Fuu-Chan, ah okay I see. I wonder she is lonely there without her family nearby and only able to visit on the weekends.

I agree with Miro.

I am shorter than average and don't have a big chest, so whatever I wear looks relatively modest as a result.

Originally Posted by M i r o

Modest? I mean, if you have a chest then clothes aren't exactly going to be modest xD
Especially if you have a booty!

I like skirts/dresses above my knees or to my knees as well. I don't see anything wrong in that, which leaves no argument for him/them to degrade you. If it helps your self-esteem and your well-being then they should support you and stop trying to forbid you wearing modern clothing.

I understand what you went through with school.
I only wore t-shirts, shorts ' n ' things that really didn't show off my body figure because I was self-conscious.

I actually had the school board literally tell me I couldn't wear short skirts because it was inappropriate for me. I wanted to start dressing cute myself and wore a medium-sized black skirt to school one day but since I got a more developed body than the other middle school kids - they said it wasn't right for me. My mom had to go in to meet the school board and told them off because they didn't enforce it on the other girls since their parents funded the school.

eh, long dresses aren't all that pretty anyway unless they're like ball-gowns.
I like short dresses myself and if you have the body to wear'em then wear'em.

Congrats on your skin! I'm happy for you

If they were any kind of family, they'd be happy for your improved confidence in yourself. But it seems they have a old-fashioned view of family? If he can move his legs and arms, he can very well do his own laundry. You're definitely not his maid nor born to be one.

I'm sorry you have to deal with that kind of poop.

I don't really have a bust or a booty. I am an extra small in clothes in everything. Hardly ever stores have my size in jeans which is why I just stopped and started to buy dresses and skirts only. Even online my size is always sold out.

Plus, I almost never don't wear tights with them.
I get embarrassed when I forget small spots I didn't see I shaved.
Like in the shower you are like "YES I GOT IT ALL"
Next day. "NOOOOO I MISSED A SPOT."
Happens to me all the time. x. x
I agree. And my clothes aren't revealing that much. Plus, there isn't much to show. I am a tall gangiy girl. And some clothes I outgrew due to my height but even those that aren't long he thinks they should be longer -__-
It's almost not worth buying new clothes if you ask me.
the only things I can think of buying is yoga pants, jeggings and that's about it. ._.

You did better than me.
I couldn't even wear a t-shirt. I always wore a jacket or hoodie.
Even in gym class. I also am sure I have an extra sweat gland or my hormones are unbalanced. I sweat like a man essentially. At the time in Elementary when I noticed it, I felt like such a freak. So I hid behind my hoodies and jackets.

I still have that issue but i use a natural DEO. It helps sort of.
I recently bought a sports one. It's a guys one but idc. As long as it keeps me from smelling like a taco.

Wow that is BS. The school code for ours was no flip flops which is understandable because someone can step on it and you can injure yourself. But you couldn't wear thin strapped tops. Um..my shoulders aren't a sexual object. It's a shoulder .__. And yet guys can wear tank tops and everything. It's even worse now at schools then when I was going. So glad I got out while I could. Now I go to GED classes and I can wear ANYTHING.

Like I feel I can't wear long dresses unless I have to attend some kind of event.
Like graduation, someone getting married, etc. But on a regular day when the sun is out and all you are going to is for example my classes? Um..No. Short dresses will do. And they aren't that short.

Thank you! I am so happy about it. When I saw it was practically gone I was like "WHOA..I CAN WEAR T-SHIRTS AGAIN!"

My family is a bunch of Racist, Hypocrites, Judgemental, sexist dumb asses.
Though from my grandma's sister's side they are cool. Like one of my relatives is a fire fighter. And she is super nice. So are her kids and her brother. Who is pretty tall. I am like half his height. He is like..7 feet. XD But still this side of the family is just ugh..they give me a headache. the only one who doesn't is my sister.

