Nope, not long at all! I can't wait. XD And, we get one week. What about you?

Same. I just checked the academic calender on the website to see. :XD I'm so ready for this semester to be over and it's barely 1/3rd the way there!

Ugh, same here. But I really don't want summer to come either, because I have to take more classes at the community college at home, and get a job as well. XD BLAHH real world.

hello everyone

The real world... it burns! *wails and hides from it*

Hey Rusa!

Hey Chi!

Hey Pietro! How is your Sunday going?

Good. I had a friend over, made an art auction thread, and am posting. how're you

Oh, I'm doing alright. Some life stuff just came up in the past 30 minutes, but eh. :XD Nothing too terrible.

I want bee slippers D:

I hope it clears out, Chi

@Sofa
xD;;

@Pietro
Me too. Family drama sucks, but my husband and I are getting away from it the best we can. It's a long story, and I'm tired of the alcoholism within my family making it worse. D:<

How are you Chi?

A little stressed. I was fine until about an hour ago. :XD Just family junk.

I have to go do my Latin now, but I should be back.

Aw okies see you when you return.

Chi - I'm sick of the alcoholism too. :< *MIL and boyfriend are bad for that, love MIL despite it...but yah*

Finally got whisked to Wendy's. I can feel my arteries harden. Mmm.

Ooh I would have rathered wendy's than McD's.. >.<

I wrote out my Latin vocabulary, and I'll actually study it in the morning. I have no focus right now. I am definitely upset, and I know I just need to let it go the best I can. I just really hope this week my mother doesn't ask if I'll look into taking my nephew on a more permanent basis. I don't think she'd dare suggest it against my sister, but the kid is due to leave this Friday and he's beginning to dig his heels in. I figured he would once a date was set.

Her drinking to excess isn't helping, nor is the shitty attitude. Still, even so, I need to let it go because it's not healthy to hold it in. It's out of my control. I just wish my main support systems had more to say about it other than "that sucks" or "yikes" or something similar. I know it's nothing that people can fix, but it just... I dunno. I'm definitely not upset with my friends; I love them very much and this certainly isn't their problem. I just feel kind of isolated right now, save for Cole. :/

I never realized how isolating one or two worded responses could be until the past few months. I'm debating actually going to see a counselor. There's nothing that can be fixed, but I think I'd do well just to have a huge vent session with someone completely outside of the situation.

Well it's one of those things that effects everyone in the family, and the only one who can make it change is the alcoholic themselves. It's really frustrating beyond belief. You know I really should encourage Aaron to come on here and talk to you as he's had more experience with it and would be a good sounding board.

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Hey Chi. Its Aaron. Tara showed me your post.
You may be on to something about getting a bit of counseling. My family has managed to drink themselves to death for 3 generations and running so far. The trend has stopped with me.
The best advise I can give you is to remain strong. There is absolutely nothing you can do to help someone that has no interest in helping themselves. Typically they have no idea that they are even hurting anyone other than themselves. And even if they know, it will just depress them and make them drink more.
If possible, physically distance yourself. A bit of detachment has the potential to show whoever has the problem that you don't approve of their attitude and that you have no wish to be around it.

I know, I know. Its easier said than done. I've become a pro.
The only close relative I have left is my mother, who still drinks more beer in a night than I do in a month. And her boyfriend drinks enough vodka that he can't be cremated when he dies. He'll explode. So I make it a point to tell them that I can't bring my kids (her grandkids) over when they are drinking, I leave when they start drinking, and I spend time with my mom over lunch on work days.

I hope some of this helps.

Thanks Aaron. That's very sweet of you.

We've pretty much hit our limit. I don't know how much Tara talks to you about stuff on here or not, but Cole's in the process of quitting work and going back to school because my mother is making work a living hell. (There are other factors, but my mother also is a control freak when it comes to certain things, and he is as bullheaded and headstrong as she. It's a dangerous combination.) The physical distancing has begun, but it won't be fully done until he can leave work in either May or August, depending on when his classes start. It's happening though.

I've always gone on the mentality that you can't change someone's behavior, only your own. So, that's what we're doing. I'm just stressed and tired of feeling like she's on a roller coaster ride with no track at the end. It's hard to keep my rational side (for the past 40 minutes I've been talking with my husband over how I "know" I need to let go isn't cooperating with how I "feel" inside) higher than the emotional side. I'm not used to it, so I'll just blame pregnancy hormones. This stuff isn't new, at all, but the way it's affecting me now is.

Thank you for coming on. Again, it was really sweet of you. (You should get an account, you know.) :hug:

I plan on getting an account when Tara gets her netbook in March.
I know a little of the situation. And you couldn't be more right. The only thing you can control is yourself. Now you just have to get off the rollercoaster yourself. At the end of the day, you can feel sorry for someone - pity them - for the way they live their life, just don't let it consume you. You have your own life to live. You owe it to yourself and to your baby to be as happy in your own skin as you can be.
If you ever need a sounding board, let Tara know. I'm usually about 15 feet away.

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Tara: LOL. He's good for that too. (How we met...:XP...he was *my* sounding board...LOL)

Thanks Aaron. It's much appreciated. :D

So, I got to sleep in. Who's around? :)

/is not here/

*is not here either, definitely not sick and gagging all morning, nope*