of her birth certificate and immunization records. That's not the big thing. I'm hoping if Aaron talks with the school, though, about that letter they need that they will work with us to let the ex have the facade of having control. The ex is saying she can go to school here, but she wants to control every aspect of it and wants to enroll her etc. We're going to get the school to sweet talk her into making that note, and after that it should allow Aaron to step in. I don't think she is going to want to drive an hour and a half out of her way on a regular basis to deal with the small stuff. She thinks she does, but she also isn't thinking logically.

Like I was saying she wouldn't let Pam take anything down other than what she could fit in her backpack (without her mom's consent - she snuck a couple pairs of jeans, a couple shirts. She came down in a pair of jeans and a long shirt while it's 85 outside - her mom apparently wouldn't let her wear anything else. She did send her down with a bottle of multivitamins, but Pam said she was offloading all the 'crap' that belonged to her that her mom knew held little weight. The iPod, her DS, her games, her Sims games her mom bought her (She won't touch the laptop she has as her grandma gave it to her as a 'present') are at her house and her mom will not allow her to bring it down to our house and she's mandating that Pam not be allowed to bring anything from here to her house. Basically reverting to her crazy assed ways from before. This is the same woman who became unhinged if we didn't send them back in the same underwear they wore from her house...I mean seriously.

Sorry I don't mean to offload on you again it's just getting it out. I'm trying to put a more positive front to acquaintances. I mean not get real into the nitty gritty and paint her mother for what she is. A couple of my close rl friends know the scoop though, and they were sending me texts of support last night.

I'm honestly relieved that she did it. It was painful to watch Pam cry uncontrollably while her mother went crazy on her dad on the phone, and then on her. I kept on reinforcing that now when her mother goes on these benders she just has to put up with it at the very most a couple days on the weekend she visits...maybe in the summer for longer if she does spend any significant time down there. For now, we've both made it clear we won't force her to go to her mom, but she will need to let her mom know that was her decision not ours so she doesn't try to make the courts think we're withholding her 'right' to see her child. At the same time, I would hope the court wouldn't argue the fact on how petty she's being.

Also, apparently Pam says the whole boyfriend thing and leaving him is just a facade and that this weekend both her mom and her boyfriend were acting strange, staring daggers at her, like they were against her in unison. She says she can't see her mom leave her boyfriend. In the end, that's what Tristan is wanting and doesn't want to leave his mom. At the same token her boyfriend is the most 'stable' of all her relationships. She was hopping houses every few months. She's been with this guy for 5+ years. I do not condone any of the physical violence he has done, and so help me if he lays another hair on Tristan I will take his ass to court. Just strategically I can't without making the rest of the house of cards fall.

I really hope Tristan doesn't come to resent us for our actions. I'm sure his mother is now feeding him full of lines of hate and resentment...once again telling him his dad doesn't love him as much as Pam because of his little hand. It's utter bullshit and I really would love for their mother to just disappear. Let them deal with the loss of her, and then pick up the pieces of what's happened. At this point, they're still saveable and we can slowly repair the mental abuse that has happened.

I swear eventually once this whole shit storm settles I can shoot the shit. Just right now it's my immediate focus...If I'm not thinking about work related things, my mind is pretty much consumed in this matter. I need to work on letting it go, but like I said until Pam is officially enrolled and going to school I worry there will be more underhanded dirty fighting. When Pam's mom was talking to her on the phone about her going to school here she said in a very snide manner "You can't always get what you want." When Pam asked her if that meant she wasn't going to allow it, she said no that wasn't it. At the same time I don't doubt that the ex will try everything she can to make this not go smoothly.

Fingers crossed!

We're finally home from our outing. I'm doing laundry load upon laundry load and trying to get ready for the work week. FOUR MORE WEEKS AND I'VE GRADUATED.

*peeks in and looks about*

Hey sad! How's it going?

WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOT for graduation!!!

It's not going so easy. Still getting her calling Pam multiple times per day. Apparently she promised Tristan she would answer to make sure she's OK, but her mom is using it towards her advantage knowing that Pam won't not answer her phone. The good news is her cellphone is going to die soon, and her mom has the charger. The ex has the house phone, which we never answer, and both mine and Aaron's phone but we can selective answer it and I personally won't put up with her bullshit.

