Did I?
Elijah hit me yesterday.
I didn't do anything to deserve it.
Maybe I did, I don't know if I did though.
I was just playing with him. You know? I was nibbling his ear and stuff and he just turns around, smacks me and grabs me by my arms shacking me all about yelling at me about how I have a problem.
I started crying and turned around, laid on my side. Well a few minutes laster he laid down next to me and cuddled me. Then he turned me on my knees and started to have sex with me, all the while I was crying.
I started to cry harder and I think it just turned him on even more.
I don't know what to do...
Did i deserve what he did to me? I don't know anymore. He said I did.
I love him, but I don't know what to do.
I could use some help.

in my books thats called rape.
and a man should never hit a woman,believe me i have been through 2 bad realationships where both men beat me.
iam now with someone who loves me and would never lay a finger on me.
if you continue to take this it will appen again and he will think nothing of it and allways say sorry.
these men are cowards,and no you don't deserve to be hit never.

We had a really good relationship. It's just recently he moved out and...we just haven't been getting along and I believed him when he said sorry.
I just...I don't want to see him anymore.
I don't know, what to do.
He comes see me. Like the other day when I was at work, I looked up and saw him sitting in his car across the street just watching me. He was there for about three hours.

That is rape. If you didn't give your consent(sp?) then it's rape. Really you should go to the police about it because it could happen again. No one deserves to be treated like that. No matter what you've done in the past it's no excuse to be treated like that.

HIM_ROXCK is right, go to te police. he will probably do it again. he did rape you. With most rape victims it is done by someone you know, that doesn't make it ok, and he definitally should NOT have done that to you. Hitting you first was wrong, having sex with you while you were crying and obviously not wanting it is even worse. you did not deserve it. he is an ass, and a stalker it seems like. call the police, let him know that you are/did and make sure that you get him to stop. by court order if necessary. >.<

yes go to the police he is stalking you if he waited for 3 hours thats not normal.and if you dont do something now it will only get worse.

Because of what's happened to you, you are now in a vunerable emotional state (if that makes any sense)you don't need him stalking you or harrassing you. If you go to the police then they'll be able to help you.

OMG, you never deserve for a guy to hit you! You need to leave this guy before he does it again because he will. It is even more unbelievable that while you are still upset by the whole ordeal, he decides it's a good time to just have sex with you! I don't know anything about your situation but I do know that you should NEVER, NEVER, NEVER let anyone treat you that way, if someone loves you he is not going to hit you. My husband and I have had some pretty hairy arguments but he has never hit me and never would. PLEASE GET AWAY FROM THIS GUY.

It sound to me like you need to get a restraining order against him.

Agreed with what everybody has said.

Also, you'll be feeling quite vulnerable and emotional. Under NO ACCOUNT WHATSOEVER should you blame yourself - that is something rape victims tend to do. It wasn't your fault, but his. Just know you have our support here, and that you'll be doing the right thing if you report him for rape and get an injunction order against him.

No woman deserves being treated like that. :evil: I hope you will recover soon and enjoy Menewsha with the rest of us. *Hugs* Just don't let someone like that get you down, OK?

I don't care how much you love this guy or even like you are in an abusive relationship.
You must get out of that relationship now.

If he hits you for no reason and then rapes you, why are you still with him? =/
Take control of the relationship and get out.

Go to the police and get him sent to jail. =/

How old are you two anyways?

So if I go to the police, what should I tell them?
I don't really have visable bruises cause I'm dark skinned, and bruses don't show up too well on my skin color.
Then how do I prove he did it? He could lie, he always lies. I'm just going to try and stay away from him...
Thanks everyone for saying ya'll will be here for me...
I'll tell you what happens.

I'm 18 and he's 22.
We've been dating for about a year now.

Just tell them what you told us today.
Even if you don't have any marks, just the fact that your like this should be enough.

I'm sure they will start doing something for you.
You should just try.

Tell them every single time he has hit you, forced you to have sex with him, and even the stalking.
Anything that will help them put him away.

Okay, I'll do that.
He's only hit me a few times before.
He never forced anything on me before last night though.