I kinda wish i took the offer my aunt gave me a couple years ago of living with her. I'm such an idiot. -hits head on a sofa-

Yeah. It's driving me mad honestly. I have to bite my tongue and push through it. But sometimes it's brought me close to tears because it's like they are saying "Your body is hideous. You should hide it."

Originally Posted by salvete

Fuu-Chan, ah okay I see. I wonder she is lonely there without her family nearby and only able to visit on the weekends.

I agree with Miro.

I am shorter than average and don't have a big chest, so whatever I wear looks relatively modest as a result.

Of course she does.
And her meds sometimes makes her think she is living there temporarily and that of course really breaks my heart.

But she has made friends there.
Her roommate is nice. Though she has some kind of cancer.
And of course my dad doesn't like her because of her religion. e. e
She is christian. I am just like "You are seriously going to not like a person who is kind hearted and sweet just because of their religion?" ._.

If she is nice to my mom, I like her.
She has not been treated the best in that nursing home. Or even the hospital..

I seriously fear that they will kill her before I even get married so she wont even be alive when I get married finally. u. u

I have a petite body. I didn't get bewbs till I was 18-19 years old.
I don't have a booty. Like at all. It's all flat.
But I have an elegant neck and hands people have told me.

Fuu-Chan - wow, I was lucky none of the schools I attended had a dress code. Well actually...there was one I attended that did, but I left after a year to do greater things.

The high school I transferred to didn't have a dress code at all. And I'm talking about people of all genders coming into school in spaghetti straps, tank tops, swim shorts, short skirts, tube tops without being judged or restricted. Well I should mention that this was a school "for the gifted" or something along those lines. And the lack of dress code at this school didn't distract us from achieving high grades and test scores and getting accepted to the top colleges in the nation.

You can probably tell what my opinion on dress codes is, based on what I said above, haha

Would your aunt still be open to having you (and possibly your sister) live with her?

Sorry to hear about your mom and her roommate <3

But your dad dislikes her just because she is Christian? You should show him this link: https://www.jw.org/en/jehovahs-witne...es-christians/ This is THE Jehovah's Witnesses website, which specifically says that Jehovah's Witnesses are Christian...

Oohh elegant neck and hands! That's wonderful

Originally Posted by salvete

Fuu-Chan, ah okay I see. I wonder she is lonely there without her family nearby and only able to visit on the weekends.

I agree with Miro.

I am shorter than average and don't have a big chest, so whatever I wear looks relatively modest as a result.

are you 4ft, salvy?
I'm 5ft 3in xD

I think that is a life saver to not have one.
When I hide mine, it looks like I am smuggling a cat underneath my clothes.

Especially hoodies. I wore boy hoodies vs girl hoodies because they make them so form fitting.

Originally Posted by Fuu-Chan

I don't really have a bust or a booty. I am an extra small in clothes in everything. Hardly ever stores have my size in jeans which is why I just stopped and started to buy dresses and skirts only. Even online my size is always sold out.

Plus, I almost never don't wear tights with them.
I get embarrassed when I forget small spots I didn't see I shaved.
Like in the shower you are like "YES I GOT IT ALL"
Next day. "NOOOOO I MISSED A SPOT."
Happens to me all the time. x. x
I agree. And my clothes aren't revealing that much. Plus, there isn't much to show. I am a tall gangiy girl. And some clothes I outgrew due to my height but even those that aren't long he thinks they should be longer -__-
It's almost not worth buying new clothes if you ask me.
the only things I can think of buying is yoga pants, jeggings and that's about it. ._.

You did better than me.
I couldn't even wear a t-shirt. I always wore a jacket or hoodie.
Even in gym class. I also am sure I have an extra sweat gland or my hormones are unbalanced. I sweat like a man essentially. At the time in Elementary when I noticed it, I felt like such a freak. So I hid behind my hoodies and jackets.

I still have that issue but i use a natural DEO. It helps sort of.
I recently bought a sports one. It's a guys one but idc. As long as it keeps me from smelling like a taco.