The ex still says she's not doing signing anything, and Aaron tried to call mediation but apparently the budget has been so severely cut that they don't offer it anymore. We can pay the $200 in 'filing fees' to file to change custody of Pam, but that would require her mom to peacefully agree. If not, then they have this twelve point system and Pam's wants may or may not make a difference. Frustrating!!

For the meantime we're just taking it day by day and not letting the ex get to us when we are stalemated - School doesn't have staff until the 5th of August so we have to wait out another 2 weeks -- might as well enjoy it.

In the meantime though -- My parents are going to help us with gas and we will go visit them. Aaron is genuinely excited as we will get to spend time with them and take our mind off all this ex drama. My mom just got a new pasta maker and icecream maker so we will make some homemade food with her. Then dad wants to go swimming. We'll have some bonfires at night. I think it will be a WONDERFUL way to destress and I'm so looking forward to it.

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Also on a sidenote - I will have to call in sick Sunday, but if they try to call me out on it I will speak with my manager and she knows the jist of going on. If she even writes me up I will just deal with it. It won't effect me more than a verbal warning or possibly a first write up. Even that eventually will come off my record, so I really don't care. Having the weekend to relax is something I need desperately and it is something that will help me keep my sanity.

Could be better, could be worse. xD So, here I am again. :) But most importantly, how are you?

I wouldn't say it's most important. :p I'm okay. Much like you say, could be better, could be worse!

@Izumi
Hang in there!

Well, you had a lot going on in your life when I faded out of Mene. I am glad there is some good in your life, though. And you're looking really fashionable! Deadly fashionable, hehe.

I like your avatar, especially the color scheme!

So what's gone in life recently? It's been a while since we talked!

Thank you! I am loving all the new background that have come to Mene, even if I don't have most of them.

And well, new? Not sure, although some things have become worse, some a bit better, I've picked up photography as hobby, RP again on and off, been here and there...

What do you like to take photos of?

We moved closer to work and school in April. My husband graduated in May and recently passed his state exam, so he's now a Registered Nurse. Oddly, he's landed a job where I intern. We have a grant program that runs until next October that centers on team approach holistic care for people living with mental illness and physical health concerns. I LOVE interning there. My clients are awesome.

Unfortunately (or fortunately?) I finish interning in three weeks. I'm going to miss everyone tons. My clients are having difficulties with the transition (and it's bittersweet for me, too). Some coworkers are sad. Yaddayaddayadda. I am inspired to do more after I graduate and have a lull. My license exams aren't until October.

My aunt is currently not well, and I may take her place at my family's business until I pass my exams and land a therapy job. I may say to heck with it and spend more time with Terra.

Ups and downs have been here too. The last semester was terrible, but I'm glad my husband has graduated and is settled. There had been a lot of tension and general unhappiness for a while, for all three of us.

*kicks thread up*! Liiive!

*sips coffee* Agh, we need more item circulation. >.> <3

Chi: There is totally a medal in the MP, though Im pretty sure its way out of your price range.

I have that one. Thanks for posting though! :) I'd likely pay similar for the other ones.

Of course~

*pokes Chi*

Still hanging in there. Hot water heater is on the fritz, but the ex has calmed down a bit. Still haven't gotten Pam's stuff and she is doing this apparently to spite Aaron and make him have to buy everything for her as she feels like she provided for Pam out of her money. (I guess she doesn't see child support as contribution towards said stuff...whatever.)

Work is slowly coming together, I think. It's just taking some time to get use to the change. Not my dream job, but it's getting the bills paid.

The weekend away was just what the doctor ordered and I feel like I had a break from the chaos that is my life. Still feeling pretty caved in, but continuing to dig my way out with my shovel.

I think I just need more time for things to smooth out. Hopefully no more surprises.

I only just noticed how much gold you have, Protagonist. Lots of selling? :o

Good to hear, Izumi! :)

Yes, lots of selling x.x

What are you questing? (If anything!)

Hopefully some Valentines 07s. I really would appreciate and swoon the hell out of a sash, though...I dont think I will be getting very lucky with that. I would also like a boa , but..again, no luck for Disa D: Right now I have been spoiling the crap out my friends though.

I'm hoping some of the rares pop back out into circulation. It's quiet here. Dx

But, you'll be ready when something is up for sale!