I'll go now.
I'll be back later with an update or something.
Thanks everyone.
I'm still not too sure if they'll help, but I'll try.

I hope things go well. D:
Just be strong and stand up for yourself! ^^


Side note- Try not to double post next time. ^^;

only a few times he has hit you?
don't you realise that a man should never hit a woman if he truly loved you.
please your young and should not be treated like this.
imgagine if you had kids to this man and he beat you in front of them.
i know it's hard to to think of going to the police but they will help you,nobody likes women beaters and you will find help and support there.
anyway heres a *hug* from me.
please listen to all this good advice from members of mene are giving you.

That's horrible. You should leave him. It doesn't matter if you love him, if he's like that, then you have to get out of there. Worst thing that could happen is that he kills you. Don't be stupid and think 'Oh, but I can change him...' The fact is is that you can't. Go to your parents house or something, just get out of there. You should not be in such a relationship like that. No one deserves to be treated like that.

Just pack your things when he's away, and leave. Change your cell phone number, just get out of there. My mom was in a bad relationship, and it was...Just wrong.. Maybe go to a battered women's home or something. You just need to get out, leave... He's not worth it. If you end up getting pregnant from what he did, then you better get out of there. A child should not be in such an environment, you don't deserve such treatment. You did not do anything wrong. There is something wrong with him, and you can't help him so don't even try. If you have to, get a restraining order...It's just so messed up..

really, I agree with everyone, that really IS a rape :| what he did was wrong and you should deffinitely report it to the police.

My first boyfriend hit me and crap so I know what you're going through.

If you let him smack you around, it'll get worse. I let my ex do it because he was my first boyfriend and I didn't know what to do, but he held a knife to my throat at one point and then a few weeks later tried to rape me.

Do NOT stay in that relationship. Any man who'd not have enough strength to keep from hitting ANYONE isn't worth being with. It means he's weak and he does NOT respect you.

Even if you feel like you love him, you'll get over him. No one has the right to hurt you, no matter what you do. You were PLAYING with him. What could you possibly have done wrong? Do you think you should suffer pain inflicted by a man just because HIS opinions are warped, hun? You're worth more than that. You deserve respect and safety. He's hit you before which means he'll do it again even if he says he won't. He doesn't have the willpower to hold back.

Example:
You put something up where it's supposed to be. He can't find it and he comes and smacks you just because he's too lazy to look in the right place. Did you deserve it? No. HE got mad at himself and took it out on you.

Another example:
You normally clean the house. You're sick that day and didn't get out of bed much. He trips over his own shoe that he left lying out the night before. He comes and starts hitting you because you didn't do what you normally do out of KINDNESS that day because you COULDN'T. Did you deserve it? No. You were sick.

Do you see what I mean? Even if he doesn't hit you for stuff like that now, he will. I KNOW. I've been in the situation. My mother's been in it. My cousin has been in it. Please, don't let yourself get beat up just because you think you love him. If he loved you, he'd respect you enough not to inflict pain on you!

Hon, that is what we call an abusive relationship.

GET OUT NOW.

Things will only get worse, not better. Even if you feel like you love him, you need to suck it up and leave him. (I didn't really mean that as crudely as it sounded.)

People like him... they don't change. Don't think for an instant that just because he promises you he just lost control that one time and it'll never happen again that it won't.
If he lost control once, chances are it'll happen again.

I'd actually suggest alerting the police. He did rape you, and that should not go unnoticed. And if he hit you.. chances are, he'll hit another woman too. He needs punishment for his actions.


I'm sorry sweetheart. I wish you good luck.

like everyone else is saying, you really
need to leave this relationship before your
seriously injured.

no matter how many times he apologizes, it'll
most likely happen again. abusive relationships
always end up this way.

it's true that no woman deserves this kind
of treament from a loved one, no matter what.
definitely go to the police.

And also, he's an *Edited to something nicer that I can put into English* arrogant idiot who needs to be taught a lesson.

Originally Posted by kegokec

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You should delete this, it's actually considered Spam.
Since there is no actual words in there. ._.;