Wow that is BS. The school code for ours was no flip flops which is understandable because someone can step on it and you can injure yourself. But you couldn't wear thin strapped tops. Um..my shoulders aren't a sexual object. It's a shoulder .__. And yet guys can wear tank tops and everything. It's even worse now at schools then when I was going. So glad I got out while I could. Now I go to GED classes and I can wear ANYTHING.

Like I feel I can't wear long dresses unless I have to attend some kind of event.
Like graduation, someone getting married, etc. But on a regular day when the sun is out and all you are going to is for example my classes? Um..No. Short dresses will do. And they aren't that short.

Thank you! I am so happy about it. When I saw it was practically gone I was like "WHOA..I CAN WEAR T-SHIRTS AGAIN!"

My family is a bunch of Racist, Hypocrites, Judgemental, sexist dumb asses.
Though from my grandma's sister's side they are cool. Like one of my relatives is a fire fighter. And she is super nice. So are her kids and her brother. Who is pretty tall. I am like half his height. He is like..7 feet. XD But still this side of the family is just ugh..they give me a headache. the only one who doesn't is my sister.

I kinda wish i took the offer my aunt gave me a couple years ago of living with her. I'm such an idiot. -hits head on a sofa-

Yeah. It's driving me mad honestly. I have to bite my tongue and push through it. But sometimes it's brought me close to tears because it's like they are saying "Your body is hideous. You should hide it."

Ohhh, then you have a models body! There you go!

You should wear anything and everything you want.
Especially the cute clothes that's usually only made in smalls.

I actually have to buy my clothes online because the things I want in the size I need is never in stock.
Especially bras - 38Cs go fast. I prefer online shopping vs in store because I can double up on online promotional codes, lol

Aww, don't worry about that! You're not alone :P

I miss spots shaving my arms/legs too.
Kinda helps if you have a portable electronic shaver jic.

pfff, tall means you have more to show off limb wise.
There's a lot of things short peeps like me can't pull off that tall girls do well.

Are you still growing???
That would be hard to keep up with, especially since its a lot of $$$ to invest.

I stopped growing by 5-6th grade

well, it was more of my brother putting me down 24/7 vs classmates.

I dressed more like a boy vs girl. I wore boy t-shirts @hottopic and hoodies (mostly took them from my brother, which pissed him off). lmao He'd have to hide his clothes in his bedroom. With him, he'd always call me a ugly/retard/fat (even though I wasn't)/dyke (because I took his clothes and I liked those pixie-cuts) and told me off for not dressing like a girl or wearing make-up. He also liked to inform me that I never had friends when I did. And when I told him, he'd tell me they're just as fat/weird/retarded like I am when neither of us were.

The male classmates I had were mostly mad at how fair/light my skin is, the way I dressed and how high my voice is. I had some female classmates throw a hissy-fit about my chest being Cs with a average frame and the rumor floated around that I stuffed my bra. :/

So, I took one of my mothers V cut shirts and wore it to school the following Monday and bent over in front of the girls telling them my name and I don't stuff my bra. When I did finally started wearing girly-clothes it surprised my male classmates. One of them came up to me and hugged me saying: "You finally dress like a girl!"

But I started to become outspoken and treated them like the assholes they were and they left me alone. I never had any troubles with school fights or what-nots that was going on. Kinda a miracle cause the brutally honest thing can go 2 ways, lol

Before that, my moms mom always lifted up my shirt and told my mom I wasn't eating enough.
Might've been where my eating habits became dysfunctional, idk.

We just all experience hate in various ways.
Makes life so much fun!

aw, I think that's because you have a faster metabolism? My mom is like that too.

LOL taco - that is the best description of it.
as long as you wear deodorant 24/7, it prevents that smell

is secret too weak for you???
I used to like the lavender smell but now I love romantic rose <3

ahh, but boys are more fermented taco + stale pee.
If they don't brush their tongue, then they have cow-pooh breath. So taco + stale pee + cow-pooh is a deadly combo.

