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Old 03-31-2008, 10:25 PM

Hello everyone and thank you for reading this and offering me advice.

I feel silly writing this, but here it goes. There is this guy at my school that I like, as more than a friend. We are friends, so this guy does know that I exist. All signs that I get from him are good. Some read that he likes me as a friend and others read as more than that. And there are really no negative ones.

So if that background made sense, here is where the question comes in. The prom is coming up at my school and I want him to ask me. I do not want to ask him; I realize that some of the advice I am going to get is that I should just ask him, in that case, suggestions for what to say would be nice. Anyways, does anyone have advice for how I can show him that I like him and/or that I want him to ask me to prom?

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Old 03-31-2008, 10:33 PM

I'm in the same boat! Except I don't plan on going to prom.

Well, when I was trying to get this other guy who seemed to like me to say something about it, I spent a bit of time just lamenting about Midwinter and how my best friend refused to go, and he was all 'Uh, would you like to go with me?'

So maybe show some interest in going to prom to let him know you're interested. ^^

And if you decide to ask him, good luck. I'm afraid I don't know how one goes about that. xP

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Old 03-31-2008, 10:48 PM

I would try and hit at it. Bring it up. There really isn't much you can do though.

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Old 03-31-2008, 11:43 PM

Oof, if I knew the answer to this I'd probably have a boyfriend of my own right now.

There really is no way to get inside a guy's head and manipulate him into asking you out. Sadly, the world doesn't work that way. You can flip your hair and flirt with him all you like, but that's no insurance that he'll ask you to prom. The only way to get that invite is to ask him yourself. So really, that's what I suggest.

If you're fumbling for words, something sweet simple and to the point is best. "Will you go with me?"
At least once you get those words out, you won't be sitting around and waiting for him anymore.

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Old 04-01-2008, 12:04 AM

It is not that I want to manipulate him. I just want to know if there is anything I could say or do that would make him think I like him and want him to ask me. That way if he is debating whether he should ask or not, because he cannot tell if I like him back, then hopefully he would ask.

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Old 04-01-2008, 02:12 AM

Manipulate was probably the wrong word. I just meant that there's no real way to swing his actions in your direction, without getting petty and cruel (which I'm sure you wouldn't do anyway).

This is just general boy advice, but it's always good to remember: It might seem easy to fall into playing mind games, but avoid it at all costs. If you can be upfront about your feelings and intentions, do so. Even if it seems completely impossible to ask him out for yourself, it's probably your "safest" bet.

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Old 04-01-2008, 02:16 AM

Thank you. I appreciate the advice. I just really want a different way as to not wreck the friendship. Do you have any suggestions for how to ask?

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Old 04-01-2008, 08:20 AM

I wouldn't know. I never got asked to "prom" (different thing here, but close to prom...) :| felt really stupid being the only one without any kind of pair. >.>

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Old 04-01-2008, 04:25 PM

Riight, I know you didn't want to hear this, but I agree with Knerd. The only sure way is to ask him.

You see, the thing I've learned about boys is, boys don't understand small hints. Let me repeat. Boys are thick. Awfully thick. They don't understand small clues like girls do. This has made many girls hit their head against a wall, because while a girl thinks she's giving out clear hints, the guy is totally oblivious to them.

So the sure way is to ask him. If you absolutely don't like asking him straight, you should at least make it totally obvious. Like, talk about prom with him (this should be easy if you're friends). When the moment is right, ask him if he's got a girl to go with. If he doesn't, and if he's too thick to ask you in turn, then tell him something like, "I'd like to go to the prom with you" or just straight ask him.

Most likely, this guy is worrying about his prom date too (though prom doesn't seem to be as important for boys than it is to girls). Maybe he even wants to go with you but is worried that if he asks you, you'd refuse. And even if he says no, just say something like "ok, no biggie", because at least you'll know about it and can stop worrying about him and can look for other potential boys to go to prom with.

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Old 04-01-2008, 05:35 PM

try to find first is he already has a prom date...
if not.. try to tell him that it would be cool to go together.. try to be a flirt and it may work..
well.. what to say... if he is your friend.. things are easier... just chat with him... and try to get beyond his surface...

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Old 04-01-2008, 05:41 PM

I agree with AnamCara, boys don't get hints so just tell him straight if you wanna go with him :3 don't wait for him to ask you...

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Old 04-02-2008, 01:02 AM

I do not know if you do or do not, but for certain, always dress well. This may sound simple but many girls don't seem to notice and just look like slobs prior to 11a.m. or so because they didn't bother to do their makeup till lunch.

Clean-cut, a bit of makeup but not a whole dough-mask of it. Be perky, be cheerful, be positive, and always say good morning, or hello, or something.

Do that for a few days. Go out of your way to have conversation with him, and listen too. Then ask him directly, sometime. Say, "Hey, you know, Prom's coming up. I was wondering if you'd care to come with me? I think it'd be fun."

Something like that. :)

First, make a good impression. Don't just randomly walk up and ask. Start by having conversation, as that will raise your chances of success.

 


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