I don't get the point in lying about it. I don't chose people to hang around with/date or what not based on if they had sex or not. As long as they're not a whore, I could care less. I rather not hear the details of anything though, which people tend to tell me too much of anyway.

Originally Posted by mystic kiwi

I rather not hear the details of anything though, which people tend to tell me too much of anyway.

I know, my brother thought I wanted to know how him and his girlfriend started the year off. I still can't look her in the eye!

Originally Posted by Queen Fool

I hate when virgins lie about it.

You really don't look as cool as you think you do.

So stop it.

Around here, I see why girls lie if they aren't virgins. It's a small school (a bit over 500 kids per grade) and if someone even suspects that you've done -something- sexual, you'll be harassed to no end. That happened when someone started a rumor about my friend giving a blowjob in the bathroom (it was true, but the person had absolutely no basis to start that rumor and our whole "group" denied it so it died down).

Small!? My school is like 100 kids per grade and I find that big. :shock:
It's good to know my school doesn't really have to worry about this stuff. There are the people who have sex and the ones who don't. They just don't mix.

I was proud to be a virgin. I was a card carrying member of the V-club until I was twenty one! My boyfriend and I lost our virginity with each other, and we were glad we made that choice at the time. We were ready, and it was lovely.

Now, I don't much care either way. But for your first time, it's nice to be with a guy who's a virgin...that way, neither of you thinks the other is an idiot, or has to feel like an idiot. Besides...it's not that I think of people without their virginity as 'used'...but I don't want an STD, so I WANT to know the history of my partners. I mean...sleeping with someone is like sleeping with everyone they've ever slept with...and if they slept with someone who has the clap...

Talk about Regifting, you know?

They lie to try and hide the past on something they regret or they dont want someone they really like to think they are a prostitute.

I actually know plenty of people who are proudly virgins, though a lot of good friends of mine have kids now (and I think I'm too young). But I know a lot of people my age, younger, and older that are virgins, and I trust it when they say it. I agree that it's stupid to lie either way. It's not important, no matter what gender you are, whether you are or are not. I admit, that most people who hear about a guy that's a virgin think he just can't get some, and that a girl who isn't always gets classified as a skank. It's not nice to group people in those categories. I grew up around a promiscious cousin who slept with 9 people before her freshman year ever ended. :/ That's ridiculous. Now she's got three kids - one from being pregnant at 15. o.O; But just because someone's had sex doesn't make them one thing or the other. How they go about it, and who they are, does. I've had sex before and I don't regret any of it. I don't lie about being a virgin (though people think I'm lying about having sex, which is ridiculous). I come off "too innocent" to do anything.

So when people think I'm lying, that's far from the case. But people assume things, and because of that, other people lie to avoid getting classified.

If i were to look for real love, and a responsible person i would choose a guy thats a virgin.

Doing anything before marriage for me is irresponsible, i feel like they're just playing around, and chances that they want girls because of s*x.

but ofcourse that may not go for all guys but yeah...

I think that it is dumb when people lie about being or not being a virgin. I would rather have the truth. My boyfriend is going to be 10 in a few months and is still a virgin. He is proud and does not lie. I am 15 and I am definately still a virgin. We are going to take eachother someday. ;D~ xD OFF TRACK! Uhhmm.. o.o;; Where were we...?? Oh right..! I think that.. Hmm.. Let us say.. If a girl lied to her boyfriend about being a virgin, he would be more distgusted at the fact that she lied rather than that she was not a virgin.. Ahhh... I had something to say but I definately got off track.. Excuse me, it's 2:20am and my brain is asleep.

i for one dont run around telling everyone and their grandparents if im a virgin or not.
frankly its none of their business.

The only person whom i told was my best friend XD and my boyfriend and he was glad that i told him the truth.and he told me the truth.

i dont really pay much attention to it anymore becuase it has been blown
out of the water basically.

no one takes it seriously anymore like it used to be so whats the point in caring about what someone else says that has no relationship to me at all wheather it be boyfriend or friend or family.

i care about my self and my significant other and thats it.

You know, when you think of it, most people already know what sex is like even if they have never had first hand experience.

with the amount of sex on TV and movies these days, im surprised anyone cares in your a virgin or not.

I can get maybe saying that you ARE a virgin when you aren't. As has been pointed out already, you can (as a female) be subjected to constant attacks about being a "whore" and "easy". Maybe that happens for males too; I haven't noticed as much. And I can understand also because in relationships--as people have managed to point out--some people are insecure about sex if their partner is more experienced than they are.

