Originally Posted by FAGGY CHAN

bah. Screw men.
They are losers.
I've been with quite a few, they all suck.
They are only nice to look at and maybe have a quicky with.
I have a committed relationship with my GF.
We plan to marry and have kids. (donater sperm)
I dont ever plan to be with another man.

LOL I like it XD I'd say that i couldn't be gay, but i'm the type of person who falls in love with a person... so if i met a girl who i got along that well with it's not like i'd be all "eiew she's a girl" because I think it's the person taht matters most ^^

on a side note, homophobics piss me off >_>

Originally Posted by Gary Stargazer

I don't see anything wrong with enjoying sex for the sake of enjoying it. However before people start assuming men that enjoy sex cant commit i think i should point out i have been in an 8 year relationship with my g/f, never cheated on her or anything. (even if she does not give me as much as i want.)
So I mean even guys that love to have sex will commit. I think its more of a maturity thing than anything else. And by maturity I dont mean age. I know 50 year old guys that still would do anything that would let them even if they were married or in a relationship. You just have to learn to find guys that will respect you and treat you right.

I've slept with dozens of girls, been in one night stands and small time realtionships before i met my current lover. But one thing i always did was respect my lovers. I never did a girl just for my own desires, i did it to make them feel good too and i never manipulated them into it.
Imagine that ... a thoughtful mature whore, yea thats me Xd

Anyhoo rant aside its the maturity level you want to look at in a man, not how old or educated he is. It's painfully obvious to tell how mature a guy is though... if he does not like doing things with you, hangs out with his buddys all the time and generally ignores your feelings. odds are he will use you and loose you. :3

Personal feeling about it ^^ if you though it was wrong you probably wouldn't be going it lol

Can i put another side note in here, a question to all of you~ What is a good age gap or a bad age gap? and does the age gap depend on how old they are to begin with?

Age gap is a complicated thing. D;
I say... If you're over 18... only date someone a year or two (depending on circumstances.) younger then you.
If you're over over 21... stick to 18 & up. /:
You should want a more mature girl by then anyways. Otherwise you might have some serious growing up to do. xD

Originally Posted by Oirish

Age gap is a complicated thing. D;
I say... If you're over 18... only date someone a year or two (depending on circumstances.) younger then you.
If you're over over 21... stick to 18 & up. /:
You should want a more mature girl by then anyways. Otherwise you might have some serious growing up to do. xD

But a guys emotional maturity is slower that a woman's to develop. I think 2-10 years if good. But i couldn't say a 17 year old could date a 27 year old... because the 17 year olds state of mind... but a 27 and 37 year old i don't have a problem with, is that weird?

But that said, My uncle met my aunt when he was 22 and she was 50 something... and they've been together happily for over 20 years ^^;; and she started out wanting him to date my older sister XD; and i don't see it as really wrong... like, they love each other.... what can you do when that happens? T_T''

Originally Posted by Oirish

This is from personal expierience, not out of just dissing random guys.
You are obviously one of the few that are nice.
That's cool.
Do you not notice at all how most men act?
I don't expect a guy to be resectful to me at all actually, I expect them to treat me like shit, that's how most guys roll. :lol:
I never said I expected them to treat me with respect at all. P:

Besides, men aren't the only ones who degrade themselves. I could say the same for most women. They act like trashy fucking whores these days. xD

You act like I'm racist or something only... sexist? :rofl:
LOL what do you know, a woman sexist. Funny shit, never realized I was one and never really seen that side of the arguement before. :XP

I apologizes, in no way did I want to make it seem that any of you females are sexist or hateful. I have indeed seen men and their behavior, how they act and how disgusted I am at many of our fellow "boys", unworthy to be called men so boys should fit just fine.

So I do see where many of you come from, why so many of you refuse to believe in there being good men out there when you've dealt with so many that have been hurtful, disrespect and just downright jerks in general. I just want to tell you ladies that there are good guys out there, very few but they do exist. I'd like to point out that this argument about no good men also applies to us guys, it's hard finding a good woman who wants to commit, who isn't jumping on the next pretty boy that looks her way. But there has to be, as much as we want to believe otherwise we know if we look hard enough, that perfect someone is right there waiting for us.

Originally Posted by Kyatto.chan

I agree, and i'm glad you vistied my thread thank you ^^ It's nice to hear from a guy who's willing to say that he sees women for the person that they are~ I admire that ^^


But I've found it's getting more and more common for relationships to last 6 moths or so for that reason... you think they're loving and trusting and they turn out not to be.

I know they're not all that way, but I'm yet to meet more that 2 men who are like yourself, who have a big enough heart to think with their mind first and not their eyes and genitalia.

That said I also know more and more women who use sex to try and rope a guy in and get upset when it doesn't work out...When it was really their fault for assuming a souly physical connection would make a relationship stable enough to have a real go.

It is genetic for me to want to sleep around, But the reason i ask about it, is because lately I've seen more and more men, younger and older, talk openly in groups and public places, on transport and in parks, about women and their conquests, speaking about then like they're not people and talking about how they went out a few times and bought them flowers and said they loved them when they didn't to get them into bed. I just don't understand how they can do that and not feel..... even a little bad about it.

It seems more and more common, and younger and younger too... do you think it's TV? do you think it's sexualisation of women at a younger age nowadays that makes the buys think of them as a pretty pin up picture first?...

Amen, you're talking to a guy who thought he was in the perfect relationship after 7 months and the girl turned out to be a bit out there. (aka she was cheating). I think after 5/6 months I start trusting who I'm with, takes at least a year before I can really start getting serious. If a person is really committed and believes in the relationship, there's no reason why they can't wait at least a year for things to get serious.

The sexual advantage females are using lately does not work at all. I'll say this again for those out there still trying it, doesn't work at all. If a female after a month or so starts being sexual in nature, I can't take her serious or want to commit anymore than I already have. My first thoughts are "Does she do this often?" and can someone who's already giving herself really commit to one person? If you're looking for a nice few months relationship with a sexual dependent guy, you got it, but if you want a real relationship then you need to hold back and make a guy earn it. In no way should a guy or female start showing off their body parts after just a few months, you won't get taken serious or respected.

I can't agree with the last part, I think it's just how I person was raised and how they deal with peer pressure. I've never drank, smoke or done drugs, so no one is going to rush me for sex or tell me it needs to be done. The old cliche that everyone is having sex is untrue, a lot of people lie and those who believe it want to feel included.