Just this morning when I was still sleeping I was being woken up, telling me I got a phonecall.

It was my uncle, he started shouting at me asking me if it's true if I quitted school.

First of all, know you how you are if you just woke up, spacey and make no sense at all along with that I didn't know who the heck it was and why he was shouting, he's still gonna call me back.

Now my question: Is it okay to go tell everybody about a certain problems or is it better that they are kept secret?

If they find out, you might as well fess up. But I'm one of those people who doesn't tell others her personnal matters with school, finances, relationships and other such things. It's your personnal life and others shouldn't know your business unless you want them too. With family, I understand they have concern for you. But frankly its your life and you have to live with it not them. Advice is nice but no one can tell you what to do....Unless they have a gun to your head >.<

Unless you want people to know about your personal business, then go on and tell them.
But I don't think people should go around telling others of your personal business when you trusted that certain person with that information.
(I'm concluding that someone had told your uncle - someone being not you - and that was why he was calling.)

Well. . . If they've found out, you might as well tell them the truth. It's your life not theirs, you're allowed to live it as you want. But it's a bad idea to lie to them. That'll come back and bite you in the arse one day. You might as well be upfront about it now and in time, it'll eventually blow over because they'll realize that they can't control you any more than you can them.
It might help if you calmly explain your side of the matter and give logical reasons as to why you quit. Just don't get mad and start yelling back. Things will not end well if you do.

Yeah, it's normal for people to gossip about other people's personal business, especially to family. Whoever told your uncle was probably ranting or worried about you. They probably didn't realize that he would call and scream your ear off.

Much luck to ya. <3

I hate when someone in the family has a big mouth and goes around and tells everyone else about something. That's one reason In ever tell anyone anything.

i agree with Acsenia. If it is something you dont wish them knowing then dont. there are times where its a good idea and times its not. But in the end its all a matter of your perspective on it.

i'm much of a keeping things secret person. it saves me lots of trouble, but seriously... if people find out, they will be in rage. i have the problem that i cannot tell my mom everything. i don't live at home anymore so many things aren't her business anyways, but when sth happens she could get angry about, i keep it to myself and make sure she won't find out. it's somewhat stressful, but i'm really afraid of conflicts...

but in general i'd say being honest is better. it just saves you lots of time and people don't get half as angry as if they find out theirselves...

Originally Posted by mystic kiwi

I hate when someone in the family has a big mouth and goes around and tells everyone else about something. That's one reason In ever tell anyone anything.

I know how you feel. If I tell mum anything it goes to my nan (her mum) and my aunt (her sister).

Thankfully I can trust nan since she's proven herself trustworthy. One time dad and I were having an argument and he blurted out that my aunt (mum's other sister) had 6 months to live from about 2 months back.

Of course I was pretty distraught since I thought she'd beaten the cancer and the fact that she was one of the family that I got on with, so I rang nan from my mobile at work (I didn't do it at the desk don't worry) and find out that it's true. she also said it would remain between us and she remained true to her word.

Yeah, I tell my mom stuff...

It usually doesn't go bad in the end...

I guess it is.
I always tell my sisters when something goes wrong in my life and most of the time they make it better and help me. Besides if its something I did, I know to tell my mom before she finds out that way she wont kill me when she does.

He's your uncle, but that isn't his problem if you quitted school or not. It's your life and you know what you're going to do with it. He should just lay low and mind his own business (no offense towards your uncle, by the way).

I hate it when that happens. I do think to a point there are some things other family should know, like if you're in the hospital or something, but other things are private. Like when I started my period, I of course had to tell my mom, and she told my grandma, and then my aunt heard about it, and everyone else did too. It's a private thing ya' know? I was really upset and embarrassed. My Aunt called me later saying congrats on becoming a woman.