Really, though, it's no one's business but your partner's--and theirs only because of any diseases that you may have. I don't think that it's a big deal; it seems as shallow to get wrapped up in whether or not somebody's had sex as it does to decide not to become involved with someone because they've got green eyes. If they really care about you, they will NOT care if you're "bad" at sex. If you're that nervous, try to find information on your own or talk to them.

Any friends that you have who'd either abandon you for being a virgin--or the opposite--aren't really your friends. (Turned me off of a girl who once said, "Are you a virgin?..... Oh, good. Because if you weren't, we couldn't be friends." Uh-huh. Whether or not I'd had sex with my long-term boyfriend, that had no possible bearing on our relationship.)

I think it's because of society's obsession with sex. Everybody wants to talk about it--but nobody wants to talk about it. So it becomes a status symbol. You don't scream it, but you all know it. (Most people. I AM generalizing; I realize that not all people are like this.)

Originally Posted by Wordstreamer

(Turned me off of a girl who once said, "Are you a virgin?..... Oh, good. Because if you weren't, we couldn't be friends."

That's an odd thing to say, I don't see how that matters. Does she think people who aren't virgin a disease or will try and force her to have sex with someone so they can not be virgins together..Maybe she thinks people who aren't virgin talk about nothing but sex or something.

Originally Posted by Jeanie

That's an odd thing to say, I don't see how that matters. Does she think people who aren't virgin a disease or will try and force her to have sex with someone so they can not be virgins together..Maybe she thinks people who aren't virgin talk about nothing but sex or something.

XD No idea. Maybe I should've asked her. That question kind of came out of nowhere--we hadn't been discussing anything to do with it before.

People's values could be different.

What you're saying makes sense.. How some people don't care whether you're a virgin or not.. Or if you're inexperienced.

Unfortunately society doesn't work that way. There's just people out there who tend to ... Have their own values .. or beliefs on how someone should be when they're with them in bed . LOL. If that made sense at all.

Ah well, it's late, I'm sleepy. ><

Originally Posted by Wordstreamer

XD No idea. Maybe I should've asked her. That question kind of came out of nowhere--we hadn't been discussing anything to do with it before.

So what you were just talking and she suddenly thought 'Oh my god! I don't know if she's had sex before, I'd better ask!' Odd girl.

Maybe they feel ashamed of being one? I'm still a virgin and I'm a little ashamed of being one. I'm going on 20 years old and I haven't had intercourse yet! My sister who is 17 has already has intercourse Dx It's just a little embarrassing.

I'm going on 21 Earth_Dragon_Thoth and I'm a virgin too, it is a little weird like when I'm talking to my house mate and she says something then has to go "No you don't know".....

I just find it unnecessary, you can live on without it, if you want sex then buy a toy, simple as that, thats what they're made for. I never want children and I simply do not trust men anymore after what happened with my recent ex... he broke up with me after almost 3 years of dating saying we'd be nothing more than friends. Its probably because I wouldn't give him any, its just degrading and disgusting, I don't need it and neither does my sister.

When I move out and live on my own I'm gonna live by myself and get a cat to keep me company, I love cats, I'd have more fun and entertainment with a cat than a dude.

If you guys wanna get boyfriends then good for you and I wish you luck in trying to find the perfect man, count me out.

I don't get it either... >.<

as guys lie about NOT being virgins, some girls lie that they are virgins to seem more attractive to the opposite sex... I don't get it. Lying is never a good start to any kind of relation ship :| the truth will always come up.

Relationships shouldn't be based on lies. If you start the relationship off with a lie it's just going to be one big lie.

I agree, too~

Though where I live,
only guys brag about losing their virginity ^^

It's kind of stupid imho though;
it doesn't make you any better...
Because there's always room for improvement? 8D

And yeah, I'm still a virgin and I'm 15...
but I know people who lost it when they were 8 or 9,
which I think is way too young DX

Well you see the reason people normally lie about things of that nature are because our socitiy makes it seem that if you don't you wont fit in everyones so caught up in the need of sex that no one really thinks of it as an important thing anymore and those that do are often put down about it one way or another or have experences telling someone that and having themselves called a liar because they are telling the truth. Lying in itself is a learned habit that people fall into and nothing more.
Is the information important to anyone other then yourself and your partner NO so why even insisted on caring to lie about it.

I think hat most of the time people lie about being a virgin due how they feel about the act that they've committed. In addition I really would feel awkward if I was dating someone that wasn't a virgin (at first) due to the fact that I was in health class... and actually learned something.

Maybe they lie because they want to seem cool, or act like they know what they are doing. I am not sticking up for them, because i have actually been in a relationship with a guy till i found out he lied to me about it....

I agree with iMoose...it would bug me ._. Personally, I think it's better if you are a v.