So first off, When it comes to love, I am very strict on the word. I think some people my age use it to often. (I am 16) But there is this one boy, that I have known my entire life. His name is Brahm. My mother and His father went to middle school and high school together, (in the same school im in now) and were best friends, the entire time. So when brahm and I were born, we were destined to be close. When we were about 10 years old, we had those little kid crushes on eachother, and eventualy started dating, and have been off and on since then. His and my family have always been close to eachother. his mom and dad, were like my second. we recently started dating again, It was all going perfect, untill.. Well let me start by saying my mother passed, September, 29th 2008. well, his grandfather (who I consider mine) passed on that day this year. So out of love, brahm and I went up to see his grandmother, who now bumped her head, and got put in a coma. She passed later on, and both of us went to the funeral, I spent a week out of school. I love brahm, With all my heart, and It kills me to see him this way, I mean I was there when my mother died, I know how painful these things can be. I just don't know what to do, he is going through the depression, so I try and get him out of the house, But we live an hour car ride away from eachother. I really need some help or advice any of you could give on dealing with things like these. All I want is the best for him, but he won't let me in. Should I wait it out or something? I apreciate your reading this. - Rachael.

What do you mean by he won't let you in?
And also, if this is what you believe, I would let him know that you have plans to stay by his side, and you're sorry that he has a loss but that he also has people there with whom he can be happy. That he can take things at his own pace but that you want to be there for him in whatever way you can. Did his grandpa feel like your family too? I don't know how well you knew his grandpa.

hmm. the thing i always use, is just sit next to him. dont say a word. just sit there and wait. If he says anything, work it out with him, if he collapses into your arms or lap, just wait and comfort him but dont say too much.

if that doesnt work just let him come to you, he will eventually need someone to talk to. He'll come around. If he doesnt, be the best friend you can. but dont force anything out of him.

best of luck my dear:)

Grief takes time to pass and the scars to heal.
I lost both my parents before the age of 15. I'm 19 now, and I still cry over the mistakes I made before they passed, and how I wish I'd tried to spend more time with them, even though they were abusive assholes. They were my parents, and loss hurts.

Be there for him by literally just being there. Tell him you love him, be nice to him, if he needs help, help him. That's the best thing you could do for him.

I agree with the given advices of strange_dreams_512, LoveAria, monstahh`..all you have to do is just to be with him. He is still in that kind of shock situation where in, everything were still fresh especially when the person died is important to him.

your being brutal wacko9001:feesh:
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