My boyfriend and I are very close now. He is so sweet and very funny but shy. I'm the complete oppisite of shy. He gets a little nervous when we kiss in front of his friends. It's not that he is embarresed to kiss me but he's nervous that he would do something wrong to make his friends laugh. I on the other hand are comfortable kissing him anywhere. There are many other ways that we are oppisite but I'm not in the mood to write:P. Is it true that oppisites attract??

Not really. xD
If you were true opposites, you'd have nothing in common and wouldn't like each other. But if you were exactly the same, you'd get bored of each other. A nice balance is necessary.

Glad you found a good guy. And don't worry about him not wanting to kiss in front of his friends... I find it a little weird to kiss in front of friends too. Don't want to make them feel awkward, y'know?

Thanks I'm kind of getting the idea better now.

As Fabby said, there have to be at least a few common things or you wouldn't like each other in the first place ;)

It's true to a degree. I used to be rather shy and uncertain, my boyfriend is very social. He dragged me out of my dark little corner and helped me develop my confidence ^^

yeah. its good to have somethings in common. and some differences.
my boyfriend and i have a lot of similarities its scary. but we have enough differences where we balance each other out.
with us, i was a little bit more social than he is. i somehow got him to be more comfortable with doing things like going out and hanging out with some friends from school.

my boyfriend and I are physically different (not just the fact that he's male and I'm female) and somewhat when it comes to personality and what we like to do for fun, but we have enough similarities that we aren't bored out of our skulls with each other... there has to be a balance or some similarities and some differences ... or you'd be attracted to yourself XD not that there's anything bad with that but... then you'd be all alone T.T

my boyfriend is a six foot tall white male with blue eyes and brownish blondish hair and I'm a five foot short asian female with brown eyes and black hair ... growing up we were both nerds XD... we both still kind of are xD... but um... well, he has a temper and I'm pretty calm... sometimes we both like watching educational programs lol and there's a bunch of other things but then I'd have to really think about it and we're not really at that point anymore... we've been together for more than 7 years lmao... so... yea... opposites can attract, but not in every relationship >_>

Hello there. ;D

The Life Issues forum is for asking others about advice on everyday problems and dealings. This topic seems to be better suited for the General Discussion forum. So i'll be moving it now.

I don't believe that opposites attract. You have to have something in common otherwise you'd disagree about everything and a relationship where you're disagreeing constantly wouldn't work out. Dating someone exactly like you would be creepy though.

I think that they can for some part. If you have to much in common, it would get to dull. I think you need enough in common to be able to get along, and find some attraction in each other, but enough differences to keep you interested.

It's true to a certain extent. My husband and I both enjoy a lot of the same things. In fact, our interests are almost exactly identical. Personality wise, I suppose we aren't to much alike though. He's the more dominant personality while I'm a bit of an oddball. He's serious while I tend to be childish, and he's always prepared while I'm always flighty and forgetting things.

My best friend and I were pretty much complete opposites (until she became gay and ran off with her other best friend XP Which makes another thing that's completely opposite of me) and we don't see eachother anymore. I think with couples,, you need to be alike more than you are different, but you need to have some difference in there to juice up your relationship lol.

The thing about opposites is that sometimes the opposite in another person tends to be a complimenting factor to the other person. For example, if you have a talkative, outgoing person who is dating a shy and introverted person, the introverted person can become more open, while the extrovert can learn to be more introverted. It creates a good sense of balance.

This is something I like to do with my characters. I give them a close relationship, romantic or not, that helps to compliment or ground their personality traits.

But... of course, you're not going to be fully attracted to someone if you're complete opposites. There has to be some kind of common ground there. Otherwise it's not going to last very long.

There are true extremes with opposites. Either the two end up loving each other or becoming the best of friends, or they annoy the snot out of each other. It really just depends on the types of opposites.
My ex and I were considerably opposite. I was laid-back about everything, and he worried very easily. At first we found this cute in each other... after a while, I would end up telling him that he needed to lighten up, and he would complain about how I never took anything serious enough. =]

No couples are completely opposite, otherwise they tend to fall apart very easily. You have some things in common with him I'm sure, otherwise you wouldn't be attracted to him.
Me and my bf have very little differences, and we get along very well. We never really used to back when we dated in high school, but we've both matured.

Well, I think my boyfriend and I are very different! We have our similarities but it seems like there's very little we feel the same about ^^"

For one thing, he is very mature. He has his silly moments here and there but its very controlled and me? I'm silly 24/7! i'm only serious when it comes to my studies? I live quite a carefree life or at least it seems that way to most people around me, I'm like this hyperactive person who is constantly drunk or something XD (iro calls me a 13 year old on crack!) But its okay, thats me! :) I don't even look my age anyways, Ppl mistake me for a 15 year old when i'm actually 21 >.<" So the way we behave is already completely opposite!

And religious beliefs? well, maybe some people may not find it important in a relationship. We don't but it still does count as a mjor difference between us! He's a very spiritual guy, very staunch in his beliefs towards God. I'm sort of an atheist, i would say. I don't mock God or anyone's beliefs but I just don't believe myself.

Interest wise, we share a common interest that got us together in the first place :) That is j-pop. Hahaha, but other stuff, we disagree a ot with each other, i'm not a car liker, not much into computer games, he doesn't really like my interests either... he's not really bothered with forumming and stuff. but we'e always at our computers...

He and I see things differently a lot. I guess its because our upbringing has been very different. Our standards on what is and what is not acceptable are questionable to each other and in most situations, we never end up agreeing. of course sometimes even stupid matters turn into arguments but we never really continued to fight about it. There are things he considers important and things i don't. Which is still a barrier between us of course... but we try to get things through to each other :)

I would have to say it is true that most couples are different but it just depends on how you can tolerate one another...

But if its just about attraction, I wouldn't know, i doubt I was attracted to my boyfriend simply because of the differences between us. He just fit most of the criteria I had for a guy :) And for attraction, it depends on what aperson finds attractive may it be different for his/herself or not ^^

Me and my boyfriend are somewhat different and somewhat similar. We both enjoy certain shows, but each with it's own genre and actors. We have differences that go beyond physical appearance. Our similarities help to balance out the differences and we have to make compromises to coerce together. So, in a nutshell, it's something that is hard to explain when you say "opposites attract".

I do think that opposites attract to a certain extent. I mean technically we ARE opposites, Male and Female... but that's not the point.

Opposites can attract because say a shy person dates a shy person. No one will get the conversation going. But say a shy person dates someone who's talkative. The talkative person and talk as much as they want and the shy person will be happy with listening to them.

Of course there are limits. I mean if a loving person dates a cheating person, that's never going to work out. The loving person will just keep getting hurt. If a mean person dates a nice person, the nice person will be hurt a lot.

I think there is a balance. You have to be %50 similar and %50 different. There's enough similarity to be together and enough differences to keep it going. Kinda of like a battery. One side is positive one is negative. They have to be the same type of battery but opposite charges. Boo yeah my metaphors rock!

Maybe for some people they do.
For me...opposites just annoy the hell out me, and I can't cope with them.
It's probably just me, though.

Hmm...sort of.
I mean I like guys who are out-going, but on the other hand i'm really shy ;-;
And guys who are shorter than me for some reason, but the guys that I like are all shorter than me, since they're not taller than me yet. xDD

My boyfriend and I are opposite in some ways and the same in others. I guess it is true that if we weren't opposite in one way, we wouldn't have started talking. I'm really shy so it helped that he's really outgoing and straightforward. But we like doing some of the same things too, so that helped hold us together. Maybe oppositeness is what causes the initial attraction and sameness is what keeps people together?