Okay so the other day I got annoyed by someone here on Mene for posting something rude and rather pointless in a feedback thread... anyway DAYS later the person replied to my post... saying that I must be holding a grudge against then for a spat we had before...

Um... We had a spat? Before? Oh...

Yeah I totally didn't even remember this person... and I still can't remember what we had a spat over...

Tee hee I haven't had very many disagreements here so I kinda figured I'd remember who I had argued with... not that I would hold a grudge against someone just because we didn't see eye to eye at one point. Needless to say I got a little chuckle out of the whole affair...

So Mene Folk... Has this kinda thing ever happened to you before?
If you have an arguement, or just don't agree with someones views here on mene, do you hold a grudge?

I don't, though I tend to avoid threads created by people I've had issue with just incase it may cause a riff...

I don't hold grudges, unless the person did something really awful.

My philosophy is a new thread, a new start.

Lol @ that person. P:

Yesterday I got hatemail on myspace from two people I had never even seen before, telling me to "fuck off" and stop "talking shit" about their friends. I had no idea what they were thinking so I just blocked them and went on with life.

I generally avoid threads involving people I don't care for, but on rare occasions I'll be feeling particularly PMS-y and leave a snide remark.

Haha, I've had a disagreement with you before Jaded Geisha. Good thing we don't hold grudges. I think that it's silly to hold grudges over disagreements, especially when the disagreement happened in a debate thread. I've never had a disagreement so bad(at least online) that I held a grudge.

I can't hold grudges either. In fact, I'm rarely even still mad a few hours later. I figure, why bother? All it does is keep me upset.

I've never had anything like that happen to me online. I've gotten into disagreements and debates with people, but have never had anyone came back at me later. But them, I lurk a lot and am pretty invisible on forums. XD

Originally Posted by juniper_silver

Haha, I've had a disagreement with you before Jaded Geisha. Good thing we don't hold grudges. I think that it's silly to hold grudges over disagreements, especially when the disagreement happened in a debate thread. I've never had a disagreement so bad(at least online) that I held a grudge.

We did? O.o Man I'm forgetful... Oh well outside of the context of that debate you seem like a perfectly lovely person... so no grudges on my part either! ^^

I'm like Caroline; I just try to avoid the people who I don't like much. Although sometimes it's hard and I'll see them posting. >___< I just roll my eyes because they always have something rude to say.

Hmmm... I don't really change my habits online or avoid posting somewhere after arguing something.
I guess that I hold grudges to a degree though.
I don't egg on the person that I argued with or anything, but whatever rude thing that they said to me is usually in the back of my mind when I talk to them later.
xD

Chatting online with people really does cause a lot of miscommunication.
We might interpret things differently than they were intended to be read, or see something as being more significant than others do, etc...

I've had people remind me of little arguments that didn't mean anything to me and like thank me for posting in their threads, thinking that I had been mad at them before or something.
Things like that just seem to be inevitable in this setting.
o_O

Ive had people like that before.
Once, On gaia, There was this person that just randomly added me so i pmed her and i was like, "excuse me, who are you?" and she was like "just take my damn friend request" so i didn't and she got all mad at me over that and about 3 months later ( i think ) she pmed me again and was like "damn beotch i told you to make me your friend i need friends" so i told her i had no clue who she was ( and i didn't) then she got all mad at me, it was so funny.

another one that is funny.
after i had won the lotto here on mene a while ago, i wanted to bid on some slippers (which i never got because i forgot about them lol) anyways, i outbid this girl, and i guess she would look at my post, but she would fallow me around trying to outbid me (even though she did not have the gold) and i was out of town for 2 weeks after that, and when i came back i had a pm that said " you cant outbid me now bitch i got my mom to donate to menewsha" and i was like "...uh....ok?" and she got all mad, it was so funny when i figured out who she was again

I don't hold grudges with Internet people, unless I really know them and they do something stupid.
And I hardly get into heated arguements.
Maybe because I lurk and don't really post arguments that people wouldn't like.
But no one has ever come back at me in an angry fashion.

I hold grudges quite well, but I'm willing to get over it for the sake of not ignoring a perfectly good thread.

