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okay i cut myself to get attenchion and i really don't want to but i don't know how else to get people to notice me.....i really want this one person in particular to notice me but i really don't know how and i'm despret...even despret enough to cut more

Originally Posted by petey penguin

okay i cut myself to get attenchion and i really don't want to but i don't know how else to get people to notice me.....i really want this one person in particular to notice me but i really don't know how and i'm despret...even despret enough to cut more

Thank you for replying!

Well, cutting yourself is getting you, if it is working at all, NEGATIVE attention and people will probably call you emo, and possibly avoid you. Or they might give you the "I pity you and want to help you" act and then you will just be annoyed because they don't understand you. And once they find that you are acting out because you want attention, and respect you held in their eyes is gone.

What activities is that person in? Try joining a few clubs and really get into them, you will find a ton of good people there who have the same interests and are probably willing to talk to you a lot more than you think. Cutting might actually be throwing and pushing people out and undermining your efforts to shine in the crowd.

And remember, cutting to lead to death, and what does death hold for you that life doesn't?

:angel:

If its ok, I'd like to answer the topic of cutting for attention. Instead of harming yourself, try to get noticed by starting a conversation (even if you have to get right in front of them!) or something that doesn't actually involve harming yourself.

it so hard though you don't even know. i a really shy person and sometimes its hard to even talk to people that i know...i know that i need to stop but theres something in side of me that just keeps telling me to do it.....i don't know what to listen to. i know its wrong but it works

But in a negative fashion. Eventually the momentary stardom will disappear, and then what will you do? Commit suicide? This is a downward slope. I'm shy. Try getting more friends on here to build confidence. Join CLUBS!! I cannot stress this enough! Start by saying hi to him once a day in the hallways or something. If you are this desperate for this guy's attention, he is not healthy for you. If you are a teenager, once you confess to him, go on a date or two to really know him, you will find that you don't like him as much as you thought you did.

not that kind of a guy......this guy is my teacher

Then try to work hard in that class, applying yourself in his class and maybe stay after school if you don't understand any lessons. What attention are you craving for from the teacher that makes you desperate enough to cut?

i don't know i just want him to pay attenchion to me...i don't know i have this problem and he isn't the only teacher i've tried to get attenchion from this way

I think you may have a slight infatuation with your teacher. Which is seriously bad. How old is he? What grade are you in?

I'm starting to have problems with depression.
I'm home all day now with nothing to do and nobody to talk to because my only two friends are constantly going to each other's houses and stuff. I can't drive or anything on my own, and I don't know what to do. The worst part is that it's only the beginning of summer. T.T

Nothing to do? Try getting involved on a Role Play (RP) forum! Or go to your friend's houses, or have them go to yours. If there is a park nearby, start walking to build up your stamina and health! The internet is amazing! Try finding some other online communities or games! Try drawing or finding another hobby! Or try getting a game system like the PS3 and waste HOURS playing games XD

Try reading books too. Fantasy, science fiction, all those are amazing.

I've tried with a few RPs, and none of them have really helped. Plus, the only one I'm really interested in is one that my friend's in, but she never posts anymore. They go to each other's houses all the time so I can't go, and they hate my house. I was planning on getting a Wii... but it might be a while. I've been on the internet all day, but after too long, it just makes me feel worse. I'll try playing games again, I guess. That's what I did last summer. xD I'll also try going to the library this weekend. ^_^

Is it jsut a one on one party? Sometimes, get to gethers are better with more than 2 people.
Wii? Nice!!

Yeah, nobody can have or wants all of us there at once.
XD Yeah. I just hope I can get it soon...

Also try and earn a ton of money on here~! Set goals!

I guess I'll try. Thanks! ^^

No problem! It's what I'm here for!

I'm 17. My boyfriend is 15.

My mom and dad ALWAYS remind me that he's 15 and how they don't like how he's "so young."
It's very annoying. I don't get mad at them but I feel like crying sometimes.

My boyfriend says I've helped him a lot. He used to bottle up his emotions and not talk to anyone about his problems. He still doesn't like talking to me about his problems because they sadden me, but I wish I could help him and him talking to me should help. [problems like family issues and stuff.]

He felt/feels like he was/is battling himself over who he "should be" and who he thinks he's turning out to be, also. The one he thought he was turning out to be is a violent-like person. The one he should be, is more caring and ... non-violent.

So my parents don't understand that I mean the world to him, and I love him.

