Marrying at a young age? Yeah, go ahead. You're probably going to end up divorced anyways, so why not?

While there is a limit, I do think marrying young is a good choice for some people. Some people are more mature then others. Sometimes they find the right person early so why not get married to them?. Divorce is a risk at any age.

Why does marriage even exist in the first place? Why can't the government just obliterate marriage and offer equal rights to all just because they are human? Why must you be married to obtain more rights that you aren't able to obtain while being single? Why make the difference? I know plenty of very successful single people who could use the benefits and plenty of very failing in life married people that waste the benefits given.

[QUOTE=Tutela de Xaoc;1766090723] Why must you be married to obtain more rights that you aren't able to obtain while being single? [QUOTE]

Now there is something I didn't think about. You know when you are married the police cannot sunpeona your husband or wife to testify against you? Actually a lot of criminals use this to their advantage and it's quite scary. So in fact a lot of people are marrying just for the legal advances.

Now I'm not saying that all young couples or all married couples are getting married on the sole purpose of legal safety. In fact many do not know about the rights that actually come with being married! But I'm sure that there are several who do. And in all honesty a lot of my friends have gotten married in secret and eloped to evade the local scrutiny. But I stick with what our country is built upon. Which is that it's a free country (I live in the US) and that anyone can do anything they want within the legal limit, this includes marriage.

In the bible times people married early because they died much earlier. I thought this was logical. They didn't have time to put off getting married. The longer your lifespan, the longer you can be a child, put off marriage, having children ( if these are your choices) and other life choices because you have a longer lifespan to do it in. In fact bearing children later is associated with a longer lifespan.

Originally Posted by Claudia

In the bible times people married early because they died much earlier. I thought this was logical. The longer your lifespan, the longer you can be a child, put off marriage, having children ( if these are your choices) and other life choices because you have a longer lifespan to do it in. In fact bearing children later is associated with a longer lifespan.

Are you referring to the OT or the NT?
Marriage is not necessary to have children. Marriage is a method of control and regulation to have people conform to certain views through it. The ability to bear children is completely dependent on when humans are physically able to and therefore has nothing to do with living longer, as if you'll notice, around 40-50 years old and higher women usually go through menopause, in which they no longer drop eggs and therefore usually no longer reproduce. I highly doubt that lifespan has anything to do with humans being able to procreate.

In the NT, people were also told to not get married at all if they could help it.

Originally Posted by Keyori

In the NT, people were also told to not get married at all if they could help it.

tis true, however I was going for the OT kick on which people almost lived a millenia :P

Touche Tutela.
I'm getting married soon, I'm 20, and I know if we had gotten married when we originally planned to, we'd be beyond miserable now

Choosing when to marry is a personal choice, and every person is ready at a different point in their life. For some, that age IS eighteen, though I do believe that marrying at such a young age is generally a bad choice.

A good friend of mine (who is 18) came to me just yesterday and told me that she is engaged to her on and off-again high school boyfriend who she has cheated on and broken up with several times. I do not believe that she is ready for such a commitment for, whatever one may believe marriage is, or where it began, it is a commitment.

I believe that a good option would be that (from the ages of 18 to 30) a couple should be required to go through some sort of marriage counseling, or waiting period before entering into the bond. The United States does not do this, but the countries that do have divorce rates ranging from 1-10% compared to the United States' 45.6%. I would gladly go through this if it were required of me.

I also believe that it is good for a couple to live together outside of the bonds of marriage. Couples that live together before marriage break up before said commitment for a good reason.

A good marriage is all about experience and the personalities/choices of the two people entering into the union.

I'm 20 and a newly wed. Married for a week now heh. I must say that I think it should be based upon the relationship between the two, and the maturaty levels. My husband and I had been together for half a year before we got engaged back in '08. We met in March, got engaged in November. Now alittle more than a year later, after taking the time to know eachother better, we decided that now was the right time to step up from engaged, to married. We have brought so much happiness into one anothers life that we just knew it was the right time. We weren't going to let stuff such as being told we're too young stop us from being happy. So, are you going to say that because I am 20 and he's 22 that we're too young to be married?