Yes. No flip-flops? That's a first. I would think it'd be only enforced because of driving. It took forever for my school to push a dress-code where girls cannot wear V cut shirts, shirt hem has to be at the waist, skirts have to be finger-tip length, no holes in pants and definitely no pants falling off butts (I've seen so many boxers/tighty white-ys...)

But tank-tops have always been a no-no in my school. No boy/girl can wear'em.
Underneath your clothes, yes. Just plain, then no.

It's the curvature of your shoulders that has sex appeal. The shape of a body is sexual attraction, even bare skin (depending from person-to-person). But to just deny girls from wearing'em is definitely one-sided.

pff, if its summer then screw long dresses def. xDD They have handkerchief looking long dresses now, though. They're more windy/thin and seem okay. I can't wear'em since they'd look like a parachute on me.

Short dresses are always a win! I really love getting baby-doll dresses <3 The ones that don't make you look pregnant, at least. There are some that give you a baby bump silhouette, which isn't flattering unless you are pregnant.

You're welcome!
I understand the frustration with skin blemishes.

Oh... that's a lovely bundle of joy wrapped up in a family bow. > w >;;
Every family has a dysfunctional bundle they wish they could replace.

amg... 7ft??? I've never met anyone that tall.
My sweetheart is 6ft 4in and I use him like a jungle gym XD *evil*

it wasn't a one time offer with your aunt, was it?
that would be really good for you to move away for your well being.

Originally Posted by M i r o

are you 4ft, salvy?
I'm 5ft 3in xD

LOL I am not THAT short :P

I'm 5'5" and I have a big enough chest that if I don't wear a bra it's very obvious because the droop is something serious. xD But, seriously, I'm only like a B cup so clothes don't usually look too revealing on me.

My problem is that I don't wear bras and sometimes it's obvious because my boobs do sag a bit. My mom makes fun of me by saying I look like a grandma.

I don't really care. I either wear no bra or a sports bra. I've been braless since I was 16, but my boobs were a lot smaller when I was 16 so I could pull it off back then. x.x

For some reason I'm really self conscious about my arms... I have self harm scars from my wrists to my shoulders and a lot of them are keloid so they are hard to ignore, so I always wear jackets and hoodies even in the summer. On a rare, hot day I might wear a short sleeved shirt, but jackets and hoodies, even long sleeve tees are my salvation. xD

I am smaller than you, Ava the Vampire; I can wear a lot of clothing without a bra, but it would be obvious only in the case of not having that round bra shape to it

I also have keloid scars! from acne that I used to get a lot of. That was before I did accutane and voila! no more pimples ever again!

Yeah I think that's why I can't completely get away with going without a bra without it being noticed. Because my boobs don't look perfectly round like a bra makes them look.

I used to have really bad acne too! But I think it was just from teen hormones because literally one day in high school it all just stopped and I never had acne again. xD
I'm glad accutane worked! Is it like Clinique? Or Proactiv?

Oh no, accutane is a lot more serious. I tried Clinique, Proactiv, etc. but they didn't work for me at all even though I wish they did. Accutane is a prescription pill that you have to take for several months. Before getting approved for it, they have to make sure your cholesterol is okay, you're not pregnant, et cetera. And there are varying degrees of side effects that people have experienced from it. I experienced some side effects like extremely fragile skin that I literally couldn't scratch, or the skin would just peel off. And really bad eczema and rashes. But that all stopped after I finished taking accutane.

Woah! That sounds hardcore. I've never heard of accutane before. :o
That's really cool, I didn't know they made pills for acne!

I'm glad it worked, too!
It sounds like it must've been scary to have such fragile skin.

