I need to get this out and I'm hoping that if I do, I can pull through a couple more years here. I am not sure what I hope to gain from this but I do hope some of you will be able to offer a few words of advice.

My father is one of the best dads in the world, he's always there when I need him, I know I can count on him for almost anything....except standing up to the wicked witch of the west aka my mother.

Now, I am sure most of you have heard of the evil stepmother cliche, right? Well, unfortunately, my mother seems to be the reincarnated version of her. Though she is my birth mom, I really wish she wasn't.

My sisters and I never had chores, per say, besides keeping our room clean and the cat's box cleaned out. Dad thought that chores were just a waste of energy better spent preparing for the future...homework, classes, studying, etc. So mother-dearest had to come up with more inventive ways to put us down.

Have you ever been stolen from? I'm not talking a piece of candy or a pencil, I'm talking something big that makes it a very low blow? All three of us, my sisters and I, have been there. My eldest sister had hundreds upon hundreds of dollars stolen from her account. By whom, you may wonder. By none other then our dear loving mommy. Our dad was in Korea at the time so there was not much he could do.

My older sister had her bank card stolen, she luckily reported it to dad who helped her search. Since dad knew, mom couldn't use it so she had no use for it. It had been raining all day and yet mom appears later on in the day, with a perfectly dry debit card saying she found it by the passenger side of my sister's car. Coincidence? I think not.

Then mom lies low as so not to attract dads attention - she's afraid he'll shut off her access to his bank account like he's threatened before - for a couple of years. Soon though she gets restless, so what does she do? She starts having an affair. And in order to keep her new lover satisfied, she buys him things...american eagle hooded sweatshirts, a Wii and games, so on and so forth. Now she can't spend her money now can she? Oh no, that would attract dad's attention. So whose wallet does she raid this time? Mine! Over a hundred and some bucks to be deposited in my bank account the next day rested in my purse. Guess what I found the next morning? Absolutely nothing. Not even a penny was left. SO I tell dad and he refunds me. But does he do anything to her? A tongue lashing and slap on the wrist "I'll be watching you" basically, nothing more.

Now a wedding is a joyous affair right? In my eldest sisters case? Wrong! She married at 19 to get away from mom and out of the house. Her husband was nice enough but they never really knew each other when they married so the divorced, 4 years later. But the thing is, dad sent over his share of the wedding money, at least he said he did. Oh, I believe him, but I just don't think he has all the facts. He may have sent the money over, but whose account did her send it to? My sister's or the joint account shared by him and mom. You're smart people, I'll let you guess. If you said mother, you're right! So needless to say, sis never saw that money. And since she was only working at a music store in the mall at the time, she didn't have a lot of money to spare. Especially since mother had taken so much out - sis found out and changed her PIN, mom was furious! Anyway, she had to pay for mostly everything, her dress, the bridal party dresses, etc. The only thing the grooms parent's took care of was the church and the groom's party, including groom. So she didn't have that much to spare, she ended up with a dress she hated, flowers she didn't want, a cake she wasn't fond of, and no choice in the music played. Every girl's dream, no?

Now, then, my older sister follows in my eldest sisters steps and moves out - though she moved in with her boyfriend's sister and her friend, leaving me alone with her. Joy! However, she gets tired of hanging around the house with me and decides to move out. Takes most of her stuff and just disappears, dad was beyond mad.

She plays this game for a couple months: move in, move out, move in, move out. And each time she leaves she always has an excuse: "My psychiatrist told me to take some personal time away from the family and just stay with friends." "I need space to clear my head." "It's not you, it's me!" "My life is messed up and I need to be alone to set it right".

Now fast forward two years to the present. Mother leaves again, only we've moved. So not only does she leave, she leaves for a whole new state. Now she's back again after a month. She came bearing gifts and thinks that makes up for everything she's done.

Can someone please offer me some advice on how to deal with her?

Your mom's quite a number. XD

I wouldn't want to be near her if I were in your place.

But for the mean time? Just be civil.

And be wary of your belongings.

Forgiveness and getting along wouldn't be anytime near though.

At least try to feel comfy or just live with it for now.

But don't ask if she's going anytime soon.

Just...let her be. Without going over her bounds all over again.

No matter how old you are, YOU ARE ENTITLED TO THEM. =w=

You know, bounds and all.

How aware if your dad of all this?

Ah, your mother reminds me of mine. Nickname and all. Only my father steps aside and lets my mom do what she does with out doing anything....

And your mom moves in and out, mine just sits there and complains and bitches...heh.

That aside. I'm going to tell you what you aren't going to hear, but I bet you already know the truth anyways.

Try to avoid your mom as much as possible, let what she says go in one ear and out the other. Yeah she is your mother, but she doesn't sound pleasant at all.

Keep a close watch on items that you have that mean a lot to you, try going out and getting a lock box, and hiding it in your closet, like AWAY from everything. (It works! Trust me! :) )

Other than that...I'm not sure what to say. Besides don't kill her, I know the thought might cross your mind, but just don't. Lol. Sorry had to make some kind of joke to lighten the mood. Anyways.

Cheer up hon. Things will get better. Maybe not now....but....soon; also do what I did. Keep it as a learning experience, and when you get married, have children; or whatever. Be determined not to be like her.

That mind set also helps you not go insane. Lol. Loud music, poetry, anything that makes you vent is also a good thing to consider doing.

I hope things get better for you! I am sorry they are so horrible right now. :(

Sorry best advice I can give for 3am lol.

...Wow, your mom really does remind me of my mom.. :c
My mom pretty much screwed up my life, and I am really sorry for what is happening to you.. Though, my mom never stole money from us- she stole us from my dad! (I have two sisters.) My mom cheated with a perverted (I think he's oh-so-much-more than a pervert, too, if you know what I mean..) man for a couple of years behind my dad's back, and by the time I was four years old, she left my dad for the pervert and moved into an apartment with him. lucky for us, she took dad to court and cried and lied her whole way through, winning the prize money- aka me and my sisters and my dad's life savings for us. I don't even know why she wanted us. She didn't have enough money to buy us clothes and everything. She just wasted her money on pot and useless crap. In fact, the only REAL toys I had while living with her was a stuffed bunny and old McDonald toys. >3>;
After years of nonsense and 'abuse' from my mom and the guy she cheated on dad with, my dad finally got custody of us and we were free from the arms of hell, so to speak. I'm glad my dad was a good man, though, because if he hadn't threatened that freak at the right time, I know for fact that we would've been dead by now. -floats away-

Really, I don't know what you'd be able to do either than keep on telling your dad to just give up on her and stop letting her come back, only to use you guys, and do the smart thing and not just move out with a guy just to get away, because that obviously isn't the smartest thing to do. Just try to meet a guy that you can trust and even marry, or move out on your own. (But make sure you get a safe place to live, lol.) My dad was smart and did the right thing after realizing she was just using us after moving back in three times. The last time she moved back in was five years ago, and she left a week after to go back to that guy that she first cheated on dad with. That is when my dad said, 'that's it!' and closed the doors on her. Unless a miracle happens, she most likely won't change.. (my mom as proof lol)

(Lol, I think I sort of added a rant into all of this. Sorry, I haven't talked about this in such a long time, I got frustrated. xD;;;;