There is only one person here whose threads I specifically ignore. I got in a little spat with them awhile back... and afterwards I tried to post in a different thread they made but they just told me to get out once again. They didn't accept opinions conflicting with their own very well. After this happened in multiple threads, I just stopped bothering. It isn't worth my trouble.
>_>

Rarely do I hold grudges on the internet, mostly because I don't post at all. ;'[

I seem to not get into very personal things, and I don't get very attached to internet friends. I don't know, I've always tried to get to know someone on the internet, but it never works. It brings its pros and cons, but... yeah. Not much of a grudge holder.

I admit, I'm one of those people that DO hold grudge. Not towards something as simple as a fight in a thread. If it creates drama that involves my relationship or friends, that is when I hold grudges. And do I hold them for a long time. xD Something as simple as a fight on Mene or Gaia, I do tend to avoid those people I have fights with, but only because I feel awkward posting around them and not because I'm holding a grudge. n.n

I really never hold grudges, I suppose if someone was do to something really awful I'd despite them a little, but I usually just make up with the person. I'm pretty easy going when people start spouting at me, in the end they'll be like "Omg I'm sorry, wanna be friends" and I'll be like ^___^;; Sure whatever. xD

Actually, I had this happen to me not too long ago! I IMed some chick and she asked if we'd argued in the past. Turns out we did. Neither of us really gave a crap, though. We talked and laughed just fine. Getting upset over online stuff is silly. I mean, really. Its just some text on a screen. Unless its actually happening in your life, there's not much to worry about , is there?

i agree very much so with King,and i have never had a disagreement on mene before so i am totally hoping that it will not happen at all and no i do not hold a grudge if i do disagree with the person i just clearly state how i feel what it has to do with them and why im upset if anything i will stop talking until im not upset and then if i was extremely upset i would leave the site come back and fix all my problems

I've never really had a grudge against anyone but my mom >.> she's spreading rumor about me to her friends apparently...

I think more people have grudges against me than I do them... >.<

Though I must say I'm fairly notorious when it comes to holding grudges IRL, I tend not to do it in the Interet, as I tend to take everybody less seriously in the Internet. The person who has been stalking tou like that apparently doesn't do this, I mean, they are vengeful both IRL and here.

I haven't had that problem on a site, but one day a couple weeks ago, some random person sent me an IM on Yahoo. I always keep all my chats logged, because I do a lot of writing with friends and role plays that I want to keep, and I had no record of having met and chatted with this person. But he wouldn't leave me alone! He didn't know me, and I didn't know him, but he insisted we'd met before and wouldn't let it drop. And I could only say, "What's it matter, if we don't remember each other?" And he was very rude and condescending, talking to me like I was an idiot for not remembering him, even though he didn't remember me. I finally had to block him to shut him up.

I tend to go by three strikes and you're out method. In other words, I forgive and forget, and forgive and forget, then if you manage to do something horrid a third time you therefore get ignored totally. If someone is going to be so careless as to disregard my feelings or opinions (I am not saying they have to agree with me, just to understand where I am coming from) that many times, I don't want to know them. There are plenty of other decent people to spend my time with, and that goes for both forum-met people and real-life people.

I've never had any problems with anyone on an avi site.

I tend to be good at remembering people. If I do have a problem with a person they will not see me again.

The best way to avoid drama is to not start it.

Well I've only held grudges against a few... though on gaia there was one guy who was flirting with me for some reason... so I purposely replied slow ^^"

I don't really hold grudges. And if I did...there are enough people on menewsha where I probably wouldn't remember if we had a fight or arguement. It's not a big deal to me...it's only the internet. XD

Well, I've only ever really had one "spat" here on Mene. Yes, I do hold a bit of a grudge.
But it's because the person was being very disrespectful for no reason. It was completely uncalled for. It's not just because we disagreed. ^^;

Though I know after I see someone get into a fight with someone else on the boards, I have problems looking at either party quite the same again. >.O
It's not a side of people I like seeing.
'Tis why I tend to disappear when drama and fights pop up.

LOL..Well I normally would just start a new argument and forget the old all together. But thats just me >,<