Yup it is pretty hardcore, haha. Well accutane is the first one they made, which I think was banned or something...I forget. But you know how when one drug company makes some medication, other companies will try to make the same thing in a slightly different way? The Wandering Poet: might be able to share some insight into this. Anyway, I used something that was like accutane, but not exactly like it.

Yup although it was not so much scary as just plain painful and itchy!

I've vaguely heard of Accutane. Reading up on it I think it is the medication I think it is. You don't want to know what I know... just sayin there was a reason it was recalled. That stuff is like chemo-drug level volatile.

Hey everybody. How are you all doing? I hope you are all ding well. I am doing alright. It's April and we have snow on the ground. Snow. It's a travesty.

You got snow? :( We got nothing this year

Oh wow! No snow here, Kirin Rosenbaum. You'd think it would be springtime weather already, but still very chilly!

Did you all see Knerd's post ^_^ that there haven't been big events lately due to people being busy, but that Menewsha is alive and well, and they have some things in the works for us!

I think we are done with snow here!

It snowed two days ago, but it's all done now because the weather is sunny and nice out! It snowed while sunny a week ago, though. So weird. x.x

My oldest daughter would love it it snowed again here, she LOVES the snow. I have a strange kid.

music hangout? I'm game for this. even though my head is pounding and it's probably a bad idea at this very moment. lol

Why don't you lay down a little while, Shadami? :)

because i have to be active. and laying down would be not being active? i like keeping my hands busy.

Hmm. Maybe you can lay down with a laptop on your chest? :D
I'm concerned about your head!

Originally Posted by salvete

LOL I am not THAT short :P

you said shorter than average!!
i think 5ft is average?

My mom said it was 5'6" but I think 5ft is the marker since there are a lot of 4ft women.

Originally Posted by Ava The Vampire

I'm 5'5" and I have a big enough chest that if I don't wear a bra it's very obvious because the droop is something serious. xD But, seriously, I'm only like a B cup so clothes don't usually look too revealing on me.

My problem is that I don't wear bras and sometimes it's obvious because my boobs do sag a bit. My mom makes fun of me by saying I look like a grandma.

I don't really care. I either wear no bra or a sports bra. I've been braless since I was 16, but my boobs were a lot smaller when I was 16 so I could pull it off back then. x.x

For some reason I'm really self conscious about my arms... I have self harm scars from my wrists to my shoulders and a lot of them are keloid so they are hard to ignore, so I always wear jackets and hoodies even in the summer. On a rare, hot day I might wear a short sleeved shirt, but jackets and hoodies, even long sleeve tees are my salvation. xD

ahh, its bad to let them go if they are big.
They will end up sliding into your armpits before long because they lose their support xD;;

Once I started wearing bras, I never stopped.
I wear them 24/7 besides taking a shower.

Even for exercising, I have 2 that are exercising bras.
I don't like sports bras because they aren't good supports at all.

ah, have you tried some scar removals on them (the scars)?
there are few of them that really fade'em out.

I've never heard of keloid before but I'm sorry you have to deal with that.
I had to google to understand it

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@* shasha ; it'd be good to not stare at a screen for awhile with your head hurting!
it just irritates it more and strains your eyeballs ):

I actually ended up going out to dinner with hubby and the girls. it was relaxing and furstrating cause the girls wanted to dance in the aisles, and we couldn't get them to understand that it was rude. and some nasty stuck up chick yanked her food away from the aisle and slid into her bench more like they were going to take it or hit it. (they didn't get within 3 feet of her)

but my headache hasn't gone away. its just a normal annoying migraine.

Bras are evil.... and necessary for me. I HATE my boobs . so much. i have not found the right bra. the bra i've got on now the straps are annoyingme , and i swear they didn't do that when i got the bra a year ago.

They are evil... I don't know much about them, but the thick ones feel really weird to hug someone wearing them. I can always feel them and it's awkward as heck.

Mine are not thick. But the ones for breastfeeding. holy heck are those things thick and hot. and they're "sports bras" icky. I need to go bra shopping so bad.