I'm 19. I was engaged when I was 18. I'm with the man of my dreams. I want to get married soon but I have to wait till we're both out of college. Everyone that I know doesn't like the fact that we're engaged. I have lost many friends because of it, but I don't care what they think. I'm happy, he's happy, we're happy together and that's all that matters.

I hope that doesn't sound to selfish.

I don't think that age is the core of this issue, but it certainly contributes. I think that younger folk tend to rush into commitment far more quickly than older. My parents were together for six years before marrying; my wedding will be shortly after four years in my relationship.

From Chicagoland Marriage Resource Center

The average age of a person in America when they get married is now about 26 years old. In general, the older a couple is, the greater the chance that their marriage will go the distance. According to the National Center for Health Statistics, 59% of first marriages between couples who are [25] years of age or younger end in divorce within the first 15 years, while only 35% of marriages between couples who get married at the age of 25 or older end in a divorce within that same time period. A few years makes a big difference.

[Though, this could be attributable to a generation gap]

When it came to success at the 13-year mark, the tortoises won out. According to Ted Huston, the study's lead investigator, "The more boring and deliberate the courtship, the better the prospects for a long marriage, I'm afraid. People who had very intense, Hollywood-type romances at the beginning were likely to have a big drop-off later on, and this often changed their view of the other's character." Apparently, slow and steady wins the race.

I also saw some statistics that basically said marrying before dating for at least a year yielded some much, much higher divorce rates than dating for a year or two, and waiting longer than 3 or 4 years would also yield higher divorce rates (though not as high as jumping into a marriage after only six months). I can't seem to find it though.

In any case, I think that since younger folk rush into marriage unprepared, they're more prone to divorce. If I had married after only one year, my marriage would be in trouble. My fiance and I didn't really have our first big fight until near the two-year mark. We've also had some serious conversations about children, and I think rushed relationships don't really consider that at all. Since children can really change the face of the marriage, I believe it's also a contributing factor.

getting married from 20 and below is like, "egh" to me. Oh well, it's their lives.
But I think people should LIVE their youth before getting married and all.
Marriage sometimes doesn't go so well, and then having to start that off when your supposed to be .. like.. having
fun with your friends. Well that just what I think, People could do as they please.
Where my parents come from, teen girls have to get married because they get pregnant.
And i see them now always in the house cleaning and they Look older then what they are D8

I would advise against marrying at a young age. If you're younger, you probably haven't had as much time together or as much previous relationship experience to decide if you're ready to get married yet. People change, and you'll meet other people. You just want to be really sure it's the right person because divorce sucks.

One of my best friends got married right after she turned 18, and she eventually dropped out of college...I can't help but wonder if she'd been living in the dorms, or if she hadn't been at such a settled-down place in life with someone who wasn't in college, if she would have stayed...they seem to be really happy, though, which is the important part.

That said, I do understand that some people meet their soulmates earlier in life, and some people are ready to settle down sooner than me. So I respect people's decisions to marry earlier, I just would advise against it if someone asked me if they should get married young or not.

getting into a marriage life is not easy that's were the part of life that you would want to scream aloud and want to jump off the 30th floor of a building it's when the most critical part moment of life... i could tell that though i'm not married yet at least that's what i have seen and observe to most of the people .... and marrying at a young age is definitely a no,no for me you need to be more matured and strong enough to face that next chapter of life ...

It depends on the situation but preferably, being married in an early age has a 50% of becoming a success in through out years. In my own opinion, being married at age of 20's is enough, i think...but to advice those younger ones....try to think a 100 times if you are really are prepared going to stage of being a married person.

I think it all depends on how devoted the couple are to eachother. I mean, as long as they're actually sat down and thought about the pros and cons of marriage, there isn't really a problem, is there ? I'm in love with a guy, we've talked about marriage. But, it's not just some kinda 'do-it-for-the-sake-of-it' thing for us, it's love. Like, superglueing us together. ^-^

I don't think most young couples even know the pros and cons. I don't think they even bother to find out about anything, because they're so star-struck in love that they think that all they need is love to keep a relationship going (hint: it's not).

I feel that you should mature and enjoy some life before being tied down. Sometimes it does work out but the overwhelming majority of the time it doesnt. But that is up to the individual.

only if it is dream come true or if it work out perfectly etc... or if you get alot of experience.