whats wrong with brother? if you mind me asking

he's annoying, stays too long, eats all our food, thinks he has to discipline our children, hogs the TV, hogs my hubby, thinks he has to be the center of attention. :P

besides all that, i'm sick and don't feel like messing with him. hubby has to work tomorrow and i don't feel like being alone with this dude. i shouldn't have to spend time with HUBBY"S brother without hubby!! :angry:

yea that dude needs to go if it was me i would have beeen kicked him out if i had to i would even call the police to take him out

if hubby gets mad at me i'd ask him or me XD

i'm about to. it's his brother or me now... even his dad has told him that.

wow so where is he now still there?

yes he's still here. looks like he's gonna stay the night again. :cry: i am sick and tired of him.

i brought home a game to play hubby and guess what. they are playing it. :( it's like they think this is their bachelor pad or something.

guess the boys and i are going to watch a movie on my laptop. not like there's anything else we could do. :P talk to you later!! :hug:

poor llon and okay bai

or not my laptop is too slow. not sure what's wrong with it.

you look ready for a sleep over, llonka.

did he get sent home when your husband went to work this morning llonka?
i sure hope so.
i know i feel sick since yesterday and i would not want to be 'entertaining' a relative right now.
i hope you are feeling better today and bro-invaderless!

hummy: hubby finally took him home about 10:30 pm last night. i went with them, wanted to my foot in his butt when he got out of the van... lol. so we came home and got the boys to bed. tried to talk to hubby about how i feel about this whole thing and he ignored me. so this morning we got up and jacob wanted to wear his halloween costume. i told him no because if he tears it up he's not gonna have anything to wear when we do go trick or treating. so he started to get mad and cried for aaron. oooooh that pissed me off. i went off and started yelling all the feelings i have had stuck inside since friday. i made jacob cry. and i cried. i'm still bitter about it all. i want hubby to talk to me and know how he is making me feel. you know i spent all day in bed yesterday, and they made the house a mess, made a whole sink full of dishes and didn't clean anything. it's like they expect me to clean up after them. i feel like when aaron is over hubby and him think I am their maid and chef. i dunno but when his ugly face shows up at the door again.... i'm gonna tell him where to go. cuz you know hubby won't be here to hear me. you know, i like him too, but he's has outstayed his welcome and i'm tired of taking care of him. *takes a deep breath*

i would just let the dishes pile up and wash some for you and the boys.
when your husband has the nerve to complain tell him you were sick and didn't make this mess.
and if he continues to put his brother and playing like he doesn't have a wife then he can clean up his and brother's messes himself!
seriously if you do the maid and chef thing then they will always expect it.
and if it comes down to it you should at least speak with your brother-in-law over the phone and tell him how you feel.
being the disiplinarian and maid and chef and never being able to be the loving wife and mother is b&&&crap.
and if he keeps ignoring your feelings i would call your father-in-law.
because he knows how a marriage can go south!

you are so right hummy:!!! his dad does know!! i listened to some of their convo on the phone yesterday and his dad told him, "you have a good woman, don't screw it up!" and hubby could say was, uh huh. *shakes head* i don't think hubby heard anything his dad told him.

i know they will always expect it. it doesn't bother that hubby and the boys dirty the dishes and leave them, but when aaron is here and i'm sick.... they could have washed them last night. they had plenty of time. but they'd rather play games and have fun.

hope you are feeling better. :hug:

aw i wish he had listened to his father.
it really stinks to be taken advantage of by his brother llonka.
i would feel so guilty making and leaving a mess knowing you are sick.
maybe you can talk to your husband at lunchtime today?
but on the other hand sweetie he is at home playing around with his brother and video games
and not out drinking and playing around with someone else.
so.....
i think keeping his brother out of the house except on like friday would be a good compromise.

i ate a little bit so i feel a tiny bit better.
it's just an awful cycle when i don't eat on time i tend to be sick for days and have a problem eating even if i am starving.

yeah i think if limited it to like one day a week and he can't stay over. if came over for a couple hours then left then i'd be fine. hubby came home for lunch, and he's got the tummy troubles too. poor guy has the same thing i do. he just won't stop and let me know though. i bet he was feeling yucky yesterday too and just didn't say anything, and i bet he wanted to take a nap with me all day. :(

awww well you need to eat!!! make you should make an eating schedule and stick to it?

*comes in and falls asleep on thread floor all curled up in a ball*

-Tosses a warm quilt over Terrena and quickly goes back to lurking the thread-

*stuffs a pillow under terrena's head* there you go....

so we kinda talked about his brother tonight. he didn't really get my point though. i still think if the boy wants out of his mom's house he should get his own place. :/

hmmmph its been five hours.... so hubby and i had a good night last night. ;) i said "isn't this better than spending time with your brother?" and he said uh huh. lol. seriously though if that and when that boy shows up i'm gonna tell him he can't be coming over like that anymore. puts our relationship in too much of a strain. :P


so what you all doing today?

llonka since you're sick you should really just cough and hack all over his stuff. Just be completely rude and piggish and he might get disgusted. Then as soon as he leaves you can clean up... lol

haha i did get him sick... :lol: or kaleb did.... but yeah. next time he comes over i'm gonna tell him how it's gonna be. no more staying the night, can only come over when jeremy is home, no more playing with the boys like he does. and when i am talking to jeremy he is to not interrupt me. and not everything is for him, and not everyone is talking to him. hmmppphh!!! but when he does show up i'm gonna tell him he can't stay. he has to leave muhahahahaha!!!

Is there any particular reason why he crashes with you guys anyway? xD
I'd definitely have him looking into buying or renting his own place. Independence is a great thing.

(Even though I only live a block away from my parent's house...)

Originally Posted by llonka

haha i did get him sick... :lol: or kaleb did.... but yeah. next time he comes over i'm gonna tell him how it's gonna be. no more staying the night, can only come over when jeremy is home, no more playing with the boys like he does. and when i am talking to jeremy he is to not interrupt me. and not everything is for him, and not everyone is talking to him. hmmppphh!!! but when he does show up i'm gonna tell him he can't stay. he has to leave muhahahahaha!!!

yes you tell him!
and make sure you tell him no complaining to your husband either.
you two are married and he is not your child nor is he your childrens father!
tell him to make some of his own children then spoil them rotten and ignore his wife and see how long that lasts!

are you feeling better llonka sweetie?

LillianFaye: i guess he comes over here because he is "bored" or his mom house is "too dirty" to me that says it's time for him to grow up and get his own life instead of invading in ours. i agree, it's great being on you own!

hummy: don't have a fever, but my tummy is still upset and i still have this awful cold. i feel like i'm trying to cough up a lung!

i thought about sending him a message and saying i don't think you should come over for awhile until we are over this cold. maybe he get a hint?

i think you cannot be sublte with him llonka.
just tell him out right that he cannot come over uninvited, period.
it's putting your marriage and your relationship with your boys in harmsway.
if he cannot abide by your decision then he cannot come over at all.
put your foot down and if he has the nerfve to complain to your husand call his step-father and beg for help.