They keep saying things that incline our relationship is weak, that it's only a stepping stone, like I'll "get over it" type of attitude. It's kinda really saddening.

Help?

Woah woah woah. Your parent's views are ridiculous. Just to point it out. If you both treat it as a relationship, it has the same weight as a relationship between two 17 year olds. I know people where the woman was older than the man. And it is probably a good thing because it is most likely that you won't manipulate your boyfriend and nothing extremely sexual is going on. There is always a risk that this relationship may not work, but it is the same with all relationships. And he is not "so young". It is only 2 years. It is not to seem like a very big deal in a few years. This is just another "parent not understanding child views and not being liberal" case. They probably don't want you to be hurt by this relationship with a guy not as mature as you. But, they would still be saying stuff if you were with an older guy. No matter what, your parents will have comments, and they will not always be nice. Keep your chin up, and bear the weight until they understand or you are independent from them.

Ok, well I don't really know if this is an emotional problem but I'll ask anyways, if you don't mind.

Ok, back when I was in middle school I was one of those..normal girls I guess you could call it. Well, as normals as I let anyone see. Inside I was shut off from everyone && anyone. I mean yea sure, I smiled && I laughed but really, I didn't care. I didn't feel much && I don't really know what made me this way all I know is that for the longest time I was a very angry person. I mean I'd go home && it would be nothing but fights && it always ended up me being screamed && yelled at till I went to bed.
After awhile I started to grow out of the 'being a kid' && stepped into 'teenagerhood' Ya know, the whole "Let's FLIRT BECAUSE WE'RE 13! We're old enough now!"
I didn't really do that at all. I was still the angry girl who pretended to be happy. I lost a lot of friends that way because I was never emotionally there for any of them. && once I lost my best friend, the one who stuck by me no matter how bad I got I realized that I needed to stop what I was doing to my self. ( I was getting sick a lot because I never talked to anyone about anything, not even my own sister or parents) But my only problem was I didn't have any good friend anymore. No one I could talk to. So, I spent my entire Middle school years going through friends && just trying to find someone I could easily talk to && to no avail. I thought all hope was lost even when I entered High school. At first I was still the same, I was a little better but still talked to no one about what was on my mind && still pretended to be happy, when I was so clearly not.
But eventually in my Junior year I found someone, her name was Grace. She was a very talkative person about her feelings. She'd been through a lot of things in her life && a lot of what she said && felt reminded me of how I felt && I soon enough started to open up more && more, but only to her. I became to feel like I was happy for once..not the forced kind of happy, but the real happy. && That went on for that entire year. && then My senior year began && I was actually a happier person. I had more friends then I could ever imagine && I was actually leaving the house more && more. && that's when I found my boyfriend. He was a dorky, flirtatious, pervert ,who I feel completely in love with. Well recently we broke up for a week n' a half && lemme tell ya that was a complete bitch to get through.
Me && Him fought for 3 days straight && he said some shit that made me hurt even worse. (We both say things we really don't mean when we're pissed off, our really bad habit)
I mean being with him made me feel like I wasn't alone with what I was feeling && going through. Him && my friend Gracie made me realize that what I was doing was completely destroying my life && I did my very best to get over it && well...it might sound like a cliche but 'feel again' Then, on my Graduation we got back together (after a huge conversation that lasted like...4 days?).
Now, my problem is that I shut my self off when it was all going down && well...I can't get back out. I mean I'm in love with this kid, I really am. I mean I'm staying with him while he goes into the marines. But it's like no matter what I do, I'm back to what I was back in Middle school. I know why I did this...it was so I didn't have to deal with this heart break but..now I can't get out...&& It's driving me insane.
I want to be out of this && feel happy again. I miss it all =( I miss the feeling I get when I'm around him. I miss the feeling of having my friends call me up just to see how I'm doing. I miss it all. I'm scared that if I keep it up like this I'll loss everything again. I realize what it did to me then && I don't ever want to go back..ever. I'll sell my left leg if it meant that I'd never be like that again. I just want to know what I can do to ease my way out of this a lil' faster before things get destroyed. Any suggestions?

Hi Hatake Ayumi.

It's wonderful that you are offering a service to help people with their emotional problems, but I am unfortunately going to have to lock this thread. If you take a look at the rules for this forum section, you will see that this sort of thread isn't being allowed.

This isn't to say that you can't help people though! You are more than welcome (and encouraged) to visit the threads people make here and give them advice.

@ 'Mel: Please feel free to make your own thread asking for advice from everyone on your issue.

Thank you.