I think I mainly need a little rant, so I've come here, to the little Life Issues forum where i'm always greeted by kind people who are willing just to listen as well as shar advice =D


Now this involves two of my friends, whom we shall call, Lady X and Lady Y, and one male, who will simply be, the male.

now Lady X who was my best friend at my old school, was dating said male for a while, and then they were on and off for a while and so on, and now male is dating lady Y.

now after a little while, Lady X tells said male that she is pregnant with his child.

I learn this first from Lady Y, who tells me that she heard this from lady y and that she thinks lady y is lying.

I said "I could understand the psychological pathways to that, but it seems very out of character for her."

now a week or so later, I see Lady X come online, and partially to try and find out exactly what is going on, as well as i wanted to invite her over to my house during the summer, I IM her, and then the instant reply is "You're a bad friend I'm putting you on ignore!"

and as i question this declaration, i come to find that Lady Y said i was a witness and that i said that Lady X was lying.

I said NOTHING of the sort, i said i could see how it would happen that she would lie, but that it was VERY unlike her

so in about 20-30mins we get that cleared up, and it's all good between us now.

but....should I confront Lady Y about what she said that i said?

i really don't want to get to deeply involved in the drama, but also, i would like to know why she would tell Lady X and said male that i said those things, when i didn't, even if she perceived it such...

I don;t want mroe drama, especially with the end of the school year coming so close, and finals and all the stress that comes with it, as well as picking out colledges.

ineed higher help! D=

Confront Y about lying to X about what you said. Y certainly has no place to be accusing you of those things when she thought X was lying in the first place.

Depending on how Y reacts to this, you may want to consider how good of a friend she is. I'm not saying you should ditch her over one little thing, but if this is intentional, and she does this kind of thing frequently, then she doesn't sound like a good person to be dealing with.

it's tnot taht she straight out lies, or twists things eve nintentially i think, but she hwas a way of always telling things in her perspective, and it took me a little while to learn this but once i have i've always veiwed what she tells me in this sorta of, okay is this 100% true, or is it a bit twisted? kinda way...

I think i will take your advice and talk to her about this though. She's not my best friend or such, like Lady X was, but she is a fairly good friend.

thanks for your advice =D

As long as you got things cleared up with lady x, I wouldn't worry about lady y, you don't need the drama and that's all that would come of it. Let the three of them sort it out.

Well, people do have a way of hearing things that they want to hear; perspective and all.
But some people have a way of twisting an event to make the outcome what they want it to be. Especially when they are telling off someone else, as I suppose the new girlfriend was doing to the old girlfriend.

I'd at least mention to the new girlfriend that you know what she said and that you didn't appreciate it. Restate for her what you really said, and that it wasn't right of her to run off and tell your friend anything about you.
You don't have to get stressed out, or fight about. But by this method you can accomplish a few things: First, you can make sure she knows what you really said and meant. Second, by her reaction, you can gauge whether her twisting of your words was intentional or not. Third, if she knew what you said and meant, and changed it to gloat to your friend, then you will know that you shouldn't talk to her about anything relating to this situation(she will after all, change what happened to cause more drama again)and that maybe you should just be around her as a little as possible since she isn't an honest person.

People-all people-like to embellish here and there when recounting events. Like I said, if she was arguing with the other girl and accusing her of lying, she probably felt that using you as a backup to the theory would make her somehow triumphant, or right. She wasn't thinking about the problems this would cause between you and your friend.

Good luck with this. It isn't an easy situation to be in. Good luck with your finals too. :)