There's a boy I've been talking to with my mule account, and I have to admit... I'm totally crazy about him. He makes me happy, but I feel all I am doing is causing him great pain... I don't want to do anything to harm him any more, but I can't stand not talking to him. I go so long everyday, wishing he was online. I just can't stand it when he says he stabbed himself. I can't even bare it when I make him stressed to the point. I cry because of his suffering... he is important to me, even though we only know each other online. I couldn't bare not talking to him... what do I do???

Well first off, why is he doing such things?
Are you two already together?

I'm dating someone online too and it's a sometimes painful relationship that requires serious sacrifice and dedication. If he's claiming that you are stressing him out and he hurts himself and such, then I suggest just end it because it's hurting you and the relationship (assuming you two are together).

If you two aren't together, I suggest keeping it that way. He needs help apparently. :\

i know how you feel. i've known my girl for over 2 years but we've only been together a few months and i've never met her. she lives 2152 miles away from me and i plan on moving closer when i can afford it.

as for your problem i can only really say what is going on with me and hope it helps you understand or come to a conclusion of your own.

my girl has pushed my emotions further then they have ever been before. i've been happier then i've ever been as well as depressed to the point of wanting to die and she is the cause of both, but i don't care. she could make me miserable for months and i would still want to be with her, because i love her with all my heart.

not sure if it will help but maybe trying to find out how he feels about you could make all the difference.

Well online dating isn't that bad to ask out.
If you really like him then ask him out. If you like him a lot, just ask.
There really isn't that much pain to it since you can just stop talking to them.
I wish the best of luck for you though. ^_^.

Why is it that he hurts himself? Why do you feel you are causing him pain? Has he said that you do?

I can give a better response to your problem once I know a few more things. I hope to hear back from you soon. <3

I must go with Poi on this one. He needs to work on himself if he's having problems like that, not bring someone else into his issues. If you aren't happy with yourself, you can't rely on someone else to fix you.

So... wait. From what I got out of that, he's blaming you for whatever pain he's going through?

Umm, this guy sounds like he's got some issues to resolve waaaaay before he even thinks about getting a girlfriend.

I tried online dating back a few years ago.
And when I look back at it.
It was very pathetic.
Waiting online all day, wasting my life on the computer just talking to someone I can't even hold or see. =/

I would recommend not to waste your time with anyone online, especially in any online relationships. They never end so well for teenagers. Because most of them don't know what to do exactly and over react to a lot of small things.
Try to just stay close friends or just friends and get a boyfriend in real life.

devil moth,

I have a friend who went through something that sounds a lot like what you're going through. In her situation the guy turned out to be manipulating her just to get what he wanted out of her. I can't say that this is the case in your situation, but I think it's important to be aware of that possibility.

If he says that your relationship is causing that kind of pain or reaction on his part, then there is something unhealthy going on. Either he needs to get serious help that he can't get from you, or he's manipulating you and you don't need to let yourself get trapped in that situation.

I wish the best for you.

I've dated online...Like I've said before, you're in love with love. You have a problem. You keep posting these things, I think you should just get one thread and title it "My love problems"

Well, there's nothing wrong with going out with someone online. I did it, and we know each other in real life now. It's hard at first but if you treat it like a real relationship it an work out. However, this guy sounds like trouble. Stabbing himself? If he does things like that on purpose, you need to stay away from him. People like that need help, and you probably can't do much to help him, so it's really best not to get involved. It will just bring you down and make you worry about him all the time, especially with him far away, and could end up just making you miserable.