I love my dad, I really do. But sometimes he doesn't think before he speaks. I used to be heavy, and that caused me to really only want to befriend heavy people. I'm thinner now, but I still love my friends. He makes comments about how they have "weight problems" or whatever. Not to their faces. But to me. Or one of his friends kids, who I was in 6th grade with, he had to repeat 7th grade. I know him, and I know it was because they put him in classes that were above his level. There's no shame in being in basic, but they put him in general classes and he failed. My dad constantly talks about how screwed up he is, just because he repeated a grade. Little does he know there's people in 7th grade in my school that are 15 or 16. It just...bugs me, and when I tell him to stop, he just whines that it's true.

And he like hugs me too much. I hate being hugged. I really do. So he comes up and hugs me constantly. It's really, really irritating, because he's big and strong and I can't get away.

And the potty humor, ohmigod. He describes his shit and makes fart jokes all the time. It's disgusting. I'm a girl, I don't enjoy that.

It makes it hard for me to spend my weekends at his place. This weekend I handled him by letting out a blood curling scream every time he bothered me, but if I continue to do that, the neighbors will probably call the cops.

D: Yeah, screaming at the top of your lungs, as effective as it is, probably wouldn't be a good way to approach the situation.

I have a very good friend who has a situation very, very similar to yours. Her dad probably does all the things your dad does, but he also sounds ( from her stories ) borderline abusive, racist, sexist, and really sees no problem in screaming at her in public. Last time I saw him, he even went so far as to complain about her behavior to ME. Trust me, she's one of the most well behaved girls I have ever met.

Maybe you could kindly tell him that you don't appreciate some of the things he says, and tell him that you would really appreciate it if he could refrain from saying certain things around you. He should understand that it's not necessary to be so crude, especially when you don't hide the fact that some of his conversation choices don't appeal to you. After all, you are his daughter. Hopefully, if you ask him to contain himself repeatedly, he'll get the idea and learn to tone it down a bit.

...or get a diary where he could write down his complaints rather than venting them to you when you obviously don't want to hear them. XDD;;

Originally Posted by Icysapphire

D: Yeah, screaming at the top of your lungs, as effective as it is, probably wouldn't be a good way to approach the situation.

I have a very good friend who has a situation very, very similar to yours. Her dad probably does all the things your dad does, but he also sounds ( from her stories ) borderline abusive, racist, sexist, and really sees no problem in screaming at her in public. Last time I saw him, he even went so far as to complain about her behavior to ME. Trust me, she's one of the most well behaved girls I have ever met.

Maybe you could kindly tell him that you don't appreciate some of the things he says, and tell him that you would really appreciate it if he could refrain from saying certain things around you. He should understand that it's not necessary to be so crude, especially when you don't hide the fact that some of his conversation choices don't appeal to you. After all, you are his daughter. Hopefully, if you ask him to contain himself repeatedly, he'll get the idea and learn to tone it down a bit.

...or get a diary where he could write down his complaints rather than venting them to you when you obviously don't want to hear them. XDD;;

Hmm....that's a pretty good idea. I'll try it.

It's like you just described my dad.
Except for he calls all of my friends whores and sluts and says they're scum.
It's so lame since I only hang out with normal people.
There's nothing slutty or whorish about them, but he does it on purpose to piss me off.
The only thing there is to do about it is not to react on it.
He gave up on doing that since I started ignoring him.
Also, there's nothing wrong with heavy people.
I think they're super cute, and they have more to love.

let him know that his behavior is not okay. if he continues to behave in that manner, tell him you won't visit him on the weekends anymore. or even have your mom talk to him about it.

Well I know the type and I almost wanna say that whatever you say to him he won't stop but it's always worth a try and I think that telling him that you won't spend weekends with him is a good solution if he refuses to stop his crude behavior.

Did you enjoy those types of jokes when you were little? It took my husband forever to understand why my daughter didn't want to play his silly little games anymore when she was about 10 or 11, she was growing up and he didn't get it. If you liked those jokes when you were younger, you should just tell him "Look dad, I'm not a little girl anymore and I just don't find that funny anymore". As far as his comments about other people, unfortunately, you will probably never get him to stop, I have been trying for many years to get my husband to stop making rude comments about people and he just refuses to get it, some people just don't get it.