Normally I wouldn't bother to say anything to anyone since we are on the internet and of the person is really arrogant then it would be falling on death ears. Why waste your breath on something already being wasted?

I find myself to be a very grudge-holding person. Not just in real life either.

Do you ever find yourself seeing someone's posts in various places, and just... detesting that user? Not necessarily acting on it in any way, but just getting annoyed when they post in the thread you post in, or detest seeing their opinion because it's just so "wrong" to you?

How often do you find users that you just don't get along with?
Is it more common then in real life? Or less common? About the same?
How do you react to seeing their posts?
What if they reply to one of yours?


Just making sure I'm not the only one with petty grudges for a response that rubs you the wrong way.... haha. :3

I think that it is just human nature to hold grudges against people who do not conform to our point of view or is nasty to us.

It does not matter if you are face to face with the person or on the computer with them it has the same effect.

Words are what does the damage and when it has been said and is out there and can not be taken back.

When they say words hurt they do not physically but mentally.

Yeah, but a lot of people forgive easily...

I feel a bit guilty sometimes, because these might be nice people who just had a bad day or something. Or even who just worded something in a "bad" way. But I won't give them another chance until I see reason that they might not be someone I dislike.


>.> And try as I might, I can't change that about me.

I haven't actually had too many of those grudge moments in the Internet.
I've run into a few people who pissed me off, but I've always made a point to avoid them.
It's not worth my health to get worked up about someone I can't even see.
I think about these things a lot really. I tend to forgive people for the most part.
That's not a problem, but I don't forget. At least, I don't try to.
And, whenever I think of the wrong done to me, I automatically see that individual and want nothing to do with them.
It reminds me of pre-judging. Except, that's not what it is, is it?
Because I've already had direct experience with them, and know what they're capable of.
Well, I guess that might be considered grudging. I don't really believe in forgetting serious offenses though.
I fear to forget is to soften up. And it's a habit that keeps me away from someone who would turn around and wrong me again.

I don't think it's off for you to feel that way. Just don't let it consume you, it's not worth it.

I don't really hold grudges. I forgive people that do me wrong. Because I would like others to forgive me when I do someone wrong.

I don't. Especially not against people I've never met in real life, because that's just silly. ^^

My last boyfriend, however, hated a fair number of people on Menewsha for no reason. :? I never understood it.

Hmm... I don't know if it's so much a grudge I hold, just so much of a "gee I think I'm going to avoid that person" when seeing someone posting something in a rude manner or whatever the reason. Now when something's directed at me personally, it might take a bit to get over but I eventually do. More easily online than IRL. I'm a laid back person and it takes a lot to get me angry at someone enough to not want to forgive them for a long period of time.

I've never really hated anyone on Menewsha or any other site, but I understand how you feel. It's because people here are still people, and you can't get along with eveyone.

How often do you find users that you just don't get along with?

i find them once in a blue moon xD

Is it more common then in real life? Or less common? About the same?

i think for me its more common in real life.

How do you react to seeing their posts?

well i should say this first i dislike them for a totally different reason. the main way to be on my bad side is to ignore my posts, ok ok i know that sounds harsh but still its the main way to get on my nerves. (i do not expect every post to be seen or commented)

What if they reply to one of yours?

im happy ^.^ and i dislike them a little less.

im one wired person, im not going to lie.

My god, I'm just the queen of grudges. The longest I've held a grudge was for, like, 3 to 4 years!..

+ I don't find users that I don't get along with very often, I'm nice to all on the game ^_^;;
+ To me, It's A LOT more common in real life than in games.
+ Some posts, like about Gaia being better than Menewsha, get's me really ticked off. I dislike people like that, and tend to hold grudges.
+ I get mad once they reply to one of mine with some kind of back talk about how Gaia IS better than Menewsha. We'll never be friends then xD

I've merged KeiKei Shunu's topic "Grudges" with Jaded Geisha's "Oh that's silly...We've met?" since it was a repeat. Be sure to check the forum before posting a new thread just to make sure it's not a repeat, KeiKei.

I don't hold grudges at all. I give people second and even third chances, because I know that sometimes people have motivations behind their actions that we aren't aware of. If they blow it after that however, I will simply cut them from my life because you can only give people so many chances before they become not worth your effort. But I don't harbor ill will towards them after that, I just simply don't care anymore. *Shrugs*

I get into the "don't care" zone after a while too. Once I'm done being annoyed at someone, I'll either get over it and be back to normal with them, or find that I really don't want them to be part of my life anymore. If they've done as Blond describes, and got up my nose on several occasions, there's a pretty good chance that I'll have grown tired of their crap and not want anything to do with them any more.

I usually don't hold grudges on the Internet.

Here on Menewsha, I think
I've only had one disagreement with a person
but it was kind of my fault anyway ^^;;
So I don't have any grudges against anyone here~

But I have held grudges on people before--
one girl I knew IRL who spread rumors about me via Myspace
[...back in 7th grade when I still used it XD]
one person on Gaia who kept PM'ing and commenting me
with really awkward messages and attempts to cyber...
and a few other people
that did stuff to me IRL,
such as my mom and two or three people at my school~

Other than that,
I try to let things go 8D
I mean, it's just the Internet, right?

hmm... I don't really hold grudges. Not really at all. this is just the internet. people don't know you, you don't know them.. so..what's the point of wasting energy on such a thing?

thankfully, this has never happened to me before, my memory sucks so much, i could argue with someone one day and ask them to be my friend the next, they could get even more angry with me and i wouldnt remember why! Just a painful thing to go through -shrug- oh well..

I tend to not like the person too much if
they've somehow been rude to me even after
I told them I didn't understand or something.
That happened to me a while back on here though
I've luckily haven't seen the person ever since. XP
I do remember their names and all that though, for
no reason. I usually have that happen since my
memory can go on for a while on certain things.
O-O I have held light hrudged on people irl, but
eventually I sort of forgive them and just ignore them in
that kind of manner.

Tell them to grow some balls.

Hm...online grudges? In any case, those stories are hilarious actually. I guess some people are just plain wierd and have issues on the whole. Plus they act wierd cause its over the internet so they feel like they can say anything since they're hiding behind a screen. ^_^'

The whole story that someone said with the bidding stalker and the person wanting to be on their friends list....its just hilarious. XD